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Posted 6/30/16 at 11:17 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Dealing With Sexual Pain? Vaginismus vs. Simple Pain

That’s one of the most common questions I get from women about to get married as virgins. Every Monday I like to take a reader question and try to answer it, and today I’d like to tackle the subject of pain during intercourse on your wedding night, and hopefully set some fears aside and help out others.

And some people really could use some help, because I saw this message on a forum I belong to last weekend, too:

We got married 5 days ago and it’s been too painful to consummate yet — any suggestions? FULL POST

Posted 6/13/16 at 8:28 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Stop Telling People Who Are Hurting to Pray Harder

I remember sitting on the floor of our youth building one Sunday morning while one of the dads who attended our church led a small group for me and four other boys. I was bored, I was ready to leave, and I was hoping he didn’t ask me if I memorized the Bible verse from last week; because I didn’t. I was around twelve years old and had just begun a dark and weary descent into what I didn’t know would be a six-year battle with severe depression. All I knew was this; I didn’t want to sit around with people who didn’t know me and act like everything in my life was okay. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired, and I no longer wanted to pretend like my life was just dandy.

Our small-group leader had asked the group to share what God was doing in their lives and how the rest of the group could be praying. After all the other boys had shared with the group what God was up to in their lives, it was now my turn to share. I debated whether or not to give some shallow and cliche’ answer. But while I knew that would have been the easy way out of having a deep conversation, I decided I no longer wanted to act like nothing was wrong. Instead, I told everyone that I was struggling, hurting and having a hard time with my relationship with God. Blank stares began to fixate themselves on me. Confusion filled the group. It was as if everyone was thinking, “Wow! He actually took the question seriously.” FULL POST

Posted 6/10/16 at 12:11 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Why “20 Minutes of Action” Can Steal a Life

Like many of you, I’ve been sickened by the story of the Stanford swimmer who sexually assaulted an unconscious woman, and received only 6 months in jail.

And especially sickened by his father’s letter to the judge, asking the judge to consider the boy’s “20 years of life” rather than “20 minutes of action”. After all, what’s twenty minutes?

When I read the victim’s 7000 word statement, I was cheering all the way.

So today, while I’m still a little under the weather and I’m having all these deep thoughts, I’d like to share a few things that have occurred to me.

1. Rape Culture Can Make Rape Seem Not That Bad

Don’t take this the wrong way, but I have a little bit of sympathy for Brock Turner. Not sympathy in the sense of “he could have had such a good life” or “it’s too bad he’s getting all this media attention”, but rather sympathy because all Brock did was live out what he had been taught. FULL POST

Posted 6/9/16 at 2:59 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Is There Such a Thing as a Private Relationship with God?

I’ve run into a lot of people in my life who seem to think that their relationship with God is for them to know and for others to not worry about. And while I agree with them to a certain extent, the biblical text is clear that our relationships with God are called to be anything but private. Personal, yes. Private, no.

One group of passages that I frequently refer to in regards to one’s call to a life of public faith is Matthew 5:14-16, which states the following,

“You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.” FULL POST

Posted 5/19/16 at 9:57 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Do We Know What it Means to Serve our Husbands?

Have you ever really studied your husband?

I mean really studied him? Do you know what makes him tick? Do you know what makes him discouraged, and what makes him feel like he can take on the world? Do you know what his biggest fear is, and what his biggest success is? Do you know his dreams, his goals, his worries?

It’s Wednesday, the day when we talk marriage, and today I want to issue a big challenge to us wives: Can we become students of our husbands? I don’t mean students in terms of him teaching us something (though that’s likely a part of it); I mean students more in the way that Thomas Edison was a student of science. He ate science, breathed science, lived science, and was always trying to figure it out.

I believe that kind of focused study is what God is calling us to.

Let me explain.

In Ephesians 5:21-22, we read this:

(21) Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (22) Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. FULL POST

Posted 5/11/16 at 11:20 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Should I Tell My Husband I Fantasize/Fake It?

If you’re faking orgasm or fantasizing while you make love, should you confess to your husband?

Wow. That’s a tough one! Every Monday I like to take a reader question and answer it, and this is one I’ve had a few people ask. One woman gets right to the point:

Should I tell my husband if I fantasize about other guys alone and while with him sometimes? Or will I just hurt him?

