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Posted 10/15/16 at 3:46 PM | Trace Embry

Why You Should Take the Influence of Media Seriously

There is little argument that our nation is in decline. However, many would debate why our nation is declining.

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Although Bill O’Reilly of Fox News is not a parenting professional, he often attributes America’s decline to the disintegration of the traditional family. With children born out of wedlock, dads out of the picture, and a general lack of stability, it is no wonder he looks to the family as a cause.

I believe a starting point to a solid family structure is how seriously the parents take the influence of media on their family. Bill also discusses how horrendous music, entertainment and digital addictions are also contributing factors.

This stance isn’t popular, but I believe Bill is on to something. Our teens are feeding on American entertainment. It’s time for us as parents to take that seriously. FULL POST

Posted 10/10/16 at 8:51 PM | Trace Embry

2 Ways to Turn Your Home Around

Our world is busy. Our homes are busy. It’s easy for us as parents to get caught up in our important tasks. However, sometimes we overlook the fundamentals. Today, I’d like to outline two things that you can address to turn your home around.

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Tell Your Teen No

First, learn to tell your child “no.” Too many parents are afraid of losing the approval or favor of their child by saying “no.” For as long as I’ve worked with troubled teens I’ve learned that virtually no child really hates their parent for saying “no” – even when they tell them they do.

Children are very good at over-reacting and making emotional statements. Even teens have several years left to fully develop emotionally.

Stick to what you know is right, address disrespect with discipline. Continue despite your teen’s reaction to the word no. Even while your teen is saying “I hate you” their spirit is loving and respecting you deeper.

Remove the Junk in Your Home

It’s astounding how many Christian homes feature MTV, VH1, BET and the like as entertainment staples. It is little wonder our teens struggle with the very same temptations plaguing those of the world. FULL POST

Posted 9/7/16 at 8:00 PM | Trace Embry

Why You Should Take the Influence of Media Seriously

There is little argument that our nation is in decline. However, many would debate why our nation is declining.

Although Bill O’Reilly of Fox News is not a parenting professional, he often attributes America’s decline to the disintegration of the traditional family. With children born out of wedlock, dads out of the picture, and a general lack of stability, it is no wonder he looks to the family as a cause.

Picture provided by Megane Callewaert

I believe a starting point to a solid family structure is how seriously the parents take the influence of media on their family. Bill also discusses how horrendous music, entertainment and digital addictions are also contributing factors.

This stance isn’t popular, but I believe Bill is on to something. Our teens are feeding on American entertainment. It’s time for us as parents to take that seriously. FULL POST

Posted 9/7/16 at 7:52 PM | Trace Embry

2 Ways to Turn Your Home Around

Our world is busy. Our homes are busy. It’s easy for us as parents to get caught up in our important tasks. However, sometimes we overlook the fundamentals. Today, I’d like to outline two things that you can address to turn your home around.

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Tell Your Teen No

First, learn to tell your child “no.” Too many parents are afraid of losing the approval or favor of their child by saying “no.” For as long as I’ve worked with troubled teens I’ve learned that virtually no child really hates their parent for saying “no” – even when they tell them they do.

Children are very good at over-reacting and making emotional statements. Even teens have several years left to fully develop emotionally.

Stick to what you know is right, address disrespect with discipline. Continue despite your teen’s reaction to the word no. Even while your teen is saying “I hate you” their spirit is loving and respecting you deeper. FULL POST

Posted 9/7/16 at 7:47 PM | Trace Embry

Can You Trust Your Babysitter?

Whether planning a romantic evening out, or just some time in town, many parents often hire a babysitter to take care of their children. But, in today’s culture, can you trust your babysitter?

Babysitting isn’t the exact experience it used to be. There can be regulations in place that make hiring a sitter on-par with hiring other professionals.

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All kidding aside; when considering a babysitter, you really do need to check on the requirements of your state. Also, never hire someone you do not trust. Make sure that you know more about your sitter than just the name on their resume.

Check your prospective baby sitter’s social media accounts. Don’t assume you don’t have to check the accounts of your sitter if they are family. A good sign that your sitter isn’t a good fit is a refusal to accept your friend request on a ‘private’ account. FULL POST

Posted 8/24/16 at 2:01 PM | Trace Embry

The Secret to Raising a Perfect Teen

The secret to imparting character into your child may be right under your nose: chores. Chores are crucial. In fact, it is so crucial it may be the secret to raising a perfect teen.

Chores play an important role in your child’s success. However, many parents miss this. Instead, they dread asking their teens to do things around the house. Unfortunately some parents, as well as their children, consider many of these tasks to be “beneath them” or drudgery.

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Rather than thinking of chores as drudgery, wouldn’t it benefit our children to see these tasks as preparation for the real world?

