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Posted 3/19/17 at 9:15 PM | Brittney Moses
“Please don’t let this be another cliché ‘there’s purpose in your pain’ posts” you think, “because I’ve heard it everywhere and it’s becoming white noise. I know scripture. I can quote the usual inspiration in my sleep. But still I am gripped by my pain and this haze won’t go away, things aren’t getting better and this whole ‘having a purpose’ thing seems to be for everyone else but not me. Not like this.”
Between you and me, that’s real.
And this isn’t some 5-part how-to post with magical steps that will remove your experience or guarantee your deliverance by the end of it. That wouldn’t be honest.
But I can be fair enough to say that I get it. You’re not alone in this and you certainly don’t need to shame yourself for where you are. None of us are immune to the tribulations that come with our humanity, even Christians, and it’s time that we start embracing honesty so that we can experience true recovery. And that’s what I hope to offer you- honesty and understanding that will prayerfully lead to a real road of recovery. Because it’s the truth that sets us free. FULL POST
Posted 12/2/16 at 2:24 PM | Brittney Moses
You reminisce back on the days when you first came to Christ, and you were ready to do anything, anything for Him. You were ready to introduce everyone you encountered to your wonderful Savior King and every word from Him was liquid gold pouring into your soul. You were immersed in His Word. Hungry for Him. You could not get enough of Him. You poured out the incense of your life upon His feet. You spoke about Him all the time- every tweeting chance you got. And you didn’t care what the world thought about it because you were a new creation and there was no going back, ever.
Then time went by and you got used to your faith. Yes, used to it. Life and all its demands bombarded your faith. You became desensitized to the wonder of Christ and going through the motions became a part of you. You’d grasped a general idea of His word and could say all the right “Christian” things in your sleep. If you were to be honest, you had the knowledge of Christ, but you couldn’t feel him anymore. Not like you use to. FULL POST
Posted 12/2/16 at 2:13 PM | Brittney Moses
I don’t know about you but the shame that circulates mental illness breaks my heart.
“What do you mean by mental illness?”, some ask me.
As I explained in a previous post about depression,
Whether it be depression, anxiety, PTSD, personality or mood disorders, etc, mental illness is very much like a physical illness. Many people have a hard time coming to grips with mental health because the mind is less tangible.
This is also the reason why many people don’t get help or isolate their issues until they’re too distressed to pull themselves out. There are no scars or bleeding to show proof that something is wrong. Instead it may look like a dysfunction in mental processing. However, it’s all a common health issue just the same.
Just like a cold or virus, some mental illnesses happen for an episode, are treated and then never come back or rarely show up again.
Some mental illnesses are more chronic and ongoing, which is more complex to cure and has long-term, serious effects but still has the potential to be treated and managed over time. FULL POST
Posted 8/23/16 at 8:17 PM | Brittney Moses
In the world of Cognitive Psychology, which is the specialty of my interest, there are about 15 known thinking distortions common to so many of us- myself included.
Cognitive Distortions are essentially when your structure of thinking is flawed in it’s reasoning. Cognition is how your mind processes events and interprets your reality. A distortion is when something is twisted out of becoming no longer true or accurate. So when you think cognitive distortions we’re saying potentially destructive thoughts that have twisted the way you’re seeing your present situation. We develop this way of thinking in life many times when we’re anxious and fear clouds our judgment or we're captive to a low esteem. David Burns has popularized the labels that I’m listing that Psychology has adopted today.
So I’m going to help give you 5 mentalities that may be holding you back in hopes that we can recognize and untwist unhealthy thinking to live free and highly functioning lives! FULL POST
Posted 6/5/16 at 8:04 PM | Brittney Moses
I’d like to think I have a pretty wholesome attitude and state of mind in general. However, I am in no way immune to breaking down.
I’m not perfect (surprise).
I get stuck in my fears and my doubts.
I’ve felt hopeless.
I've hit my ultimate low on many days.
I’ve been trapped by the expectation to set an example.
I've depended far too much on myself to get this thing right.
I have handled my flaws legalistically rather than with grace.
(And trust me, my flaws are many.)
I learned to be resilient and strong in the Lord, but I had lost the beauty of being broken.
We tell people to come to Christ as they are but the image we present doesn’t match our words. In perfectly groomed clothes, photo shopped images and the lack of sharing our present day struggles, we subconsciously make ourselves the standard. We praise the good but when the bad and the ugly actually come out we’re quick to shame and judge another's walk with Christ. Since when did imperfection and human flaws become such a shocker among the body? Everyone is going through something behind closed doors, including those we admire the most. FULL POST
Posted 2/16/16 at 9:12 PM | Brittney Moses
Does your thinking tend to drift into an eternal cycle of the why’s, the how’s, and the what if’s? Welcome to the club my friend. I am by nature an over-thinker. I have a PhD in overthinking. I’ve mastered it just about all my life. I’ve been guilty of overthinking about my overthinking. After a while it sounds like the mind of a crazy person and that’s how you feel just about half of the time. Nothing just is what it is- there are deeper levels to everything and you have got to figure out how far that iceberg goes beneath the surface.
