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Posted 7/3/14 at 2:00 PM | Book Stop

Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Guys, Build a Sense of Closeness Outside the Bedroom

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for men: Realize that the physiological differences between men and women apply to sexual desire as well; if you want more sex, give your wife the time she needs to anticipate it rather than being surprised.


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Thank you for joining us for Marriage Month! Today is the last daily posting; we will start Marriage Monday tips next week, as I continue to share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do.

Tip 19: Men: If you want more sex, give her better anticipation time

Although some couples are the opposite in this way, in many cases the husband wishes his wife would be eager more often. Guys, there is a way to solve this, but you have learn something critical about women – and about yourself and your approach. FULL POST

Posted 7/3/14 at 1:41 PM | Book Stop

Spend July Fourth in Prayer for Your Country

(This article was originally posted in The Book Room - The Christian Post's new section for book enthusiasts and authors.)

Searching for a way to celebrate the Fourth of July? Try spending some time this Independence Day in prayer for America. There are some many things plaguing the country: threats of war, terrorism, natural disasters, political turmoil and moral decline. Chronicles 7:14 say “If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.”

Here some contemporary books that can guide and inspire your July Fourth prayers.

One Nation: What We Can All Do to Save America’s Future by Ben Carson

Released in May, One Nation lays out advice that Carson has for helping to resolve various national problems in the United States.

Book cover of Awakening

Awakening: How America Can Turning Economic Can Turn From Economic and Moral Destruction Back to Greatness by Ralph Reed FULL POST

Posted 7/3/14 at 9:47 AM | Book Stop

Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Show Your Husband That You Desire Him

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for women: instead of thinking of physical intimacy as a physical need for your husband, realize that it signals a powerful emotional need to be desired – and showing him that you desire him gives him confidence in every other area of his life.

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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do.

Tip 18: Women: Show your husband that you desire him

It is a common topic when women get together: why do men want sex so much more than we do? Sure, some couples are happily on the same page. But for many women, at the end of a long day we are just done – and we don’t understand why he takes “not tonight, honey” so personally. FULL POST

Posted 7/2/14 at 9:23 AM | Book Stop

Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Your Wife Just Wants to Be With You

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn:

A tip for men: Realize that providing security for her means providing your presence most of all; she wants YOU more than anything else you could give her.

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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do.


Tip 17: Men: Realize that the most important thing you can provide for her, is YOU

I met a woman recently named Anna. For years now, she has been talking about how great it would be for the family to rent a nice cottage at a beach resort for a week. For her birthday, her husband surprised her with reservations for fall break. Anna was so excited - until she learned that her husband agreed to take an extra shift at work all summer to pay for it. Now, she’s really bummed that he’s going to miss months of family time while the kids are out of school. Her husband is angry and confused, wondering why she doesn’t seem to appreciate something that she said she wanted, and which he is working so hard to give her.

So guys, can you relate? I’ll bet at some point or another you have felt the same way! Maybe it wasn’t a special week at the beach, but you still felt caught between a rock and a hard place. Like, she says she wishes we had new carpet in the living room, but she also says she wants me around more…but money doesn’t grow on trees! FULL POST

Posted 7/1/14 at 8:29 AM | Book Stop

Marriage Month Tip of the Day From Shaunti Feldhahn: Appreciate His Desire to Provide

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for women: Because your husband’s need to provide is deep and emotional, express appreciation of how he works for your family and be aware of his fear of failing you.

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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do.

Tip 16: Women: appreciate his compulsion to provide

At a recent women’s event, I got a question from a woman who had just gotten a big promotion and raise at her job. But her husband still seemed stressed about work and frequently mentioned his worries about layoffs. He hadn’t stopped his habit – which had always frustrated her – of taking on extra customer projects to earn extra money, even though those often kept him out late at night and exhausted him. She didn’t understand why he was still so worried and driven, and she was actually a bit offended. Did he think she was going to fail at her new job, so he needed to keep driving just as hard, just in case? FULL POST

Posted 6/30/14 at 4:09 PM | Book Stop

What Christian Authors are Saying about #HobbyLobby

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Hobby Lobby store in Fredericksburg, Virginia.

(This article was originally posted in The Book Room - The Christian Post's new section for book enthusiasts and authors.)

This morning the U.S. Supreme Court ruled in a 5-4 decision that corporations such as Hobby Lobby and Conestoga Woods Specialties can refuse insurance coverage for abortifacient drugs on the basis of religious objection.

The ruling for the September 2012 cased filed by the Green family (owners of Hobby Lobby Inc.) against U.S. Health and Human Services Department Secretary Sylvia Mathews Burwell is now being hotly contested in the public square. Here is what five influential Christian authors had to say about the decision. FULL POST

Posted 6/30/14 at 1:38 PM | Book Stop

Did You Know? Five Facts That Help You Get to Know Jesus

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(This article was originally posted in The Book Room - The Christian Post's new section for book enthusiasts and authors.)

