Infertility is an issue that many couples face. It can be very painful, lonely, and isolating. Following is a perspective from one couple that has confronted this issue.
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My husband and I are Christians. We were baptized, we read our Bible, we attend church on Wednesday nights and Sunday mornings, we have been involved in home fellowships and Bible studies, we pray—but as the years dragged on [with our infertility diagnosis], we honestly both started to doubt the promises of God’s Word.
The real root of our problem was that we were being religious hypocrites like the Pharisees in Matthew 15. We were drawing near to God with our mouths, honoring Him with our lips but our hearts were far from Him and our worship was in vain (Matthew 15:7-9). And very similar to Jesus’ parable about the Pharisees being “blind leaders of the blind” (Matthew 15:14), in our own home, my husband and I were like the blind leading the blind and before long we found ourselves in a ditch. We needed the spiritual blindness of our hearts to be healed.
After years of battling in the dark and dirty trenches of infertility, we were losing hope that we would ever become parents—and even worse, the flame of our faith was slowly being extinguished. We were living in a “dry and thirsty land where there is no water” (Psalm 63:1). Like the Psalmist writes, our flesh and our heart were failing us. We finally cried out to God in desperation and said, “We don't understand how infertility can be your good and perfect plan for our life. It doesn't make any sense to us, but we are going to choose to fix our eyes on Jesus and trust the promises of God’s Word.”
God answered our prayers and pulled us out of the pit of despair and He became “the strength of [our] heart and [our] portion forever” (Psalm 73:26) and we again found a renewed hope and faith in Him. The worship song called, “Open the Eyes of My Heart” became our daily battle cry—and we constantly prayed the lyrics of the song, “I want to see You. To see You high and lifted up. Shining in the light of Your glory. Pour out Your power and love. As we sing Holy, Holy, Holy.”
Through this season of suffering and sorrow, God had been preparing the soil of our hearts, so He could grow the seeds of His good and perfect will in our lives. Although my womb was still barren and tears and the throbbing pain of infertility was still a constant companion—little by little, we began to praise God through the pain—and faithful to His Word the eyes of our heart were opened and we could begin to see that God still had a plan and a purpose for us.
In John 15, Jesus tells us that He is the “true vine” and we are the “branches.” Jesus says, “He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5). God promises repeatedly in His Word that as you abide in Him you “will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit." (Jeremiah 17:8).
There is a divine plan and purpose to your season of sorrow—and God says that, “Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy” (Psalm 126:5). What a beautiful promise that your tears are not shed in vain—and that in due season, you will harvest in joyous songs as you “produce fruit in keeping with repentance” (Matthew 3:8).
Each day as you wait for God’s plans and purpose for your life to emerge, I encourage you to tend your spiritual garden by planting the Scriptures deep within the soil of your heart—and before long, you will see the new life and the beauty of God’s promises blossom and flower.
My prayer for you is that your faith would become like a mighty tree, your strong branches would stretch higher into the heavens than ever before and your life would bear the sweetest, juiciest fruit—“fruit that will last” (John 15:6).
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