It’s a blessing and a curse right? You can help others think through their problems, give insight at angles that aren’t the norm, it makes for a great writer and for a Psychology major like myself it works out perfectly as I enter the why’s and how’s of human behavior (because I’m questioning my own about ninety percent of the time). The curse? Living in the moment is the struggle, your mind runs late at night and sometimes it’s nothing but anxiety in disguise.
What are some of the tell-tale signs of overthinking? Well I’ve thought about it (pun-intended):
The list goes on, and on, and on. FULL POST
Posted 6/1/15 at 8:36 PM | Brittney Moses
In today’s evolving culture since the rise of women’s’ rights from education to the workforce, we’re seeing an influx of women taking the lead as breadwinner in 40% of US households. That means if you’re a married American woman reading this right now there’s almost a halfway chance that you’re the main provider for your house. Taking this into consideration we can’t help but beg to ask even unbiasedly how these progressing conditions are naturally effecting marital and household conditions. How is this effecting the men who are called to be the head covering of our families; or the women who may have positional authority over men in the everyday workplace?
CNN recently released an article based on the findings of a new study in the June issue of the American Sociological Review showing that men who are 100% economically dependent on their wives were most at risk for infidelity. These husbands face about a 15% chance of cheating rather than a woman who’s supported by her husband at say a 5% chance. Sociologists are saying the reason may very likely be because of the social expectations of masculinity and how an affair can even subconsciously serve as a way to re-establish that. Basically, if he doesn’t feel like some sense of a man at home then he’s at risk of being vulnerable to someone who will make him feel like a man. FULL POST
Posted 5/29/15 at 9:49 PM | Brittney Moses
I’m going to keep this nice and short. I’m born and raised in the melting pot of Los Angeles where every type of person exists. I come from a family of all shades. I am a huge advocate of diversity.
I don’t talk about race much because I’ve always seen people as souls, the heart of who they are inside. But I’ve noticed many times we try to stay shy of the stereotype of being “racist” in today’s society by trying to throw a blind fold over our obvious differences to the extreme of acting as if they don’t exist. While we have every intention of seeing people simply as people, like myself, is the approach of being “color-blind” really going to be a solution in helping relate to people; especially in ministry where we’ve been called to reach all people?
I personally don’t think we can genuinely counsel or minister to people with “color-blind” ideology. And very simply…here’s why. FULL POST
Posted 4/7/15 at 11:06 AM | Brittney Moses
I remember being in the 8th grade in our middle school locker room getting ready for PE and after a round of jokes my best friend pointing out how big my, eh you know, chest had grown. I mean, we’d noticed all the developments of the guys and girls around us; the guys shoulders were beginning to broaden, their abs beginning to form as they took off their shirts to play basketball and the girls were beginning to fill out curvaceously with their tight pants and midriffs. Everyone was bursting into all shapes and forms of sexuality and now my breakthrough was coming.
I can’t lie, there was a small stirring within me about my sudden emergence into womanhood. My desires of physical intimacy were birthing, my confidence was growing and before I knew it I was becoming a whole new person than the bouncing girl I once was. And it wasn’t long before guys started to notice me….or that I noticed them noticing me. It was a different type of notice than, hey we have the same class! No, they wanted me and they wanted me boldly. They desired me- this young woman I was becoming. I was beginning to feel assured in ways I hadn’t. And with all these newfound changes I slowly but surely found myself simply going with the flow in this world of sexuality. FULL POST
Posted 1/8/15 at 12:49 PM | Brittney Moses
Sometimes, especially if you've been in the faith for years, we can start to think that since we've gone a few days without an overwhelming, all consuming, fire-falling-from-heaven emotional move of God that we've lost our fire for God or that we're not as close as we use to be or that we've become stagnant in our walk. But I just want to remind you that your walk with God is much more than a few emotional goosebumps. That's shallow faith. In fact, He's MOST verified in your everyday, seemingly little, acts of obedience. He's glorified in your day to day service, the dedication of your work, the love and honor you show to those around you and the way you live your life as His example- the invisible moments of your life that no one sees. God is in the mundane and normal days just as much as the power packed worship you've experienced when you choose to let all your decisions glorify Him- on the job, at school, with your family and in the duties of ministry. FULL POST