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Posted 4/28/16 at 9:01 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Don’t Use Your Kids As Your Emotional Outlet!

Susie’s mom was depressed again. Her dad’s bosses were upset at him, but he wouldn’t smooth things over. He was standing on principle, he said. But meanwhile, where was the paycheck going to come from?

As soon as Susie came home from school she could sense that her mom was itching to unload on her. So she took the lunchboxes away from her sisters and said to them, “let’s play dressup! Why don’t you both run and find all of my fun dresses and shoes and some of Mommy’s old makeup, and we’ll have a fashion show?” Her little sisters ran off, and she hoped they’d be gone for enough time that she could calm her mother down.

As her mom prepared the after-school snack she started moaning about her dad. And little Susan listened, like she always did, hoping that spilling everything to Susie would stop her mom from worrying her little sisters.

Susie grew up. She got used to running interference for her siblings. She got used to judging her mother’s moods and trying to manage her mother’s emotions. And she started to really dislike her father, who was always so irresponsible and got her mother so upset in the first place. FULL POST

Posted 4/13/16 at 1:45 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Your Pastor Has Your Keys

Jeremiah 3:15

"And I will give you pastors according to mine heart, which shall feed you with knowledge and understanding."

It's my belief that when God created your Pastor he had you in mind. The office of "Pastor" is one of the 5 ministry gifts from God. There are many Pastors but there's only one Pastor destined for you. You are to be held accountable to him/her concerning your salvation and life decisions while him/her is responsible for your spiritual development.

Look at your gift and imagine its in a vault. God has the master key and he gave the spare to your Pastor. While many others (Pastors,Evangelist & Prophets) might have a key that fits their key won't work only your God ordained Pastor has a key that fits and unlocks your gift. Your Pastor is the key to your development!

I challenge you to serve in your assembly in order to develop. We have some Strong Leaders in the Bible and they all served. Elisha served Elijah before he received his mantle, David served Saul before he became King, The Disciples served Jesus then became Apostles and even Jesus had to obey his Parents before he began Ministry. FULL POST

Posted 4/8/16 at 11:44 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Not Everyone Is Going to Like You

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t spend much of my life trying to impress the people around me. Whether in the workplace, my friendships or even at church, I was constantly on guard to try and impress in hopes of finding acceptance. It feels good to be liked by others, but trying to constantly gain approval by everybody is also a game that will keep you on your toes 24/7.

When it came to group conversations, I was constantly stressing whether or not I said had said the right things or made the correct responses. I spent so much of my life trying to gain everyone’s approval. It was draining, time-consuming and always had me living life at the expense of pleasing people regardless of my personal thoughts or ideals. Even as a pastor, you yearn for that approval.

Living for the approval of others will make you a slave to their opinions. Living for the approval of others is a draining process that will never harvest eternal fulfillment. Living for the approval of others is a waste of time. FULL POST

Posted 3/31/16 at 11:43 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Is Marriage Really That Hard?

Marriage is hard.

Many people have difficult marriages. But is marriage itself necessarily difficult?

My husband and I were recently debating that question, because honestly, to us, marriage isn’t hard right now. It’s rather lovely and encouraging.

That doesn’t mean marriage has always been easy. But we can link each difficult time to one simple factor: both of us, or one of us, was being self-focused, looking only at our own pain.Once we broke through that and learned to be generous again, marriage changed.

If two people genuinely love and care for each other and want the best for each other (which is hopefully why you married in the first place!), then putting several small habits in place can set your marriage up for major success. Like I talked about last week, talk for twenty minutes a day. That’s not that hard! Speak the positive about your spouse far more than you speak the negative–scan for things to praise, and say them out loud. Ask directly for what you wantand need. Be generous sexually. Be affectionate. Study your spouse, learn what makes them feel loved, and then do little things each day to show your husband love. FULL POST

Posted 3/31/16 at 11:33 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

How to Embrace Culture Without Selling Your Soul

When I became a Christian, I told myself that I was going to live a life that looked different from the world around me. I wasn’t going to succumb to the lies that society fed me on a daily basis, and I sure as heck wasn’t going to base my worth off what I had or how much I was making. I was told to ignore the American dream and instead, pursue the likes of Christ. Much of my thought process derived from the leaders and mentors I had pour into me, and some of it derived from reading passages in the Bible such as, Romans 12:2, John 17:16 and John 15:19. FULL POST

Posted 3/29/16 at 8:20 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Tattoos: Are They Godly?

