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1 Example of Being Firm and Compassionate at the Same Time

Tue, May. 17, 2016 Posted: 09:52 PM


Parents: did you know you can be firm and compassionate at the same time?

In a time where kids are surrounded by more temptation than before, exercising compassion is a must. This does not mean a standards change.

Standards are found in Scripture. When our kids are caught in a sin, it’s important to exercise firm discipline.
However, do this in such a way that communicates you are not acting out of complete disgust with them or disbelief in them.
Your teen needs to sense your compassion and love for them.

Practical Application
Statistics show that our kids are getting an incredible amount of sexual messages and images on TV alone—and from the very programs and advertisements we watch with them.
Not to mention the messages they get through other forms of digital technology. Folks, listen to me closely, a smartphone is an adult toy!

Today’s teens can misuse and abuse smartphones. Oftentimes teens are indulging in sexual sins. Kids as early as eight can access pornographic images on devices.

You may want your child to be connected to you at all times. However, I strongly advise you have a central location for your child to have internet access.
Hopefully, this will not occur in your home. However, if your kid is accessing and engaging with inappropriate sexual content via smartphones, or other media devices, remember to remain firm and compassionate.

Conversation Starter: What are some other examples you may face that require being firm and compassionate when disciplining your child?

Trace Embry is the Founder and Director of Shepherds Hill Academy, a Christ-centered therapeutic residential program, as well as a private accredited boarding school for troubled teenagers. He is the Host of the "License to Parent with Trace Embry Radio Program." He is also a public speaker, and teaches parenting classes. Visit his parenting blog at “Insight for Today's Culture with Trace Embry."

Trace Embry