Dr. Paul Pettit is married to Pam, a neo-natal nurse practitioner, and they live in Dallas, Texas raising five wonderful children. Paul is the president and founder of Dynamic Dads, a non-profit encou
Posted 4/4/14 at 8:35 AM | Paul Pettit |
New York Mets second baseman Daniel Murphy missed the season's first two games to be with his wife during the birth of their first child earlier this week. Everyone was really happy, right? Well...no. A couple of radio talk show hosts in New York criticized Murphy's decision. Former NFL quarterback Boomer Esiason said, "Quite frankly I would've said 'C-section before the season starts. I need to be at opening day. I'm sorry, this is what makes our money, this is how we're going to live our life, this is going to give our child every opportunity to be a success in life. I'll be able to afford any college I want to send my kid to because I'm a baseball player,'"
Full disclosure. My wife and I have five children. I have been present at the birth of each of our children. And also, I must reveal that my wife is a Neo-Natal Nurse Practitioner. So, maybe we know a bit more about the dangers that can occur during a routine delivery. In fact, there's no such thing as a "normal delivery." After our first two children were born and there were no complications, I began to reason, "How hard can this be? We've got this down pretty well." Then our third child, Evan, was born. It was a difficult labor. Phrases like "failure to progress" and "breech" were being thrown around. After I saw my wife's limp leg flop over the side of the delivery table I excused myself from the proceedings and quietly slipped out into the hall of the Baylor Hospital in downtown Dallas, Texas praying, "Please, Lord, help us have a healthy delivery." I was desperate. Everything was moving in slow motion. A couple of neo-natal doctors appeared in the room to assist. FULL POST
Posted 2/7/14 at 2:37 PM | Paul Pettit |
Unfortunately, from time to time, we at Dynamic Dads are forced to warn our readers concerning the activities and practices of other organizations. It brings us no joy to issue a rebuke to another organization. However, we are open to others examining Dynamic Dads and if the need ever arises, would welcome investigation into our beliefs and practices. It seems the same can no longer be said for Bill Gothard and the Advanced Training Institute.
Numerous Christian media outlets are relaying allegations from various families alleging Gothard has secreted away teenage girls to his ministry site in Oak Brook, Illinois. Gothard, never married, stands accused of counseling, holding, touching, kissing, and "mentoring" young women. Witnesses are claiming Gothard spends an inordinate amount of time with these teenage girls forcing others to ask, "why?"
Of course men counseling women is no sin. But the Bible cautions against older men "training" younger women (Titus 2:3-4). Of course, Gothard never having married is no crime. (Oprah Winfrey has never married and yet she has made a career of dispensing advice on marriage and parenting.) If evangelicals are going to accuse Woody Allen of improper behavior in this regard then we should not shy away from a complete and thorough investigation of Mr. Gothard who finds himself facing similar rumors.
Today, Dynamic Dads calls on the legal authorities in Oak Brook, Illinois, to undertake an investigation into the practices of Bill Gothard and the Advanced Training Institute. These allegations are serious and from all accounts appear to be quite credible. Multiple witnesses are involved and have come forward. Fathers everywhere should seriously consider whether sending their teenage daughters away to "learn" or "serve" at ATI Headquarters is a healthy idea. In addition to legal authorities (local police and local child protective services agencies,) Dynamic Dads calls upon pastors and ministers in the town of Oak Brook, Illinois to thoroughly investigate these serious allegations which have arisen against Mr. Gothard.
As far as we understand, Mr. Gothard has not been arrested or charged in a court of law. By all accounts the ATI Ministry operates under a cloud of secrecy. Bill Gothard has built a reputation of acting on his own apart from the local churches and parishes he purports to serve. However, the court of public opinion has looked into these credible stories and found Mr. Gothard wanting. He should come forward and completely open his ministry activities to the light of day. Nothing less will quell these rumors and allegations. It's the least he can do for the families he attempts to serve.
