Daily Affirmations
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Veronica Philips

I am a wife, mother, small business owner, annoyer of all things hubby, and occasionally I write. This is me, my life, my all. You get to see all my epic failures as I navigate my way to fame, though

Posted 8/27/15 at 8:34 AM | Veronica Philips

Relax. I Only Asked For The Salt....

My Publicist tells me yesterday, “Oh, I don’t make people mad?”; which wasn’t her exact phraseology, but I post on another site, so I have to keep it clean now....I digress. “No you don’t, not like I do”, I countered…..without skipping a beat, she retorted, “Um, I’ve make PLENTY of people mad in this town, you have no idea what I’ve done”. Um, that may be WHY I’m not getting any work…..see when birds of a feather, flock together, it needs to be understood that there is only ONE person at a time, stepping on toes; otherwise, whose going to be the band aid supplier when people get hurt?
There are WAY too many Type A personalities in this town. There’s an old joke that when women get together they “sync”…I wonder what would happen if we all had a meeting, a convention of NOW personalities then set lose on the town? Honestly, I’d like to see that…bunch of strong opinionated women going around being bossy, and confident, telling people like it is, but in the end, if we’re all bossy, whose going to do the work….and THAT my friends, is the point of my status today.
I watched a man and a woman in a grocery store yesterday. The man asked his companion to reach for something, as he clearly did not want to get in her way. Her response was to tell him, “Get it yourself. I’m not here for your every beck and call” (NOTE: I cleaned it up a bit) I giggled at this, because all he wanted was some salt. Jiminy Cricket woman, he didn’t ask you to sex him up…he just wanted some minerals.
Listen ladies, I get that we’re all ticked off at Eve for being stupid, but seriously, there is nothing wrong, with being a partner in any relationship, be it married or friends. I have no problem exercising my gift as a servant to improve or better the life of another being on this earth. I get so aggravated to see others, in the Sisterhood, with their, “I dare you ” badge never realizing that it’s a strength, and BLESSING to put aside self, to further someone else. Does this mean that we need to bow down and let a man be the star? HECK NO….I’m the only star here (smile), but seriously, as much as I fight him, I KNOW that I am a partner with Merrill, and we work toward the same goal......to not kill each other, then the babies. Things are much easier, and more blessed when one has a team mate, a partner, a soul maker….not reaching for the salt, because you THINK it makes you look weak……DOES MAKE YOU LOOK WEAK……ahh the beautiful ironies of life. I was so tempted to push past her, and get the salt for him myself, but I didn’t have the time to fight….oh had I just an extra ten minutes…...
It is true that God called us to be with Adam, not behind Adam, not in front of Adam. It stresses my soul to think that some men believe that a woman submitting means a woman servant….that wasn’t the intent. Seriously, how many men have figured out that to force a woman to submit means he’ll never sleep again? We are equals, partners, joint heirs….salt or no….God calls us to Submit to EACH OTHER…so that we can accomplish His Will, on Earth, as it is in Heaven….Amen. Okay, gotta go. We may be equals, but ONE is more equal than another in this house, and I gotta get babies up, breakfast, school, then work myself…..his lazy butt is in bed….but it do it for them….and him…because I LOVE them….To Love IS to be BLESSED…YOU Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Thursday.

Posted 8/26/15 at 8:50 AM | Veronica Philips

A Bridge Burned, is an Escape Route Destroyed!