Another woman says:

Sex has never felt that great for me, and my husband used to get really upset about that and wonder what was wrong with me. So I started faking orgasm. And I’m tired of faking, but I don’t want to deal with all the fights if I tell him what’s been happening. What should I do?

I thought I’d try to tackle both of these on the same day since they both have to do with honesty about sex. I’m going to ask my husband to chime in on one of these, too! So let’s get started. FULL POST

Posted 5/11/16 at 11:08 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

God, Patience, And The Swing Set

I absolutely love taking our son, Finch to the park and letting him explore the awesomeness that is swinging. His facial expressions say it all, and uncontrollable laughter lets us know that he’s having the time of his life. He loves every bit of the adrenaline.

After a few times of taking him to our local park, I noticed something that began to grab my attention while pushing him on the swing-set. Each time the swing he was in would start to slow its pace and begin they journey back stillness, he would begin to make a face and kick his little legs to as if to tell me, “Push me higher!”

My son isn’t happy with being at a standstill, and I think many of us can relate as it pertains to our journey’s with God. It’s not that he’s being impatient with ill intent, he just really enjoys the beauty of his father moving him forward again. It’s exciting. It’s rejuvenating. It’s comforting. FULL POST

Posted 5/9/16 at 8:27 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

9 Things Everyone Should Do When Reading the Bible

It’s been about eight years since I first picked up a Bible and read it out of pure desire and intrigue. I’ve had access to a Bible most of my life, but the reality is that it spent most of it’s being collecting dust on a shelf in my room. Every once in a while, it would get dusted off only to be used as an accessory while attending the yearly Christmas Eve and/or Easter morning church services.

For much of my life, the Bible was nothing more to me than a book, but it wasn’t until I dropped my pride and opened up my eyes that I realized this was no book; it was a lifeline, a safety net, a second chance, and an answer to the vast amount of questions I had about my life. I was hooked. My love for Bible did not come easy, but the more and more I spent time in God’s Word the more I realized how much I truly needed its presence in my life. FULL POST

Posted 5/4/16 at 11:14 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

This is Where God Speaks to You About Everything

And there I will meet with you, and I will speak with you from above the mercy seat, from between the two cherubim which are on the ark of the Testimony, about everything which I will give you in commandment to the children of Israel. Exodus 25:16-22; 37:7

With over 800 verses dealing with the Tabernacle, and the Bible declaring it was modeled after the one in heaven, I think we can conclude that God is trying to communicate something to us. In fact, I believe this is where the believer can enter the “sweet spot” of Christianity; that is if they are willing. It is here, in this place, where we will find the answers about life. As one of the most overlooked roadmaps in the Bible, our book The Inner Journey helps believers understand the 3 stages of spiritual growth described in the Tabernacle. This journey leads to a place the Lord is beckoning all of us to reach. Today this “meeting place” takes place inside our soul, in the Spirit. Everything that touches our lives presents an opportunity for us to access this holy place. Be encouraged, over time, God will come into focus. This is the place where God communicates with us, here on earth…about everything! FULL POST

Posted 5/4/16 at 11:03 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

8 Things Christians Should Be Known For

What should Christians look like? How should they act? What should they be known for? There are many unique qualities that all Christians should harness as it pertains to living a biblical life, but below are eight things I believe anyone who calls themselves a Christ-follower should adhere to. The Christian life is all about finding true identity in that of Jesus and reflecting an image of his righteous nature.

1. Love. (1 John 4:8)

Love is an intrinsic value for anyone who calls themselves a Christ follower. In reality, I don’t believe that anyone can truly call themselves a Bible believing Christian and not showcase the act of love. No matter the circumstance, offering a helping hand of love is what sets us apart from the rest of the world. God loves us, even when we don’t reflect the same image in return. We owe it to others by offering them this same reality.

2. Grace. (Ephesians 4:32)

The Grace of God has covered a multitude of sins, and the sacrifice made on the cross has paid the penalty for them. We are surely blessed. Although we don’t deserve the grace we have been generously handed, Jesus continues to extend a helping hand of it regardless of our situation. In the same way, we as Christians should be known for the grace and forgiveness that we show others. It may not always be deserved, but we must always remember that neither was ours. FULL POST

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