Posted 6/27/13 at 12:53 PM | Paul Pettit
Something strange happened on the way to Wendy Davis becoming a rising political star among pro-abortion liberals. Davis, a Texas state senator from Fort Worth, attempted to engage the time-honored tradition of invoking a filibuster when it appeared Senate Bill 5, limiting abortion after twenty weeks gestation and holding abortion clinics to the same medical standards as area hospitals, was about to pass. (The bill did indeed pass on a vote of 19 for and 10 against, but the vote was electronically time-stamped at just after midnight, thus nullifying the vote due to its passage coming after the close of the legislative session.) The reason the vote didn’t get recorded in time? Texas state senators faced the near-impossible task of attempting to talk over the screams and shouts of the pro-abortion protestors in the upstairs visitor’s gallery. On this occasion at least…the mob won.
Davis stood tall for the pro-abortion cause for 13 hours. Under strict Texas filibuster rules she was not allowed to sit, lean, eat, drink, receive assistance, or stray off topic. A few minutes before the clock struck the bewitching hour of midnight, the mob, egged on by Davis; inserted itself into the legislative drama. The boisterous pro-abortion crowd had gathered and grown throughout the day and early evening due to the planned, strategic use of social media. Even President Obama weighed in tweeting, “Something special is happening in Austin tonight…” And he inserted the “pre-approved” hash tag #StandWithWendy” Something special was indeed happening. Lt. Governor David Dewhurst, presiding over the vote, called the crowd an “unruly mob,” and reported a “ruckus” had broken out. Austin area police and Texas Legislative security guards were summoned in an attempt to keep the crowd from shouting down the floor proceedings…all to no avail. Early on in the shout-fest State Senator Wendy Davis turned to the crowed, raised both arms, and appeared to encourage the protestors to scream even louder. But later, even Davis herself couldn’t control the throng. She valiantly tried putting her index finger to her pursed lips but the frenzy was now beyond even Wendy’s control.
In her book, Demonic: How the Liberal Mob Is Endangering America, columnist Ann Coulter writes, “The mob will never support defending America, only those who seek to undermine it. The mob will never side with those who seek to protect human life, only those who seek to destroy it. The mob will never support the creation of wealth, only those who seek to punish it. The mob will never defend traditional morality, only those who seek to subvert it. And if you oppose the mob, it will come after you like a pack of ravenous hyenas,” (p 288).
It was strange watching the ravenous hyenas in action on June 25, 2013 in Austin, Texas. The reason I was able to watch? It was live-streamed over the internet. Everyone saw Sen. Davis and her exhausting filibuster. But since the unblinking eye of the internet web camera has no moral or prejudicial filter the world saw not only a calm and composed Wendy but an out of control and unruly crowd. On this night Wendy Davis indeed became a media darling…Queen of Abortion Rights. How long her popularity will last is anyone’s guess. Angry mobs, demanding they be heard and followed over elected officials, are a fickle lot. Another special session has already been called to reorganize a civilized debate surrounding these same issues…it’s a hot topic.
Of course, all of this falls against the ugly backdrop of Kermit Gosnell. Gosnell performed some 16,000 abortions over 31 years at his "clinic" in west Philadelphia - a poor neighborhood in one of the poorest big cities in the United States.
According to those responsible for regulating abortion clinics, his practice was fine. But they hadn't checked…or listened to complaints from doctors and other professionals…or done anything after two women died from treatment there. District Attorney Seth Williams reported, “Children were being born alive…they breathed and moved, they cried, and he severed their spinal cords and murdered them.” Gosnell was only stopped in 2010, when police executing a drug warrant entered the clinic and found a house of horrors. Included were feet in jars, bones in drains and fetuses stored in freezers above refrigerators that held workers' lunches.
