Joy on the Narrow Road
10/1/14 at 12:03 PM 1 Comments

The Defining Moment Between Attraction and Sexual Sin

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"And it came to pass in the evening that David arose from his bed and walked upon the roof of the king's palace: and from the roof he saw a woman bathing and the woman was very beautiful." 2 Samuel 11:2

Human attraction is biblical, meaning it's in the bible. King David woke up in the night and walked out onto the roof of his house without any intentions of committing adultery nor murder for the sake of his attraction to Bathsheba. Yet, as he walked upon that roof (in complete innocence for a moment), he saw her and thought she was beautiful to look at. I am guessing that she thought it was a safe time to be bathing without being seen since it was in the night time. My point is that I don't believe Bathsheba was intentionally trying to seduce David. Even so, upon seeing her bathing, the bible records that David thought she was very beautiful to look at. The fact that this is written in the scriptures amazes me.

I don't need the bible to tell me that human attraction is normal but it does comfort me to know that God has things to say on this subject.

King David made a decision to ACT upon his attraction to Bathsheba by sending a servant to have her brought to him. He then took her to be his wife, biblically that is, she conceived a child, and David arranged to have her husband killed. David's actions brought upon him tremendous guilt, grief, and shame and those feelings are expressed throughout the Psalms.

We all know attraction. It just seems to hit us when we least expect it. It is something that is so powerful that it triggers not only a physical response but an emotional one.I imagine it's like God's self installed system designed to enable us with a way to discover who we are to be joined with in this life. When this trigger (internal, external, spiritual attraction) goes off in our young adult life and we follow God's lead, a beautiful union of souls can be made with God's blessing in marriage.

However, more often than not, those initial attractions are denied (too young, too driven, too selfish, not permitted, etc) and we continue the soul searching secondary to fulfilling our personal initiatives. Whether a choice we make for ourselves or one that someone else made for us, we go on in life trying to rediscover those initial triggers.Who doesn't recall their "first love" right? Blessed are they who marry the one that initiates their triggers of attraction (my opinion).

For the rest of us what happens over time is we find ourselves with so many triggers to our desires that the thrill of desiring becomes more exciting than finding the object of our soul's need for it's other half. We become thrill seekers and lust takes over as we become addicted to this sensation. I am speak from experience on this subject. For many years of my young life I lived in this "thrill seeking zone" of attraction and like King David, I acted on it. I didn't know God back then, I never knew anything about the bible and I certainly had no idea who Jesus was except the guy on everyone's gold necklace.

I mention this to help you understand that I am no stranger to the concept of human attraction and what happens when we act upon it. Though I have never committed murder, I have been guilty of sexual sin prior to meeting Jesus. I have been the adulterer. Praise the Lord I am redeemed. April 25, 1995 is the day I accepted Jesus into my heart and everything changed. God's power dwelling in me: the power to forgive my sins, the power to wash me clean, the power to make me whole again. I am writing this to publicly proclaim VICTORY IN JESUS! After giving my life to the Lord in April of '95 I was married on December 1, 1995 and have been faithful to my husband for 19 years. God removed the sinful desires of my heart and I was set free from them.
Freedom in Christ is unlike anything this world has to offer, it is a gift. There is nothing you can do to obtain it on your own. I did not have to "work at it" for the sin to be removed from my life. God simply washed it away.

Praise JESUS! "They that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with it's passions and lusts." Galatians 5:24

Here is where it gets interesting for me. Over the last few months I have been on a self-discovery mission. Knowing I am filled with the Holy Spirit makes it less about me and more about discovering God in me.
Imagine my surprise this summer after living 19 years free from dealing with physical attraction outside my marriage, I find myself experiencing those old familiar triggers once again. YIKES! What is a devote Christian woman to do?

First off I thought it was sin and I cried out to God for forgiveness. I repented from what I thought was the problem and felt 100% better and restored. Then it happened again! I thought "oh no! I must be doing something wrong!" I prayed and sought the Lord asking Him to search my heart and remove anything that didn't belong there. I declared that He was my One True Love above all men.
Again I felt and trusted that I had a clean heart. I set my mind on the things of God daily, pray continually, and know I am His and He is mine.

At this point you are probably thinking these situations are Satan's attacks on me especially since I am going through one of the roughest times in my marriage. Along with entering a new place of discovery in my life, it does make sense that it would be a good time for Satan to make a move on me. How easy it would be to fall into his snare and follow his lead into the pit of destruction.

I am mindful of this and it draws me closer to God for His protection and I chose to proceed confidently in Christ. Yet, I find myself continually experiencing this certain attraction. This week I put on the armor of God and searched the scriptures for a deeper understanding. This is what I discovered:

"There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man" 1 Corinthians 10:13

Before reading that verse any further I saw it as in neon lights: temptation... as common to man.Common? Normal? Happens to everyone? OK, what is it? Temptation.

But I'm not tempted, I am attracted. David was attracted to Bathsheba and in the next moment he was tempted.

Call it a line, a point, a moment, but whatever you do, realize that it is the defining moment in your Christian walk. The moment you realize you could be tempted is the moment you also decide whether to allow the temptation to work in your life or allow God to work.

Let me explain one more thing here from my own experience. We do not have to be in a physical place of temptation to cross the line and enter in. God says that which you think, you are (Proverbs 23:7). If a man lusts in his mind he has committed adultery already. For me, if I chose to take the attraction I experience and carry it over into a fantasy or impure thoughts, I have crossed the line and have sinned. Some say that it's natural or normal to fantasize about things that stir up your desires.

The bible even says "all things are lawful" but it also says "not all things are helpful." 1 Corinthians 10:23

It also says "the flesh lusts against the Spirit and the Spirit against the flesh." Galatians 5:17 This simply means that what is common to man is contrary to the Spirit of God.

Going back to 1 Corinthians 10:13 it says "but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation He will also provide a way of escape, so that you are able to bear it."

Wait just a minute! God allows temptation? Noooooo! I don't want to be tempted.

Don't worry, He gives you a way to escape. What?! Now I need to escape it? Good grief!

Once I escape I will be able to bear it.... the temptation?! Why do I have bear it?

What if I don't escape? What if I enter into a fantasy?

"The Lord knows how to deliver the godly out of temptation." 2 Peter 2:9

He really thinks of everything!

Matthew 26:41 "Watch and pray that ye enter not into temptation ... the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak."
Jesus told the disciples that even though they say they will watch and pray, their body will tell them otherwise.

So, let me get this straight. I am going to be tempted because it is natural and even if I pray, I may fail because I am in a battle with my body.

So why even try? Why even give this any thought whatsoever?

Psalm 81 paraphrased by me:

7: You called out in distress and I rescued you and I answered you.

9: have no other strange gods.

10: I will fill you.

11: They wanted no part of God.

12: So I gave them up to their own heart's lusts; and they walked in their own counsel.

13: Oh if only they had listened to Me and walked in My ways.

14: I would have subdued their enemies and turned my hand against their adversaries.
I would have blessed them.

Right there, that's why! God wants to bless His people. I for one want His blessings in my life. For this reason and more, I chose to follow Jesus and let God be ruler of my life.

I willfully submit to Him knowing that His grace is sufficient for me, I can in fact walk confidently in Christ.

I am so relieved to know that the attraction I feel is OK as long as I watch and pray and not enter into temptation. Even so, I am thankful for the forgiveness that is available if I do.

Let the Joy of the Lord continue to be my strength. Nehemiah 8:10

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