Merrill and I were sitting in our office yesterday, just minding our own business, when a very powerful man walked in the door. I’m kinda a big deal in this town and he made ME feel small….LOL, I know all the movers and shakers….. I mean, I KNEW who this gentlemen was, AND I also KNOW that most of the famous in this town want to just be left alone, to wallow in their fame, but he was a nice guy, he was in public….and I had a question. … Hey, if you’re out in public, you’re fair game…that’s what I always say, and besides, I needed to know if there was any truth to the rumor that the Globetrotters were coming back in January….He was the man to answer that question.
First, the Globetrotters ARE coming back in January…that’s good to know. People (I do it too) become very leery when you call them by their given name. For example, here is one of Danville’s most Famous, and I just said, “Hey (so and so), Globetrotters coming back?”. Actually, it was a tad bit more polite than that, but it does lend some credence on what NOT to do in Danville, if one wants to further their career. Danville is a very small town relative to Chicago….LOL….relative to Champaign. We, in this small metropolis, are never more than three people away from either being related, or related. For example, if I wanted to have an affair in this town, I couldn’t because Merrill is KIN to everyone….so….I digress…quite a bit actually….my point is that in this small community one will eventually have an opportunity to meet and greet everyone; which will give one an opportunity make an impression…..good or bad….but whichever impression you chose to make, remember two truths.
1. One NEVER get a second chance to make a 1st impression.
2. Word travels fast in this town…just be prepared to live with the consequences of “your” choices.
The Executive Director of the Civic Center, unless you’re “ too big… to say… no to” (which I will be one day) gets to pick and chose the acts that go before the Arena. I question his decision to bring in Slaughter (Slaughter?), but loved his decision to bring in Chesney….The ultimate point is that HE GETS TO CHOSE, so if you’re going to be an act….a small act….and you want to be a complete jackwagon…..just know….you won’t be back, and in this business, YOU are going to need all the friends you can get. That’s why my Publicist is one of the most famous people in Danville…people like her, she hasn’t made anyone mad (that I know of), and she has a quality that I do not. Truth be told, if one were to get on the wrong side of someone in Danville, not only is the whole community going to know about it, but the community next to it will know, and the community next to that one will know too!….The Elvis Impersonator made the distinction of being the worse JERK in memory, and he will NEVER come back…EVER….Remember friends, a bridge burned is an escape route destroyed......unless you don’t care, then do whatever makes you happy ☺ Okay, gotta go….Kiddie Pool this morning, the water is cold and my Patience is too. I wonder if, down the road, I’ll need her, to further my career….better think on that….before I open my mouth. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Wednesday.

Posted 8/25/15 at 11:31 AM | Veronica Philips

Shall We Pray, or Shall We Act?

The funniest thing happened to me yesterday. It wasn’t funny like HA HA funny, but funny in like, “Okay God, where are you?” funny. I don’t like my Math teacher, but that can change. I’m a grown woman, in the middle of babies, I don’t need her treating ME like I’m one of the babies so she can feel better about herself. Experience, and a hunch tells me, I can get the upper hand on her, if I want, which I don’t….but I don’t like being told, “If I SEE a cell phone, you WILL be asked to leave, and a failing grade will be given”…..okay first, I own a business, I will need my cell phone from time to time, and second, I’m not a child….stick to raising you own.
In the midst of all of this I met a little girl, who WAS a Marine Vet. OMGoodness she couldn’t have been more than $1.00 WET, but I did get to know her, as I was teaching her patience on a computer, which as a digression, how IRONIC is THAT? She could probably give me a fair fight, were I to fight…which I don’t want. Why am I talking about fighting on the 1st day of School? It may be because the Professor came to us and said, “Don’t worry about her, just do your own work. I’ll help her”, to whit I responded, “Well you WEREN’T here, she DID call you, you WERE busy and didn't respond”…..and there we go….a Scarlet Letter…..a TARGET…the THROW DOWN......but I don’t care……I don’t suffer fools easily…..including those in power.
Patience is a virtue I do not possess, nor do I want to possess it. Some people, like me, are better left as ticking time bombs and before you judge me, even those in the Faith will admonish one against praying for Patience. Patience, like Red hair (not mine) is something one is born with, like a gift of beauty….if you’ve gone through “some stuff”, and you came out with Patience, I take my hat off to you, because you’ve earned respect….me…..I chose to control my emotions, rather than pray for a virtue. While I should respect the teacher, and I do, I also recognize that even though I call it The Kiddie Pool, it REALLY is college and we should be treated like college students. Cell phones, are just an example of an adult toy, and if one cannot use it respectfully, then one can be excused, but to ban cell phones, to adults who work is just hubris, and frankly, it’s begging for me to test it. Now if I could put forth as much effort to acquiring patience as I do in testing someone else’s, I’d probably be perfect. Forgive me, for I am NOT a Role Model.
The Lord does indeed gift each and every one of us to accomplish His Will on this earth. I wasn’t born with Patience, I have never acquired Patience, I do not see myself ever getting Patience, but I have something else that may be of service…I have MERCY….that poor little Marine girl would have waited FOREVER had she waited for the Professor to help her with the computer, and lets be honest, me helping with computers is like Merrill helping with housework, so I KNOW that opportunity was Divinely Inspired…..whew…that felt good. Okay, gotta go. I have a BOATLOAD of work to do at the office, and the internet only lasts until 9am, you THINK that doesn’t test my Patience? Don’t Judge Me folks, I’m working on it….God isn’t finished with me yet…..have Patience. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. Be KIND to each other show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Tuesday.