The gruesome details - including the dangerous, even lethal practice of using untrained staff to sedate women - are cataloged in the grand jury report. Last month a judge sentenced Gosnell to three consecutive life sentences for killing three newborns by snipping their spinal cords at the neck. These details beg the question, “What specific facts about bringing abortion clinics up to state and federal hospital standards does Wendy oppose?” FULL POST
Posted 7/31/12 at 10:26 AM | Paul Pettit
One of the many responsibilities and high satisfactions of parenting is taking your child to vote for the first time. It ranks right up there with taking them to get their first drivers license...or watching them graduate from high school. In our free society voting is both a right and a privilege. Think of all the countries with dictators who don't allow voting. You don't have to tell your kids WHOM they should vote for...but it is a wonderful time to have a discussion about issues. Teach them they have a voice in their city, county, state, and national debates.
Researchers tell us only a small percentage of registered voters ever turn out to cast their ballot. And that is out of the registered voters! Step one is to make sure your son or daughter is registered. Let them know their vote is important and their opinion needs to be heard. Step two is to make sure they get to the polls and actually vote.
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
- Edmund Burke
Irish orator, philosopher, & politician (1729 - 1797)
Posted 7/19/12 at 4:26 PM | Paul Pettit
I used to think hiking was silly. I saw grown men and women walking up and down hills and across valleys and thought, "If only they were on a motorcycle...or about to paraglide." I viewed hiking as boring.
Now that I'm older I've found the hidden wisdom in hiking. Last week our family hiked in the Sangre De Cristo mountain range near Westcliffe, Colorado. Here are some life lessons we learned:
Pack carefully for the journey. It matters what you take with you on a hike. It might rain. You will get thirsty. Are you bringing a lunch? And yet, bringing too much "stuff" bogs you down and slows down your trip. Such is life. Leave your burdens at the cross and learn to forgive often. God reminds us His mercies are new every morning.
Picking your trail is critical. At the trail head (the beginning of your trek) several paths may look the same. And yet... one path leads to Venable Falls with a large lake and waterfall. While another trail leads up to the rocky heights of Horn Peak. So it is in the real world. Decisions like where you go to school or who you date and eventually marry end up setting much of your life course. Choose wisely! FULL POST
Posted 6/18/12 at 9:06 AM | Paul Pettit |
26 year-old Webb Simpson won the US Open golf tournament Sunday by shooting weekend rounds of 68-68, but his wife, Dowd, almost cost him the tournament by her selection of his morning drink. "I accidently got Webb regular coffee instead of decaf so he was bouncing off the walls this morning," Dowd, who is 7 months pregnant with the couples' second child said Sunday afternoon.
"I had a peace all day," said Simpson, a devout, born-again Christian. "I knew it was a tough golf course. ... I probably prayed more the last three holes than I've ever done in my life."
The Simpson's became first-time parents with the birth of their son, James, 16 months ago. They left baby James back at home in North Carolina with grandma and grandpa and enjoyed San Francisco together all week...one of their first times ever being away from their baby. Dowd was asked if this was how she envisioned her husband winning his frist major. "I think that the person that writes the story does a much better job creating it than I could ever imagine," Dowd said, in a calm voice. "I just live in the anticipation of it."
Was Webb sad that his baby boy wasn't with him on Father's Day to celebrate the victory? "It's bittersweet," the soon-to-be father of two (she's due on Aug. 3rd) acknowledged. "We couldn't have a better week. I needed her with me, because I never felt nerves like I did today. A lot of times I had to hit my legs, because I couldn't really feel them. ... I couldn't imagine being here without her."
Simpson often tweets Bible verses and Christian quotes, and attends the PGA Tour's Bible study group led by Rev. Larry Moody. When the final competitor's putt slid by the 18th hole...wide left...Simpson whispered, "Praise the Lord." On Monday morning Simpson tweeted, "Thanks to everyone for the support and encouragement. Humbled to win the US Open!! Thankful to God for His grace in my life."
Posted 5/9/12 at 11:12 AM | Paul Pettit |
Most effective fathers I work with face the following temptations:
1) The pull to spend more time at work and leave the "leftovers" for the family. I have never heard an older man reflecting back on his life say, "I only wish I had spent more time at the office."
