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11/15/11 at 04:25 AM 0 Comments

Embracing the Gift of Singleness by Abby

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It does take guts to go completely against the grain by encouraging those uniquely gifted to serve God ... remaining single – without sounding like Mama Superior

We forget, all too conveniently, that Christ was single as well as the most prolific of contributors to the New Testament, Apostle Paul.  I published a related article by Brother Gbile on a different Deliverance from Earthwardness . Abby writes to her daughter ...

Daughter dearest,

I have not written in a while, you know a proper letter, fold the paper and put it in an envelope (matching envelope please) seal the envelope and place the stamp (correct postage ) in the right hand corner of the envelope (and not up-side-down), letter!  I like the world of instant, Blackberry messengers, facetime, twitter, and facebook ...but a letter...this will be one of the many I will be is my pledge to you  (nay to myself).

I was at the grocery store today and on offer were instant oats in all varieties and flavours. I settled for the long cooking one, nothing like soaking the oats in water with a pinch of salt (the way your Nana taught me) and then on low heat, simmer, the smell, the warmth...and then poured into a bowl and sprinkled with cinnamon and brown sugar. It’s the preparation....

And now to your question, ‘Mother give me 5 reasons why I shou1d remain single?’ It’s the preparation

I remember the words of the old Diana Ross and the Supremes song ‘you cann’t hurry love, you just have to wait....’ I may not have 5 reasons but I do know, that you are beautiful, and a treasure and a gift, God’s gift...I know this, but do you know this, do you believe this time of your life you are being divinely prepared, all that you are and even going through is preparing you for LIFE...whether as a single young Lady or a married one

Are you enjoying the preparation or enduring you...are you being the best you? You for your Lord and You for yourself. Your singleness is a gift....a wonderful gift of God’s grace...a time for you to know You, discover you, love you.....and don’t get me wrong I am not saying that you cannot be YOU in a relationship, but so many women go into a relationship looking for the other person to ‘define’ them. I long for you Child to embrace your singleness and for the Lord’s Glory to come through... in every area, the vocation you chose, your creativity, in play and recreation, even in the hard places of life.

Another November, for it was in November my husband died and I too died, died to my ideal life but then came alive again ... .and I went on ‘exeat’ to Chelsea yesterday. Popping into my favourite shops, the shop windows are such a delight, not shopping ( I lie, I did buy one or two things)  just browsing on Kings Road, hopping on the bus at the Duke of York Square  and off again, I treated myself to a cuppa (chai latte with soya milk extra hot and a sprinkling of cinnamon), I bought myself lunch at the Stockpot and I wondered if ‘Johnny English’ was showing yet at the Odeon for I will come and see it alone and laugh alone!!!!! I wondered in Anthropologie bought some soap and browsed through some books, a title grabbed me ‘the Happiness project’ hmmm wonder what that is about? In the middle of musings and browsing it occurred to me I have been a single woman for 15 years; having been previously married for 17 years. Almost half and half, can I honestly look at my 17 years of being married and claim they were better that the 15 years of being single....NO, not better, both was Elizabeth Elliot through her writing, (some of the books are no longer in print) books like ‘Loneliness’ ‘Let me be Woman’ that I discovered (funny I read most of her books when I was married, that ‘singleness is a gift’.... and daughter dearest I pray you will fully live, embrace and appreciate your ‘gift’

With all my love always


(this letter was first posted to and is written by Abby Olufeyimi . Abby is the Parish Pastor of Builder’s House (The Redeemed Christian Church of God), a church plant and community outreach of Jesus House (RCCG), England)

“O that my heart was pre-conditioned to seek Thy face!  O that my reins would evermore long for Thy presence!  O that my mind, my thoughts and imaginations are perpetually fixed on Thee! And my words, my deed, my daily traffic, all completely centred on You.” Prayer by Brother Gbile Akanni.

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