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Posted 3/27/15 at 11:54 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Ten Truths About Emotionally Destructive Marriages

If you’re in an emotionally destructive marriage, filled with emotional, physical, sexual, or spiritual abuse, I pray that this post will help you today.

In January I challenged everybody to the Ultimate Marriage Reading Challenge–read one book a month all year, on a set subject. This month’s was on setting boundaries in your marriage. For those in marriages characterized by mutual respect, where this wasn’t an issue, I suggested the awesome book Ask It by Andy Stanley. Then I had several other suggestions for those in different situations, culminating with The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick. And today I’d like to share 10 truths about those marriages, using many of Leslie’s words from the book. FULL POST

Posted 3/27/15 at 10:04 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

8 Qualities to Look for In Great Friends

Community is a big part of the life we live. And while some of us may have a bigger sense of community than others, the importance of having friends to confide in, spend time with and celebrate alongside are pinnacle to living the community-based life Jesus has called us to.

Finding new friends is easy, but finding great friends can be quite tough. True friendships should last a lifetime, and I believe these 10 qualities are a good start when searching for friends you can truly do life with.

1. Reliable.

Flakes are lame. Nobody likes to spend time with someone who constantly backs out of plans and shows up late. You’ll find yourself getting more and more frustrated with this person each and every time it happens. Mind you, not everyone is perfect, but you want someone in your life who is reliable and can be counted on.

2. Trustworthy.

Don’t set yourself for friendship failure by befriending someone you cannot trust. Friendships with trust issues will always be a burden, especially if they are not handled carefully. FULL POST

Posted 3/26/15 at 2:36 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Funny Apologies from Kids: A Note, Flowers, and a Laugh

I have a friend named Bruce who is hilarious himself. He’s always posting on Facebook. I featured him in a column a while ago on dating your spouse. My daughter used to baby-sit for him.

And everyone in our small town knows him because his Facebook posts are often hilarious. So when I saw this last week, I couldn’t stop laughing.

His 6-year-old daughter apparently figured out how to purchase things from iTunes on his account, and she purchased something called “the doll house”. This was AFTER she’d already been reprimanded for purchasing credits for Pet Store. So she presented her mother with this:

 “I cant controle my Body.”

There’s wisdom in that 6-year-old!

I love it. Kids have so little impulse control, and as parents one of the things we need to teach them is to own up when they do something wrong. My friends made her make restitution and write this apology note, and she obviously “got” it. FULL POST

Posted 3/26/15 at 1:23 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Victim or Victor: Dealing with a Dark Past

Today I want to share with you an email I received from wonderful, godly woman I know. In the past, this woman has faced terrible things, but this is not a story of victimization. It is a story of victory. Praise God that our heavenly Father does not leave us even in our darkest times. I am so happy she chose to share her heart with us on this topic, and I hope it encourages you in that whatever has happened in the past, God can and will give the victory today and in the future. Stop running from your past. There is always so much hope in any life yielded to our Savior.


Dear Full time Girl,
  Quite some time ago, I replied to one of your blog posts. I believe it was a response to a post a young woman had made regarding having worth, finding worth and feeling worthy in the eyes of her boyfriend, because she had been sexually violated at some point in her past.

I offered to share my story at that time, but have put off the telling of it. This has proven to be more of a challenge to me than I had anticipated. First, because the details and memories are painful. I have spent many years working to gain the victory over my thinking regarding my past. Second, because giving my story tempts me to ask the question: WHY? Why me? Why does God allow bad things happen to Good people, and innocent children? FULL POST

Posted 3/25/15 at 2:59 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

The Greatest Failing of Godly Pastor-Husbands

Many a preacher who loves the Lord, enjoys his ministry, and seems to be doing well, wishes he had married differently.

His wife does not appreciate him sufficiently.

Give me a break.

Here’s what this looks like…..

Pastor Chuck is sold out to the Lord and completely committed to the ministry to which he was called. The church he serves is doing well. Everything is fine, except for one small thing….

His wife irritates him sometimes.

Marjorie is a Christian, don’t misunderstand. She supports her man in his work for the Lord, and she teaches a Bible class herself. It’s just that…well, Marge finds fault with Chuck sometime. She tells him the sermon last Sunday could have benefited from more prayer and study, that the striped tie does not go with that shirt, and that he’s getting a little heavy around the middle.