Posted 8/21/15 at 10:23 AM | Veronica Philips

When GOD Lets Go, and Lets YOU!

There’s a chill in the air as I turn on the heater, and observe that in my crab tank, it’s a chilly 60 degrees; which could hurt them. I must remember to cover the tank tonight, assuming they’re still alive in there; which…I hope they are. I look out my bay window so see the sun rising, creating shadows over the corn fields, and I smile as I realize that Fall is upon us….WAIT! It’s August 21 and it shouldn’t be 60, it SHOULD be 90…..The world is going NUTS. Now we have yet another Revelation that Duggar had extra-martial affairs (plural) and while this really should be a family crises, with healing, forgiveness, and repentance, it strikes me that he does kinda deserve this….go ahead, shade me, but you KNOW I’m right.
When all is said and done, and we stand in that three-ring circus awaiting our trial, the Lord is not going to look at the Duggar family and say, “Hold on. Lets see what Ronnie thinks”, so my opinion, pro or con, isn’t going to matter. With that said, Jim Bob and Michelle KNEW their son was struggling with sexual sin, and did nothing while he continued on his path of self-destruction. Thanks to their inability, (or is it unwillingness) to see the path he was on, he’s taken his innocent family hostage as well. Sins of the flesh, Lust, have their place among the 7 Deadlies because they're a plague. I’m not even considering that he’s a Christian at this point, although the world is taking great pleasure in mocking THAT little ditty, nay, I’m upset because his wife, the mother of his three children, didn’t deserve international humiliation, and I stand with her. His revelation that he’s a hypocrite came from being caught, not being sorry, and it shows me that he still doesn’t get the bondage he’s in….Hmm, I feel a sin coming on.
I think it’s important to remember that no matter what freak show is playing out in front of us, God is somewhere in the middle, and we….yes that’s you and me, cannot cause pain where pain already exists. I know that this is a family in crises, and I can only hope the crises is focused on his sin, and not the damage control that I’m sure is ensuing right now. I am going to try really, really, REALLY hard, to sit back and let the Lord do his job, because right now, that family is a mess. This wasn’t unexpected you know, “And he gave them over to their desires”, a little piece of Scripture in Romans, which I can paraphrase as, "When God lets go and lets YOU". It's what happens when we fail to address our sins, and God lets us DEAL with it. Addiction in any form, is devastating, sexual sin, is personal…..sigh…I wonder how many strongholds have to come down with that one? Gotta go. I’ve judged enough. I pray that this man receives the REAL counseling he deserves, and I pray that his wife and children are spared the greater part of the fire that’s still to come….As far as Jim Bob and Michelle go……well…..I can’t print, then post what I’m thinking now. Mayhap it should suffice for me to write, May God Be with Them….Each of Them. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Friday.

Posted 8/20/15 at 9:43 AM | Veronica Philips

Hello? Can You Hear Me Now?

In a Post-Apocalyptic world, it won’t be street people standing around the meager elements as they attempt to stay warm, the dogs roaming the streets trying to find enough to eat, the “not so well” regulated militia policing the streets hassling people….no….Instead there will be zombie like creatures roaming (pun), with their cell phones in their hand,“ But I didn’t get the call”…..the more technology has made our lives easier, the more we cheated life….it will come back on us….our calls will be DROPPED.
My sister wrote on FB this am, “I called you. Went right to VM”; which either she was lying, or my phone is a piece of crap…I wouldn’t take odds…that she’s lying. All I ever wanted was a phone that made calls, but no. I was suckered into getting one that also texted (which I do need), emailed, gave me full access to all things social (which I don’t NEED), and a calculator…..I was verifying my identity with a banking center yesterday when the CS Rep asked me for a phone number…..Hell I don’t know. You can’t judge me, because ½ of you don’t memorize your phone numbers either. If a guy were to walk up to me in a club, and ask me for my digits, I’d tell him go to ‪#‎MVPCouple‬….on TWITTER (little ad there). We don’t even have to let a guy down politely anymore. There’s a service that will tell the guy, when he calls, “She thought you were a loser. Move on”. Nay friends, the real Anti-Christ, spoken of in Revelations, is going to be a hacker. You’re looking for someone from the Middle East…he’s probably the nerd next door…the one you gave the “loser” number too….
We are a lazy breed of people anymore. I plow (or something ridiculous) every night, and I’m PROUD? My ancestors rationed food, as they ran from the bombs of Hitler. Not one ounce of the fare was wasted. From the Horn to the Hoof, all things were used for survival. For me, if my tomatoes don’t grow, I’ll go to the store. My Little House on the Prairie Grandmother had one bag (one bag?) and made it work. I get why the Aliens hate us. I couldn’t even give a phone number for verification. What kind of jack wagon does that make me? I don’t even have to worry about spelling and grammar…..Should our grid fail us, and it will, there will be mass pandemonium like the world has never seen. God forbid we have to go out and toil (TOIL gasp!) for our food….Alexander Graham Bell said it best, “Hello, can you hear me now?”. There has got to be a movement away from reliance on foreign oil……NO….wrong status….there has to be a movement away from technology and a reliance our good ‘ole brain power. Well some of you stay with Technology. I’m not judging you…just saying. Technology was to serve us, now as I travel down I-74 on a Business Call, I pray to my provider that the call doesn’t get dropped…..CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW? Every now and then Merrill has to take his contacts out, and wear his glasses….those glasses turn me on…just saying. Getting Back to Basics is no long the name of my next tour, but the motto we need to start spreading, least the Great Anti-Nerd get us…and I am only ONE-HALF kidding on that…..Okay, Gotta go. I see that my computer wants to update. I’d better let it…or it will cut---------------Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Thursday.