2) Thinking, "I'll spend more time wih the kids once they are older." That time never arrives. In fact, once our children hit the teen years they often desire to spend less time with dad.
3) Assuming "quality time" trumps "quanity time." Think the once-a-year family vacation should be enough? Its not. Its the little day-in, day-out interactions that leave such a lasting legacy.
4) Reasoning, "we might as well divorce since we fight so often." The family research statistics are clear; an in-tact, lasting marriage is better for children than divorce. Go to marriage counseling and try and avoid divorce.
5) Thinking, "the beautiful woman down the street could meet my needs better than my wife." All humans are fallen. Only Jesus Christ can meet our deepest needs. FULL POST
Posted 4/19/12 at 1:59 PM | Paul Pettit |
Bobby Petrino, Cathy Samford, and the Pettit dinner table
We had a fairly strange week last week. Two big national news items dominated the talking time around the Pettit dinner table. One was the messy firing of the head football coach at the University of Arkansas; Bobby Petrino. The other was the equally unfortunate dismissal of a high school volleyball coach and science teacher at Heritage Christian Academy in Rockwall, Texas; Cathy Samford. How did these seemingly unrelated and distant events collude to interrupt our family’s peace? Our son, Austin, is a freshman at the University of Arkansas and a huge football fan. Our daughter, Haley, is a freshman at Heritage Christian Academy in Rockwall, Texas and played volleyball for Cathy Samford.
Bobby Petrino was a winning coach at Arkansas. I took our son, Evan, up to Fayetteville in the fall of 2011 for Homecoming to watch the Razorbacks defeat a very good University of South Carolina team. The campus was covered in Razorback Red. Tents and tailgaters were everywhere. I had never been to a Southeastern Conference football game before but everything I had heard about these popular events proved true. Some of the male students dressed in suit and tie. Since it was Homecoming the entire city was packed with alumni travelling in from around the southeastern parts of the United States. We attended a Campus Crusade for Christ picnic before the game and the environment was electric as the clock ticked down toward kickoff. The Hogs won that game and many more as they ended the season 11-2, their only losses coming at the hands of LSU and Alabama…the two teams that ended up playing for the National Championship. Arkansas football was back and the promise for Coach Petrino and the 2012 season was sky high.
Then, word came out on Easter Sunday that coach Petrino, had wrecked his Harley-Davidson on a country road in Crosses, Arkansas. But, he soon appeared at a press conference wearing a neck brace, bandaged and bloodied, yet telling everyone he was thankful to be alive and that no one else was involved in the accident. A local reporter even specifically asked, “You were alone, right Bobby?” To which the coach sheepishly responded, “Yeah.” Except by now the whole world knows that Petrino was indeed not alone, but had 25 year old Jessica Dorrell riding on the back seat. She was the tall, blonde volleyball player Petrino selected out of 159 applicants for the job of Student Athlete Development Coordinator, bypassing several highly qualified candidates who had much more football experience than Dorrell. Why? We now know that Dorrell was involved in an “inappropriate relationship” with her supervisor, Coach Petrino. A sad, sordid affair indeed.
We were wondering how our son, Austin, was taking the news since many on the University of Arkansas campus were saying that morals didn’t matter…what really mattered was football wins and losses. We were pleased to hear that while Austin was still a strong Bobby Petrino supporter and knew that a brilliant football mind would be moving on he also recognized that “character counts” when working with student-athletes. Austin texted, “I’m going to miss coach Petrino, but I guess if you’ll cheat on your wife, you’ll cheat on your team.” Austin was a successful quarterback and defensive end in high school and a pitcher and first-basemen on his baseball team. Over time he’s learned the valuable lessons of honesty and teamwork…lessons Coach Petrino is painfully still learning.