Pastor Chuck knows that Marge prays for him but she embarrasses him when she is too brutally honest with people. Like the other day when Deacon Everhardt came over to check on the fuse box at the pastorium and she unloaded on him, saying the wiring in the house was 30 years old and dangerous and the committee should hire an electrician to go over it. The last time Everhardt visited about a plumbing problem, Marge told him the toilet wasn’t flushing well and if they loved the Lord the way they say they do, the committee would send over a professional plumber to give the whole system a going over. FULL POST

Posted 3/24/15 at 11:31 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Outsmarting the Compition

Hey, I passed some girls today at the mall, the ones you wish you looked like. They didn’t seem to have the same sparkle as you though. I saw that boy, the one you wish you had. He was with a girl, but still looking at every other girl who walked by. I saw those clothes the ones you wish you could wear. They didn’t seem all that great since everyone else is wearing them. I wasn’t all that impressed with what you don’t have because I know what you already do have. You have a beautiful heart after God, the promise of a love story written by His hand, and a unique style and personality all your own and perfectly made for His plans for you. Why do you want so badly to be like everyone else when God knows you were made for so much more? You have a bigger purpose. A heavenly purpose to use what he has given you to bring honor and glory to his kingdom, and to bring others to Christ.

I’m a girl. I know how it is. I can fall into the same trap everyone can. We scroll through pages and pages of people we wished we looked like. She has perfect hair. She has perfect teeth. She has a perfect body. She has the perfect smile. She has perfect clothes. FULL POST

Posted 3/24/15 at 9:49 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

5 Facts Church Members Are Unclear About Their Pastors

“Shepherd the church of God which He purchased with His own blood” (Acts 20:28).

In my experience, most pastors hesitate to teach the biblical understanding of the role of pastors because to do so might sound self-serving, as though they were trying to carve out a bigger role for themselves in leading the church. This is a serious error for which we are now paying as many congregations are turning the minister into a hired hand, employing him as an errand boy, or treating him as an executive brought in to lead their “country club.”

Pastor, preach the whole Word of God. Be bold in declaring its truth. Then, having done this, go forth and set new standards for humbly serving the congregation. Let them see you leading by serving and no one will ever mind calling you their pastorand following you. However, lord it over them and dominate the decisions and no one who knows his Bible will want to follow you.

What follows is the truth on the role of pastors as taught in Scripture. It’s not “all” the truth, for this is but one simple article. However, it cuts to the heart of the issues…. FULL POST

Posted 3/23/15 at 11:41 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

20 Bible Verses On Being Thankful

Here are 20 Bible verses on being thankful:

1. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

2. Psalm 107:1 

Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever!

3. Ephesians 5:20 

Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,

4. Colossians 3:15-17  FULL POST

Posted 3/23/15 at 9:59 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Pastor Living Below Standard of His Church Leaders

Here’s a situation that might surprise some church members to know preachers deal with and that it is frequently a problem.

The pastor visits in the homes of his members and notices that they live more luxuriously than he and his family. Their house is larger, built better, and is located in a classier neighborhood. They dress well, have a pool, and their cars are always the latest model.

The pastor and his wife notice these things; count on it. And as their children grow into the teen years, they also become aware that some in the church are wealthier than they.

Now, every family is different. One would hope the pastor’s spouse and family are so intent on serving God in this community that material things are a distant second to them. You would hope they rejoice in the success some families enjoy, and let it go at that.

That’s not always the case. At times, the pastor and family come down with a severe case of “why not us, Lord?” Also known in the medical books as “Why can’t we live the way they do?” FULL POST

Posted 3/20/15 at 11:08 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Forgiveness:Such a Powerful Concept

“….accepting one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a complaint against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven you, so also you must forgive” (Colossians 3:13).

For reasons I never quite understood the old gentleman carried around a load of bitterness, all of it directed toward me his pastor. In a business conference when we were discussing calling a young man as our youth director, the old man stood and poured out venom on the proceedings. He was clearly angry about something, all out of proportion to what we were discussing.

“I have no idea what it is between you and him,” said a man in his Sunday School class. “Actually,” he continued, “he’s a good teacher. I like him.”

I actually knew what it was. A year earlier, the gentleman was convinced that I had not spoken to him and his wife at a church function. “You talked to everyone there except us.” I was completely unaware of this and apologized, then drove across the city to his home and apologized to his wife. A sweet lady, she said it was nothing, that her husband was just being himself. FULL POST

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