Posted 8/19/15 at 11:04 AM | Veronica Philips

Keeping Yourself Safe Doesn't Have to be an Act of God!

You’ll have to forgive me for the omissions, but I only remember the meat of the article, not the inconsequential details like Time, Date, and Place. A few weeks ago, police were able to solve several open cases of deceased females, but it wasn’t their professional crime solving skills that closed the cases. In THIS case, the break came when an Escort, shot and killed an (up until then) unknown serial killer as he was trying to kill her. Kudos’s for her. I’m going to make a judgment about her glaring error….she misjudged his character and turned her back on him…..and you thought I was going to judge her profession….
I watched a documentary on Ted Bundy, that to THIS day, still makes my skin crawl. I think what resonated with me the most was that my Princess was the same age as many of the young ladies killed. Even I, a person who totally prides herself on having an amazing BS meter, will occasionally let my guard down. Do it with the wrong person, and I’ll find myself dead. At the time of his reign, Ted Bundy, AND the Green River Killer were both on the lose, with the Zodiac taking 3rd place. I read that The Green River killer received credit for Ted Bundy’s kills, SO there were THREE Serial Killers operating in the same area, AT THE SAME TIME. Listen, I’ve made it this far in life…let me help all the little brothers and little sisters out.
1. The #1 most important rule is to never, ever, NEVER EVER, put yourself in a position in which there is NO out. Predators are very clever at assessing exit routes…you be clever too.
2. Keep yourself in a position of control, at all times. Walk with confidence, eyes/chin up….Alcohol is an amazing God given gift to mankind, but it’s also a curse. Be Smart.
3. Never assume to know the intent of another.
4. Lose your wits and temper, lose your life.
5. Never allow yourself to be taken from point, “A” to point, “B”. God forbid you ever find yourself in this position, but point “B” is guaranteed DEATH. Might as well go for broke, and FIGHT.
6. Never scream RAPE, instead scream, “Fire”….if you scream this, help will come.
7. Finally, monsters DO exist in the world today. REMEMBER this.
Just the simple act of being aware can save your life. Don’t talk to strangers, have your keys ready, park in a well-lit lot, always watch your exits, and yes, be prepared to go bat crap crazy. After reading the quotes of the Escort in the death of her potential killer, the one point that kept resonating with me was, “You knew the dangers, and still turned your back on him?”…..a small second in reasoning will cause your family a great deal of pain. Ted Bundy was quoted as saying, “It was too easy. Never really understood why they went with me”…..May he burn in hell. Okay. Gotta go. All this talk about Bundy makes me want to text my Princess…..and hug my Duchess….I hate that there’s evil in the world….but I like to hear people shooting serial killers. Don’t Judge Me…you like it too……hug your babies today. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Wednesday.