Cleaning windows, scrubbing soap scum from around sinks and faucets, and cleaning toilets are all jobs that require a degree of drudgery. According to Oswald Chambers: “Drudgery is the touchstone of character.” FULL POST

Posted 7/10/16 at 8:00 PM | Trace Embry

2 Examples how America’s Definition of Family is Changing

The definition of family seems to be changing with our rapidly changing times.

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1) The Poly Family

In our society, even the Christian kids are believing that two moms; two dads; or a “poly family” are as legitimate as the traditional family of one man and one woman.

Terms like “family” and “marriage” are being grossly redefined in our post-modern world.

A decade or so ago, gay marriage would have been thought of as an oxymoron—as were poly families.

This is producing a slippery slope where “anything goes.”

Please discuss with your children the importance of a proper view of family. Our future depends on it.

2) Blended Families

Large numbers of blended families are a result of high divorce rates. We continue to mess with and complicate God’s ecosystem. Family problems will thus continue to be more and more complicated. FULL POST

Posted 7/10/16 at 7:36 PM | Trace Embry

Is There a Link Between Food and Teen Behavior?

You may not be aware that there is a link between food and teenage behavior.
Your teen’s diet may be a contributing factor to behavior. A solution is proper nutrition in your
home. When it comes to parenting, nutrition is often grossly overlooked. Obesity is only one
byproduct of a poor diet. What we feed our kids also affects their behavior.
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Food boundaries need to be consistent and considered inside your homes. So, how do you
address nutrition at home? Here are two solutions:
Start the Conversation of Food and Teen Behavior

In today’s culture, teens are often exposed to temptations, including food.
If your teen is struggling with an eating habit or weight control, it’s important to remain calm.
Before you implement appropriate boundaries and discipline with food, approach this topic with
your teen.
First, have an open discussion with your teen about your concerns for his/her diet. Explain the
health and behavioral affects food can have on your teen.
Next, work with your teen to develop goals to commit to. Once committed, hold your teen
accountable.
Remember the Basics


Your teen may not always be willing to take responsibility for their health. In these
circumstances it may be necessary (and wise) to dictate exactly what your child is premised to
eat.
In these situations, simply follow the same principles we discuss regularly on boundary
development in this blog and create boundaries your teen must follow.
Conversation Starter: Proper diet and nutrition are often overlooked in our culture of abundance.
Take the time to evaluate your household. What are some steps you can take to improve how
your family should address nutrition?


Trace Embry is the Founder and Director of Shepherds Hill Academy, a Christ-centered
therapeutic residential program, as well as a private accredited boarding school for troubled
teenagers. He is the Host of the "License to Parent with Trace Embry Radio Program." He is also
a public speaker, and teaches parenting classes. Visit his parenting blog at “Insight for Today's
Culture with Trace Embry."

Posted 6/28/16 at 10:16 PM | Trace Embry

Why Permissiveness is More Dangerous than Spanking

In today’s culture spanking is a controversial topic. Many parents avoid spanking. In turn, they
become guilty of permissiveness.
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Is it possible that permissiveness is more dangerous than spanking?

We’ve become a politically correct society where spanking is often seen as child abuse.
Granted, spanking certainly can be with the wrong motives.
However, permissiveness can also turn to abuse. There’s a fine line between being permissive
and neglect. Both lead to damaging consequences.
Just look around. You will see some of the psychological, emotional and physical problems
facing our children.
Psych-wards today are bring flooded with teens who self-mutilate, overdose on drugs and
attempt suicide. In fact, America now leads the world in teen suicide.
It seems that the more we separate our families from proper discipline, our teens are left with
the consequences.
Conversation Starter: Spanking is a weighty subject in today’s culture. We’d love to hear your
feedback on this thought.

Trace Embry is the Founder and Director of Shepherds Hill Academy, a Christ-centered
therapeutic residential program, as well as a private accredited boarding school for troubled
teenagers. He is the Host of the "License to Parent with Trace Embry Radio Program." He is also
a public speaker, and teaches parenting classes. Visit his parenting blog at “Insight for Today's
Culture with Trace Embry."

Posted 6/7/16 at 8:27 PM | Trace Embry

Are Parents Effective at Addressing Media Habits

Building relationships, attending church and participating in Bible studies are great time investments toward bringing up healthy kids.

Are You a Blind Parent?

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Too many Christian parents are blindly accepting things as normal that God sees as abominable. These things have become deeply engrained into our culture and therefore accepted.

We have to do a better job of shielding our kids from the pornographic and unholy appetites of this world. It’s not enough just to know Scripture anymore.

A Lack of Discipline in Media Habits

Many parents seem to avoid addressing their kids media habits.

Does your child have a healthy media habit? Are you addressing media habits in your home?

Let’s take the popular music many parents permit their kids to listen to. FULL POST

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