Does this set a new record? Kim Kardashian's marriage lasted 72 days. Activists cite her incredibly short-lived marital demise as an example of why gays should be allowed to marry. Somehow, they believe that because people who devalue and degrade marriage are allowed to marry, then others should be allowed to continue the devaluing and degrading of marriage.
I consider Kim Kardashian's short-lived 72-day marriage to be the perfect example on why more people should consider and choose NOT to marry and instead choose celibacy. When something becomes commonplace or widespread, it becomes cheap and easily discarded precisely because it is so common. Kim Kardashian is an advocate of gay marriage, and her 72-day marriage reflects upon her overall attitude toward marriage.
The majority of heterosexuals marry for physical desires and for motives domination by their emotions. However, physical passion can ebb and flow, or eventually become non-existent as the couple ages. Physical passion can also lead to the destruction of marriage in the form of affairs and other scandals. Emotions between two people can fluctuate or be in opposition to each other. Emotions can also be deceiving and can lead people into many wrongful and painful actions; the clearest examples but also the most extreme are abusive violence and suicide. Women and men abuse their spouses because they cannot control their emotions. Women remain with abusive husbands because of their emotional attraction.
The basic premise behind gay marriage is the same premise behind contemporary heterosexual marriage - incredibly misguided and faulty to the point of collapse. The whole premise of gay marriage is centered around fleshy attraction and emotion-dominated motives. This premise is no different from the motives that currently damages the institution of marriage among heterosexuals. Homosexuals cite Kardashian's divorce as grounds for their own marriages. One wrong cannot be corrected by committing another wrong.
Here are two examples of marriages driven by emotion that resulted in failure. One woman married on account of her emotions and her physical passions. Because of that, she considered her husband to be perfect and considered her marriage headed toward happily ever after. The husband cheated on her within a year, so they divorced. Another man married on account of his emotions; he thought his wife incapable of wrongdoing and did not notice how she verbally abused his family. Eventually, they also divorced. These people married for their emotional motives and physical desires, not for a lifelong plan.
When a man and woman marry for a common goal and shared purpose, then they will work together and overcome their differences to achieve their common goal and shared purpose. There is no goal or lifelong purpose in fleshy attraction because physical passion can ebb, flow, and disappear. There is no goal or shared purpose in emotion-driven motives because emotions change and fluctuate. When a man and woman marry to achieve their lifelong purpose, then they will be committed to each other and will dedicate themselves to their marriage.
There are plenty of specific ways in which marriages can fall apart, but all broken marriages share two traits - a foundation based upon sexual craving and upon emotion. When sexual cravings subside and when the emotions invariably oppose the emotions of the other person, then the divorce begins. Also, in our money-driven society, people believe that spending money on a lavish wedding reveals the value of the couple's love for each other; also, people believe that strong positive attention either by family and friends or by the media validates and verifies their supposed love for each other. I have seen this among regular people, not just celebrities.
Perhaps this CP August 22 article by Christine Thomasos shows just how wrongly our society has come to view the nuptials. Women and men focus too much upon the wedding and not upon the remainder of their lives. These people consider weddings to be the ultimate event when in reality, it should be the start of many lifelong events. Thomasos quotes Kardashian's sister.
“Since we were little girls, you have been dreaming about your perfect, fairytale wedding, and today we all get to watch as those dreams become your perfect reality," Khloe tweeted on her big sister’s wedding day. "Watching you, the ultimate believer in true love, fall head over heels for your prince charming has been so special for everyone who knows and loves you. You deserve everything wonderful in the world, and I have no doubt that you will get exactly that after you walk down the aisle tonight."
Flesh and emotion have mislead many men and women into bad marriages and have resulted in many divorces.
Some people fear that gay marriage will redefine marriage. Some people fear that gay marriage will devalue and damage the institution of marriage. But marriage is already devalued and damaged; we have seen this with the numerous divorce cases in our nation and with Mexico's 2-year marriage licenses. Marriage has already been redefined by subjective and changeable criteria to become something it was not meant to be. Because marriage is already damaged by changeable criteria, women such as Kim Kardashian want to spread the disorder throughout our society. Committing one wrong will never correct another wrong.
Men and women used to marry with a goal for their marriages. Fleshy feelings which change did not influence their lifelong goals. Emotions which also change did not influence their lifelong goals. The redefinition of marriage has eliminated its goal and purpose, rendering it useless and meaningless. Without a purpose, there is no reason to remain married. The only way to reclaim the sanctity of marriage will be to reclaim its purpose.