By Luke Gilkerson
I’ve always appreciated the helpful insights provided by the counselors at CCEF (Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation). For over 40 years this group has set the standard for a biblical counseling model.
This video is of David Powlison, one of their faculty, answers the tough question, “When a husband confesses an instance of lust to his wife, how specific should he be? General confession? Detailed confession? Somewhere in between?”
Powlison calls for what he calls a “generic specificity” in this sort of confession. The confession must be specific: the wife must know what sort of sin she is forgiving, the gravity of it. At the same time, the confession should be general: there is no need to spell out gory details.
Powlison offers the story of David and Bathsheba as a good model of sharing detail.
If you liked this, you’ll love some of Powlison’s other materials:
- “Breaking Pornography Addiction” (article)
- “Sexual Sin is a Deeper Battle” (video from Desiring God 2004 National Conference)
Luke Gilkerson is Internet Community Manager for Covenant Eyes, an Internet accountability service.