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Posted 9/28/15 at 6:31 PM | Trace Embry

Why a Peacekeeper Makes a Bad Parent

As a society we tend to prefer style over substance and comfort over discomfort.

As postmodern thinking becomes more prevalent, how is the family being affected?

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Every civil society recognizes the need for discipline; both self-discipline and discipline by the law of the land or the greater good.

The Relationship to Postmodernism

When parents refuse to exercise discipline they become more of a peacekeeper instead of a peacemaker. Parents cannot afford to be peacekeepers.

By becoming a peacekeeper, and foregoing proper discipline, parents become co-dependent and short-sighted. This type of parenting ultimately inflicts its own pain.

The child is prone to grow up with resentment and rebellion against the parent. Ironically this pain results from the fellowship the parents thought would bring them closer to their child. FULL POST

Posted 9/20/15 at 2:06 PM | Trace Embry

How to Apply Biblical Principles in the Home

In today’s culture, parents may seem hard pressed to find comfort in using biblical principles in their parenting.

There is hope. Despite cultural claims, properly applying biblical principles remain an effective way to raise your kids.

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Believe it or not; Shepherds Hill Academy (SHA) was founded, and still operates daily, by applying biblical principles through its Authoritative Community Environment model. Shepherds Hill Academy serves troubled teens between the ages of 12 and 17. In addition, through our Parent Workshops, Parent Conferences, and other family therapeutic activities, we help the entire family heal and grow.

Apologetics Increases Knowledge

SHA places an emphasis on Christian apologetics. Christian apologetics is crucial for your teen. These studies help kids logically think through the questions of origin, meaning, morality, and destiny. FULL POST

Posted 9/15/15 at 4:14 PM | Trace Embry

Are our Public Schools Perpetuating the Troubled Teen

My experience helping families and teens (specifically at Shepherds Hill Academy) has taught me that the following statement is more true than we think:

Most teens attending American public high schools today are troubled teens–they just don’t know it.

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The Dilemma

Allow me to explain my beliefs concerning public schools. Being exposed to things in high schools and other public schools across America is one thing. What our teens engage in is another. It’s no wonder teens are troubled.

How to Engage

Consider the teenage problem of sexting.

One in three public high school teens are sexting! Sexting is when a provocative image is taken of a classmate and sent virally to the rest of the student body. This is scandalous! FULL POST

Posted 9/8/15 at 7:18 PM | Trace Embry

Archives from Insight For Today’s Culture

Here are some archives from my blog Insight for Today’s Culture.

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How Manners can Prevent Teenage Rebellion [Video]

Implementing manners may be an overlooked aspect in your home. In How Manners can Prevent Teenage Rebellion we outline why it is important to develop manners.

Problem Areas in America’s Youth Culture

Read this favorite post to better understand the American Youth Culture.

Understanding Parental Rights: Michael Farris Interview [Podcast]

Podcasts are an opportunity for readers to access our interviews with the guests on License to Parent. Learn about your parental rights. FULL POST

Posted 8/12/15 at 5:30 PM | Trace Embry

Is Your Teen a Nobody?

With every great movement God seems to use “nobodies” to train up the “somebodies.”

Because of my burden for America, my prayer for Shepherd’s Hill Academy has always been that God would give us a ministry that would impact the world.

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In the eyes of the world Christians are “nobodies.” However, God sees the potential in us.

A “nobody” was Billy Graham’s Sunday school teacher, told D.L. Moody about Christ, and shared Jesus with John Newton.

Because of the “nobodies,” these “somebodies” not only impacted their nation, but the world!

How can Nobodies Cultivate Somebodies

Shepherd’s Hill Academy is a community of “nobodies” revolutionizing the lives of teens. FULL POST

Posted 8/12/15 at 2:19 PM | Trace Embry

The Thing Your Teen Wants More Than Anything

I have the unique opportunity at Shepherd’s Hill Academy (SHA) to work side by side teens and families in crisis.

In my work with teens I have found they can be very candid about what they want more than anything.

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Your Teen’s Desire

I am often told by our teens what they desire more than anything from their parents.

Surprisingly, I get this consistent answer: Enforced Boundaries. One boy said he wanted his Dad to give him boundaries and enforce them. He went on to say that he was an out-of-control teen and needed his parents to help him control himself.

Can You Provide Boundaries?

The same boy mentioned above asked his Dad to enforce boundaries. FULL POST

Posted 8/11/15 at 10:55 PM | Trace Embry

Why You Need an Accurate Point of View of Your Teen

Many parents today tend to think the best of their teen.

In today’s post I want to provide you with a way to gain an accurate point of view of your teen.

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Kids Are Inherently Evil

Each year Shepherds Hill Academy hosts a Parent Conference. One year, a girl approached me with a telling request. She asked me to tell her parents that evil does in fact exist. She also wanted me to tell them not to always think the best of her.

I recently interviewed three men in their early twenties with the same viewpoint. They also suggested that teens may not be as innocent as their parent assumes.

After engaging with many others about this topic, I have found that teens want boundaries. This is a sense of protection from the evils of the world. FULL POST

Posted 8/9/15 at 2:03 PM | Trace Embry

How to Make Sense of Anhedonia

Have you noticed how many teens can barely walk from point A to point B without wearing headphones? How about the number of people using cell phones during a family outing?

These situations aren’t uncommon. The name for this phenomenon is anhedonia. Few have pondered the devastating implications of it for individuals, families, the church, and our culture.

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Understanding Anhedonia

According to Dr. Archibald Hart, in his book Thrilled to Death anhedonia is a destruction of the pleasure center in the brain.

Many mental health care professionals understand it only as a manifestation of depression. Sadly; medication is often prescribed to treat the “problem.”

Dr. Hart writes that anhedonia is also a condition independent of depression. It comes largely from the over stimulation of pleasurable and exciting activities along with multitasking. FULL POST

Posted 8/4/15 at 9:40 PM | Trace Embry

What Happens When Boundaries Are Not Present

Teens can engage in some warped behavior as a result of lack of boundaries. Today, I highlight two results many parents face when boundaries are not present in the home.

The Relationship Between Boundaries and Security

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Teens don’t just need boundaries, they actually desire them. They need to trust that their parents are enforcing boundaries – and doing so consistently. This is where their sense of security comes from.

Why Do You Think Gangs Are Popular?

Why are kids attracted to gangs? In a weird way gangs will consistently enforce boundaries, which equates to a sense of security and belonging.

Although this is warped thinking, a child’s thinking is less mature than a mature adult’s mind. FULL POST

Posted 7/28/15 at 7:50 PM | Trace Embry

Helping Your Teen Through Struggle

Why do teens struggle with cultural vices? Perhaps they don’t have enough ‘good struggle’ in their lives. Today, I’ll provide insight into how appropriate struggle can produce hope.

Struggles Are Not Necessarily a Bad Thing

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The same way we can kill a chick struggling to peck its way from the egg, we can do damage to our kids by not allowing them to experience struggle at pivotal times in life.

No one wants to see their kids struggle. But pain isn’t always bad. It can act as an alarm that something is wrong.

In cases like exercise, pain is gain! Just watch movies like Miracle or Remember the Titans.

Today, many parents do not want their teen to struggle, but then see their teen become troubled. Too often we bail our kids out of natural consequences for sinful actions. We enable them to live like hell expecting heaven as a reward. Of course, I’m speaking about consequences that may hurt but not harm them. FULL POST

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