Onias is a husband and father in the story of ARAM who has to face the fact that he might die from a dreadful illness and when that reality hits him he has to decide what was most important in his life. Why does it often take dreadful illness or some other catastrophe to get us to think and act meaningfully in our own lives? Too often we move from one duty and distraction to another through out the course of the day without really choosing with purposeful thought what we are doing or how we are living. What a tragedy! To realize we never really lived our lives rather we just sort of ran through them!
But how do we move from merely reacting to thoughtful action? We need time to think! And when do we get time to think? Not when the radio, t.v., computer, or sports game is going on in our midst. We need quiet time to think. We need quiet time as much as we need air to breathe though we can hold our spiritual breath for years it seems. Quiet time, alone with our thoughts, can be very intimidating because often we have some difficult thoughts which pop into our minds - guilt over things we have done in the past or things we left undone which should have been attended too, sorrow over injuries we do not want to deal with or the lonliness of not being really understood. There are a lot of reasons to keep busy so that our minds do not dwell on the difficult stuff. But it is the difficult stuff that can bring us to real peace for though we may be busy we can never entirely run away - as Onias realized. At some point we have to face out past and our fears of the future. We also have to take responsibility for our present.
Being alone and listening to the little voice in our head and facing the terrors of guilt, grief and sadness can be our saving grace for even when we are most alone we are never really alone. God is always with us though we do not often notice Him in the bustle of the day. Facing with problems is the first step to solving problems and though we cannot solve every difficulty we can always ask for help from the Ultimate Problem Solver. God wants to be with us - to help us and to allow us time to get to know Him. The question is when? Onias had to face the reality of his death before he gave quiet time and deep thought a try - what will it take for us?