Nancy I. Sanders, author of the Get to Know series wants young readers ages 6 to 10 better understand the rich history of Jesus. Her latest biography Get to Know Jesus (Zonderkidz, July 8) takes readers through the people and events that surrounded the Savior with fun facts, colorful maps, and illustrations and pictures

Here are five facts Sanders reveals about the life and ministry of Jesus:

1. Jesus was a real person. Many documents verify His existence. Josephus, a famous historian of Jewish and Roman history from 100 BC to 100 AD wrote about Jesus as did His disciples. Their writings are featured in the New Testament of the Bible.

2. Jesus’ family can be traced all the way back to Adam and Eve. Here is an abbreviated version of His family tree: FULL POST

Posted 6/30/14 at 11:59 AM | Book Stop

Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Reassure Your Wife

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for men: When you are angry or upset with your wife and need to get some space, reassure her that “We’re okay” before you pull away – and give her a hug when you come back.


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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do.

Tip 15: Men: when you are upset, before you pull away, reassure your wife that “we’re okay.”


There is one fairly simple thing you as a guy can do that will dramatically increase your wife’s happiness and security in marriage: when you are displeased with her, reassure her that you love her before you pull away to get some space.

I know you think that shouldn’t be necessary! Of course she knows I love her, you think to yourself, we’re just arguing and I’m just upset, but it doesn’t mean I don’t love her!

But there is something you need to know about women. And this truth will, I hope, suddenly make sense of this confusion – and give you a good insight into what to do -- the next time you two are at odds.

You see, when you said, “I do,” you thought the deal was closed. In all likelihood, the question “Does she love me?” has never again crossed your mind. But according to our nationally-representative surveys of women, your wife probably sees things completely differently. The vast majority of women (somewhere in the 80-90 percent range), secretly wonder things like, Am I lovable? And in marriage, that translates to Does he really love me? Would he choose me all over again?

So you see, for her, her “I do” will probably always mean “Do you?”

Yes, she probably knows with her mind that you love her, but sometimes her feelings need to be convinced. She is more vulnerable than you ever realized to doubting whether she is loveable and loved. Conflict, your withdrawal, even your silence can trigger those feelings – and they are painful. As one strong, confident woman ruefully told us in our research for For Men Only, “I know it is not the most modern, liberated thing, but some very desperate feelings arise when I feel like he is displeased with me.”

And those desperate feelings may lead to some words and actions that may be… um… counterproductive to peace in the home. But it is entirely because she needs to be reassured of your love. In eight out of ten women, when something’s not right between her and her man, it is difficult or impossible for them to get it off her mind. As several women put it, “When we’re at odds, nothing is right with the world until the issue is resolved.”

The good news is that, now that you know this, the simple solution is to reassure her. Words like, “I’m angry and I need some space… but honey, I want you to know that we’re okay.” Actions like a quick hug when you come back from getting that space, to show that you’re working things through and still there. A quick reconnection a few hours later that says you’re done working things through and you’re sorry for the conflict – whatever those words and actions are, they may seem minor to you, but they are priceless to her. Trust me on this, guys: P-R-I-C-E-L-E-S-S.

In fact, do those actions and words of reassurance each time you have conflict or are upset… and I’ll bet you’ll find a really welcome pattern emerging. You’ll be so good at making her feel secure, that you’ll find the conflict arising a lot less often. FULL POST

Posted 6/27/14 at 9:06 AM | Book Stop

Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Say ‘Great Job’ to Your Man

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for women: Instead of the “I love you”-type words that come naturally, purposefully look for daily opportunities to say what matters most to a man: “thank you,” “great job,” and “I’m so proud of you.”


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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do.

Tip 14: Women: Say ‘great job’ to your man

We women love to feel loved. We delight in knowing that our man adores and cherishes us. We feel special and secure when he hear, “I love you.” In fact, for many of us, feeling loved is the whole point of having the relationship to begin with! FULL POST

Posted 6/26/14 at 10:31 AM | Book Stop

Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Small Changes Make Big Differences

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

Instead of thinking that marriage is hard and complicated (which can lead you to get exasperated and shut down too easily), realize that your relationship may take hard work but several small changes will usually make the big difference.

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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the difference hope makes in marriage – and the 8 year investigation that debunked the discouraging myths we have all believed about marriage and divorce. 

Tip 13: Realize that several small changes usually make the big difference

One of the most effective things we can do to encourage our marriages is to knock down the widespread myth that marriage is utterly hard and complicated and that having a good marriage, or fixing a troubled one, requires a Ph.D. in psychology. Or a Master’s in mind-reading. FULL POST

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