1 Corinthians 6:12a says:

“Everything is permissible for me” -but not everything is beneficial.

The real question is, is it a sin? To answer the question immediately: It's not a sin to get a tattoo.

There is nothing inherently wrong with a tattoo. There is something wrong (very wrong) with idolatry and its pagan practices origin.

The most common verse people point to when discussing tattoos is Leviticus 19:28:

Do not cut your bodies for the dead or put tattoo marks on yourselves. I am the LORD.

Here is something else in the same chapter:

27 Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard. FULL POST

Posted 3/28/16 at 10:03 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

When You’re Angry at God Over How He Sees Marriage

Have you ever been angry at God over how He sees marriage?

What about words like “submission”? Or what about verses like “do not deprive each other“? Have those ever gotten your back up?

At one of the Girl Talk events I did last month I met Anna. She had driven quite a way to come and hear me, and after the event she emailed me her testimony to let me know how much of a role I had played and how God had used me to help her find peace in her marriage. It brought me to tears. And I want to share it with you today, because I think many of us have walked roads similar to Anna’s.

Here’s Anna: FULL POST

Posted 3/28/16 at 9:52 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

9 Things I Will Teach My Son

1. It’s okay to have doubts.

Growing up I was always indirectly taught by other to never question God’s ways, nor should I doubt his existence and all-mighty power. But the older I became, the more questions I had about God. It was as if doubting was sought as complete disbelief, which in my case was not true at all.

The act of doubting is part of our human nature and an indirect connection with the fall of man. Doubt has been embedded into our inner-being as humans. It’s a natural state. My doubts actually kickstarted my campaign towards becoming closer to God. A lot of things didn’t seem to make sense to me, and my doubts are what led me to begin studying more. Studying God’s Word more brought me closer to him, and being closer to him gave me peace and understanding about who he was.

It was as if doubting was seen as complete disbelief, which in my case was not true at all. The act of doubting is part of our human nature and an indirect connection with the fall of man. Doubt has been embedded into our inner-being as humans. It’s a natural state. My doubt kickstarted my campaign towards becomes closer to God. FULL POST

Posted 3/24/16 at 2:36 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

What to Do When You Feel Disconnected From God

Although heartbreaking and brutal, the death of Jesus is hands down the most beautiful act of love this world has ever seen. And while the scriptures paint a beautifully epic timeline of this event, there is one part that has always seemed to create curiosity within my heart—the time of God’s silence while Jesus was on the cross.

“When Jesus had tasted it, he said, “It is finished!” Then he bowed his head and released his spirit.”—John 19:30 

Why was God silent? Where did he Go? Why did he forsake Jesus?

My wife and I discussed this section of the scriptures, only to find ourselves having been both confused as a child, curious as to why God would leave his son alone on the cross.

At about three o’clock, Jesus called out with a loud voice, “Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?” which means “My God, my God, why have you abandoned me?”—Matthew 27:46 FULL POST

Posted 3/22/16 at 7:51 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Impartation: Sons vs Servants

In Bible days, a mantle was an outer cloak used for additional covering and warmth, especially at night. The mantle was essentially the only "blanket" the person had so even when used as a pledge the law required it be returned before bedtime.

From the idea of something that "covers" in the natural, a mantle easily comes to represent spiritual covering also. Mantles usually refer to spiritual authority and anointing. A great example of a spiritual mantle which passed from one person to another is Elijah and Elisha.

Elijah was a prophet in Israel and Elisha was his student or disciple. Elisha ministered to Elijah and studied under him, earnestly desiring to operate the way he did. He realized that the time was drawing near when Elijah would leave the earth. Elijah also knew the time was soon and repeatedly told Elisha to depart from him. Instead, Elisha pressed in closer and refused to leave him. FULL POST

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