Posted 8/17/15 at 8:36 AM | Veronica Philips

Like Jesus, It's Not My Time

You can’t be honest with others if you can’t be honest with yourself. Have you ever been resentful of someone who just seems to just glide through life? Everything went their way? The ones who looked at their notes one hour before the test and aced it, or the one who didn’t even start a project until the day it was due, then received an “A”? True story. Merrill and his sister had a Science project to grow and cultivate grass. Not the illegal kind of grass, but just regular, average, I’m suffering from hives right now because of it….GRASS. His sister had 8wks to chart, fertilize, and grow the greenest grass grown on this God given earth, while Merrill…..picked a handful from the yard, threw it in a cup with dirt….earned an “A”…..his sister….“B”….life isn’t fair. While He has gifted some, others must work for all they have….but it’s okay…trust me.
I’ve accepted the truth that I’m not a good writer. I’m okay with it. I’ve long since past the age and phase, in which I begrudge someone else his or her due. It’s okay with me, that there are those out there who are famous for nothing more than having a sex tape. The genius in that is that SEX has always sold, they just became an Entrepreneur of sorts. No hate baby….no hate……Nothing in my life has come easy, but I accept that because I’m a better person for my trials and errors. I think the unique part of my journey is one day you will see me touting my book on the Today show, and all 300 of you will say, “We WATCHED her do that!!!!”. You’ll feel a part of it, because you WERE a part of it…..In that very limited regard, I wanted to be a role model because it does take more than talent to write this tripe…..it takes humor, a willingness to laugh at yourself, a little luck, and yes, the ability to properly match up your verbs…..others can do that far better than me.
I feel like it just isn’t my time. Jesus told His mother to knock it off….leave Him alone (My paraphrase) when she wanted more wine. He KNEW something that I too now understand……He hadn’t come into His time…. I’m inspired everyday…that’s a major blessing of what I do…..I have a semi-literate imagination and a willingness to share a piece of myself with the world. There are things that ARE none of your business…RIGHT NOW…..but in others....LOL….I’m an open door. I’m taking, “Don’t Judge Me” in a different direction. I ask for your patience during construction. Even that request is a little arrogant because it makes the assumption that you’re reading me; WHICH is the #1 mistake writers make…never assume you’re being read…it makes you lazy. So you see, I have learned something through this process….Hmmmm, there may be hope for me yet. Okay, gotta go. I’m “maybe” leaving town today. I awakened with a body full of HIVES…..I feel like my skin is crawling with ants…..WHAT THE HELL????? Oh, and my asthma is acting up…..two ideals I’ll be able to share one day….so maybe it’s a good thing? Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Monday…..

Posted 8/14/15 at 10:04 AM | Veronica Philips

Have you met my Father?

There's a father in Danville, whose a good, good man. He's always fair, honest, and just. He has a good word for strangers, quick to help the needy when needed, only gets angry at the injustices in the world. Oh he's been tempted I'm sure, but I've never met anyone more patient than him. He's merciful, and loving having won the respect of many in this town. He has a large family. Huge. All of his children look just like him, only different. Some of his children are good kids, trying hard to follow in his footsteps, while others....<psst> not so much. They all have their differences of opinion about their opinions, and when home their brother's birthday, the table is always full of talk about him, his politics, the birthday boy, and who's doing what to whom. It's maddening at times. One big crazy family. I've heard he's almost had it with the whole lot of them, HOWEVER, he IS gracious, even when his kids, from the oldest to the youngest, behave badly in public. Now....just because his kids can be a**holes, gossips, mean spirited, cheats, liars, thieves and potty mouthed cussers, does that mean he's one? No..... for even though he raised them well, and RIGHT, they still have Free Will...don't they? Oh sure, he's grieved, upset, unhappy and disgusted with their actions, especially when strangers won't approach him....(because they've met his kids).....but he's always willing to sit, listen and forgive....when they're sorry. It's not fair really....because he's done so much for so many....in this town. Do not let MY bad behavior, keep you from knowing my Father. He's a great parent, and frankly, I'll be in enough trouble when I get home...see past me to him....understand that he does not condone my actions, nor the actions of some of my siblings.....my choices are not his character.....He's amazing. Think about it.

Posted 8/14/15 at 9:38 AM | Veronica Philips

The Day I Let Go, And Let ME!

To Judith. I pray you find the strength and the courage that’s always been within you. Today you take your light from us, and give it to another community. I can only hope they know how blessed they are….to have you……God be with you my friend.

