Friday Tidings
4/6/17 at 03:04 PM 0 Comments

Porn Wins Marriage Loses

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“My marriage was a complete lie.” my friend wrote.

I could sense the tears that came with those words. The beautiful beginning—complete with a flowing white gown, ring bearer and flower girl, had come to this twisted ending.

She then wrote, “We were doomed from the start, because I didn’t know what he was hiding.”

The story came out in staggering sentences. It’s one thing to sit on the other side of a table, reach across to hold a hand and offer a measure of comfort. It’s totally another to read the devastation, line by line in an email.

Chalk up another one on the side of Porn Wins.

She found out about her husband’s porn use when he’d inadvertently left his favorite computer site open by mistake. Upon questioning, there was a confession, apologies, and a sincere desire to quit.

“But that was a lie too. He never quit, he just found different ways to deceive me.”

Yet, the marriage continued with grace and forgiveness. Then came his slightly accusatory statements, like, “You need to trust me.” “You’re making it a bigger deal than it is.” “You need to get over it.”

There were even hints that it was all her fault with statements like, “If only you weren’t so uptight.”

“I kept believing he’d quit. I had his passwords and this was supposed to help me feel secure. But then I found out about an affair, but there had been others too. I didn’t think it was possible to feel any worse—my heart felt like it would explode.”

Experts say that a loved one’s betrayal is one of the worst things a person can face.

“I wish more people knew how awful porn can be. It isn’t just innocent pictures. I married a normal guy on the outside, but porn addiction was destroying him on the inside. I can’t say how awful it was.”

Here in America, there are a million divorces every year.

It has been reported that nearly 500,000 of those resulted from a partner’s use of porn.

My friend is now one of those statistics. But knowing her, she will use her experience to help others mired in this pit. And with porn’s prevalence there are plenty who need help.

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