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11/1/15 at 07:01 PM 0 Comments

2 Results of No Discipline in the Home

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When it comes to parenting, discipline and spanking quickly spark controversy. The results of no discipline within the home is due to permissive parenting and fear.

Spanking is a Bad Word

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Today’s culture tends to present extreme opposition to discipline.

Defending spanking as a disciplinary option is seen as abusive by many today.

Progressive Non-Thinking Produces

The problem is not their “progressive” thinking.

Jesus would have been considered a progressive thinker in His day. The parenting problem is in non-thinking.

Is it not hypocritical to refer to loving discipline as abuse while being tolerant of permissive ideologies with a track record of problems?

With no heaven to gain and no hell to fear, there is no reason not to tolerate everything from everyone. I have actually talked to people who have said that they couldn’t condemn Hitler for doing wrong because he was doing what he “believed” to be right. Interestingly enough, the same people will say that a parent is absolutely wrong for exercising spanking as a legitimate form of discipline.

America never had to deal with this in past generations. Today this results in kids who feel that no one cares enough to set boundaries. This leaves our kids feeling abandoned and a need to fend for themselves.

Negative Connotations

There are terms associated with discipline which should ultimately be considered good things.

Some of the terms that can be legitimately associated with discipline and spanking are persuasion, pain, coercion, submission, and force.

I think there is a valid argument to be made that terms like discipline, persuasion, pain, coercion, submission, and force; like intolerance, are usually considered as negative connotations in today’s culture.

These very same terms can be applied, just as legitimately, to government, sports, diet, exercise, business, education, heart surgery, root canal, police work—just to name a few. Nobody would put these activities in a negative light.

The Result of Avoiding Your Responsibility to Discipline

Built into the fabric of every human being is the need and desire for justice—a justice that is not taking place much anymore.

In most cases, an adult cannot morally or legally force another independent adult to do anything. But, this isn’t true in the case of a kid. Children are not fully developed intellectually or emotionally.

Can discipline from a loving parent that is “forced” or imposed upon a rebellious, out-of-control teen possibly be more abusive than the self-destructive behavior that American kids are experiencing today? They are simply craving boundaries.

To help you better understand how to discipline in your home, you can check out our Boundary Development Index.

Conversation Starter: What are your thoughts on the parents who are being responsible and disciplining their children?

Trace Embry is the Founder and Director of Shepherds Hill Academy, a Christ-centered therapeutic residential program, as well as a private accredited boarding school for troubled teenagers. He is the Host of the "License to Parent with Trace Embry Radio Program." He is also a public speaker, and teaches parenting classes. Visit his parenting blog at “Insight for Today's Culture with Trace Embry."

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