The Day I Let Go….and Let Me

I believe the downfall of society began with cable; which makes Ted Turner the Devil. Truly, up until that day, we had no idea we needed 24 hours worth of CRAP! Style, fashion, bad guys, good guys…, all media, all day! Thank you Veronica Cornerstone, for making us feel inadequate, but I got NEWS for you, I may only be 5 foot ZERO, but I do okay in the romantic section of life…..I don’t need strangers advising me how to be beautiful. What I need is more fair and balanced news…when is that going to happen? LOL, I couldn’t even write that with a straight face…

I once let a Clinique Representative talk me into a facial. I was so looking forward to it, because I was going to have shiny, happy, healthy skin….only I didn’t. The products clogged my pores and I looked like someone had set the stun gun on Harlot. She…of course…thought I was beautiful. Wanted me to go out into public like THAT. I let Merrill dress me, “Go into my closet and pick something out” I said…only he dressed like me a Halloween costumed Librarian from the back corners of his seedy imagination. All I need was the pearls between my teeth with the, “Come hither” look and I’d be the woman he wouldn’t bring home to mom……that’ll teach me. My point is when you let others determine your worth and beauty, YOU…not them… will be verily disappointed, and while there isn’t any Scripture admonishing us not to let others dress us….there should be, because we ultimately are responsible for our happiness with ourselves and knowing the public decency laws….SMH, see what happens when I let others determine my beauty? I become a harlot dressed like a Librarian with a bad acne problem. No…thank you.
My life is so much more enriched when I let go…and let me. You may not like my style, hair, grace and beauty, but honestly, I don’t care. My only regret is that it took me so long to realize that I have more fun being obnoxious than I do being worried. If I want to wear the Harlot purple eye shadow with the bright red hat (I’m pledging a certain society), then I shall do so, and I shall wear it like a BOSS. I would love to expound, but you get the point. Do you have a beauty horror story? I’d love to hear it….!Okay, gotta go. There’s a cheerleader outfit lying out on the bed for me….Hmm, Merrill must have picked it out…..actually, I may just wear that today. You got a problem with THAT? Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Friday. I’ll miss you Judith.

Posted 8/13/15 at 8:36 AM | Veronica Philips

My Advice to Hollywood

If at first you don’t succeed, do you try, try again? Ask any couple married longer than 7 years what the secret to their success is, and the man will tell you, “Well I didn’t kill her when I wanted to”. Didn’t kill her indeed. Merrill and I have been together for 22 years, married 20, happily so for 5, and I can tell you it is by far easier to repair a relationship, than replace a relationship. In this, the year of the Hollywood breakups, I thought I give a shout out to those who now find themselves single again, after months of marriage. Perhaps, I can offer them a word….just to help them…..in their next marriage. God Bless them.
1. Make up sex is always better if you have something to make up for. He’s probably picking a fight on purpose. Go for it.
2 Adjust your aim. You don’t really want to hurt him, just nick him, so he knows you’re serious.
3 Ignore the public scratching. There are far worse things he can be doing in the Wal-Mart aisle.
4 You can hit him in the wallet, but don’t touch his Bears football. That’s just hitting below the belt.
5 Yes we all know the Cubbies suck, he knows it too. It’s not necessary to remind him daily that he supports a losing team. You probably watch the Kardashians….Just Saying.
6 A man’s home is his castle, the toilet his throne. You are NOT the chambermaid. Make him clean up after himself. Trust me on this. It will prevent many arguments, and unnecessary insults against his manhood.
7 He probably really DOESN’T see the socks, in the middle of the floor, on top of the pile of clothes, on fire. Give him the benefit of the doubt. EVERY TIME.
8 Yes, he is rising up his son to be just like him. Could be worse, could be like YOU.
9 His mother is off limits. No exceptions.
10 One word: EGO. Men are the hunter’s, gathers and spider killers of society. Make them feel like the most important person in your world, and he’ll die for you.
Contraire to what ever Harlequin novel ever told you, Love, in a relationship is not enough. There must be respect, a mutual agreement that when arguing, some subjects, (like his mother) are off limits. Merrill always says that when we argue, it’s our love language…..I mean, I guess, but it is true that even in arguing, the lines of communicate are open, even if hostile. Understand that the person to whom you pledged your undying commitment to, may not perfect, but you chose him, and he is your partner. Go with THAT as a foundation, and all things, can be forgiven. Okay, gotta go. We’re grocery shopping this am, and I need to make a list. Otherwise, I’ll end up with 5 bags of chips, beer, and hotdogs. I suppose #11 should have been, “Never send him grocery shopping alone. It will not end well for you”…..Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Thursday.

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