Like Coach Petrino, Coach Cathy Samford was also dismissed from her coaching position. As a divorced, single mother of two young children, Samford was hired to coach volleyball and teach science to high school and middle school students. Samford and the Heritage Christian Academy girls volley ball team had a successful season…advancing to the regional round of the state playoffs. However, toward the end of the volleyball season, Samford became pregnant without ever having re-married, violating the morals clause in her teaching and coaching contract. FULL POST
Posted 4/9/12 at 9:25 AM | Paul Pettit |
Bubba Watson, the 33 year-old professional golfer from Bagdad, Florida won the 76th Masters in style with a hooking wedge shot from the pine straw at the hallowed grounds of the Augusta National Golf Club in Augusta, Georgia on Sunday, April 8th, 2012. But it was his becoming a father only days earlier that many golfing experts are crediting with Watson’s ability to slip on the coveted green jacket. Watson and his wife, Angie, welcomed an adopted baby son, Caleb, just last week. “To go home to my son, it’s going to be fun,” said Watson, who was overcome by emotion almost before the final putt dropped. After acknowledging his University of Georgia fan base, Watson testified on this Easter Sunday by announcing, “First of all, I’d like to thank my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.” Many felt this day would never come for the long-hitting Watson, whose prodigious length off the tee often left him out of bounds or in the trees bordering the lush fairways of the manicured courses played on the PGA Tour.
Watson mentioned he now moves on to other tournaments, other adventures in life, and other roles with the title of “Daddy” high on his list. “I haven’t changed a diaper yet, probably going to have to change one soon,” Watson said. After securing the victory he broke down and cried on his mother Molly's shoulder as they hugged on the 10th green. The new champion's success is even more impressive given that he has never had a formal golf lesson in his life, does not employ a sports psychologist, and is reported to suffer from Attention Deficit Disorder. Several times Watson has blown a lead and the chance to win other tournaments by taking risky shots with his go-for-broke style. Angie was asked if her husband sufferes from ADD, "Oh, he definitely has it!" Bubba is a self-taught shot maker ever since his father first showed him how to hold a club. Friends are saying the prospect of Watson being a father has already helped to settle and ground him…evidenced in his calm demeanor as he played the final few holes of the pressure-filled Masters. This was an especially touching victory for the first-time dad as Bubba’s own father Garry died from throat cancer in 2010. Garry introduced his son to golf when he took him to a golf course at the tender age of six. And despite becoming a dedicated player he’s never had a formal lesson in his life. Bubba, a committed born-again Christian who is a regular attender of the tour’s Bible study group said after his Easter Sunday win, “My dad's not here, but he's watching in heaven.” FULL POST
Posted 3/23/12 at 1:20 PM | Paul Pettit |
Responsible fatherhood is once again fashionable. Look no further than the 2012 Presidential election to see candidates on stage surrounded by their children. Polling research shows the public prefers electing candidates who are faithful spouses and effective parents. When whispers concerning Herman Cain’s alleged infidelities reached a crescendo Cain was finally forced to make campaign appearances with his wife and children. When it was proven John Edwards fathered a child apart from his wife, Elizabeth, his attempt to move into the Oval Office was effectively over. After the messy Monica Lewinsky affair, it took daughter Chelsea Clinton, literally walking hand-in-hand between her parents on the White House lawn, to begin attempts at public restoration. In politics, paternity is powerful.
Mitt and Ann Romney raised five sons. Four of them often appear on the campaign trail with dad announcing, “Our son Ben would be here as well, but he’s busy at Medical School.” Not to be out-fathered, Rick and Karen Santorum sometimes appear with all eight of their children. Polling among women voters reveals the loving attention Santorum lavishes upon his special needs daughter, Bella, has endeared him to mothers everywhere. On the other hand, voters have mostly disapproved of Newt Gingrich’s marital history. After second wife Marianne, accused Mr. Gingrich of advocating for an “open marriage” during their time together, it took Newt’s two adult daughters, appearing at their father’s side at press conferences, to defend their dad and beat back the media firestorm. FULL POST