To date, I have attempted to teach all aspects of the truth of Biblical marriage, i.e., its making, what violates it, the consequences of those violations, and more, particularly to those who declare to be born again members of the body of Christ.

For those of you who have read my book or my articles on this blog, you should have clearly concluded that the theology I teach concerning marriage and fornication is considerably contrary to the theology that is being taught and promoted.

My hope has been that most who have patiently read my articles (meaning, the subject is too deep to write all aspects of marriage in one article, hence the purpose of my book) have viewed each article as:

1) A building block, defining and supporting the reasons for me teaching as I do on Biblical marriage and why it contradicts other teachings on the topic.

2) An insight through God's Word on just how horrible conditions are sexually within Christendom.

3) A Biblically secure, dependable, and defendable exposition of instruction for the church's future purity, example, and promotion of marriage.

The primary evidence that creates the contradiction between marital theologies is plainly the Biblical view of individual sexual intimacy (connections) - its effects and consequences. FULL POST

(4) "That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; (5) Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: (6) That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. (7) For God hath not called us to uncleanness, but unto holiness. (8) He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his Holy Spirit"                      (1 Thessalonians 4:4-8, KJV).

This article is a follow up to my previous one, "BIBLICAL MARRIAGE: It's A Clean Thing." As I Focus now on 1 Thessalonians 4:4-8, it can be observed that the Apostle Paul continues his theme from 4:3 regarding "sanctification" (cleanliness), which he incites each member of the Thessalonica church to adamantly secure and protect, through the abstinence from fornication.

In 4:3, Paul placed emphasis on abstaining from every possible kind of disordered sexual intimacy (fornication) in the flesh, because any act of fornication is contrary to that which makes a Biblical marriage and defiles a Christian's new birth sanctification, against God's will. FULL POST

Because we were created as sexual human beings with an innate desire and ability to make sexually intimate connections with another, we must not initiate any connection that is outside of what God has designed sexually for us, as a male or female, which is His will.

If a connection is made within His design, it is a marital connection and is clean before Him. If it is made outside of His design, it is a fornicated connection and is unclean before Him. Therefore, as I have very clearly described in my previous CP articles and book, one's sexual intimacies will determine whether one is legitimately married (in the will of God) or committing fornication (violating the will of God).

Why do I infer sexual intimacy when mentioning fornication? I infer this because, whenever fornication is mentioned in the Bible there will be two contexts to which it will reference: It will either be in a strictly spiritual context, as a consequence of the worshipping of false gods (idolatry), incurring a fornication of one's spirit; otherwise, it will be in the physical context of an inordinate sexually intimate engagement forbidden by God, which is fornication of one's flesh and spirit. My emphasis is on the physical aspect of fornication. FULL POST

"God will bless us if we divorce our mates and marry each other. It's right there in the Bible."

"Really?" I replied. "Please enlighten me."

He was entangled with a woman at his church. Each was married to someone else, but now both professed undying love and devotion to the other. Each complained bitterly about their current marriages and praised God for bringing them together.

"David and Bathsheba" he said. "They committed adultery, which was wrong, but God saw their great love for each other and gave her to David as his wife. He blessed David's life after that. He even lists Bathsheba in Matthew as one of Jesus' ancestors. So while God is not FOR adultery, when He sees the great love a couple has for each other, He will allow them to be together and will bless their union. God will bless us just as he did them." He did not say it smugly, just simply. The truth as far as he was concerned was so clear that there was no need for smugness.

That is when I walked him through that Bible story from first to last.

The Story, Part 1 – 2 Samuel 11

David sent Joab to lead Israel's army in battle while he remained in Jerusalem. Unable to sleep, he walked on his flat roof and saw a gorgeous woman bathing in the moonlight. He sent for her. She came. They committed adultery. FULL POST

So if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! (1 Corinthians 10:12)

If we knew the actual numbers, we would not like them.

Every year in nearly every denomination, men or women who are in some role of church leadership commit immorality that costs them their positions and puts their families in jeopardy. Some commit adultery. Others are caught with pornography on their computers. Pick the sin – start with the A's and go to the Z's – and it's likely that someone trusted as a leader in the kingdom of God has done it and finally been exposed.

Though we acknowledge that all of us are human, we expect one who is mature enough to serve in leadership is also one that is honest enough with self and God to live a life of holiness. We tend to see their sins as worse than the sins of John Q. Member who sporadically attends and has little involvement with the church. Therefore, when we discover the immorality of one of our leaders, whether on a national or local scale, we passionately proclaim our deep care for their souls and cry with them as they resign their roles, all the while hoping against hope that they pack up and move away as quickly as possible. FULL POST

Yep, a déjà vu experience. Biblical marriage is being redefined again. This time, though, it isn't heterosexuals doing the redefining, it is homosexuals. They are determined to have a piece of the farcical marital façade that is promoted and exercised by heterosexuals. This is what happens when you adopt and promote secular marital concepts and call them Biblical. We now have one fornicated union (homosexuals) joining along with another fornicated union (unqualified heterosexuals) rehearsing a secular civil concoction in the name of God, and both declaring a Biblically viable marital oneness. It is all self-deceiving vanity, of course.

Someone will probably say and ask, "Yeah, but secular and Biblical traditions have always promoted marriage between a man and woman and not between two of the same gender. So, how can you say that heterosexuals have redefined marriage?"

Okay, it is very simple, so bear with me.

Yes, secular marriage has traditionally been between a man and woman. However, secularly, it's just a tradition. Secularly, anyone can be married, as long as the tradition is changed by the present generation that wishes to do so, beginning a new tradition. All one has to do is observe and see who is really the force behind the push for homosexual marriage. It is the approval and help of heterosexuals - both religious and secular. There isn't a homosexual population large enough to succeed on their own in procuring approval of these so-called marriages, which have already been granted in certain states. FULL POST

In a true Biblical marriage (one that is God approved, and I don't mean by a covenant), no government or religious organization has any power or authority in the making of one or annulling one as well. It is exclusively determined and enacted by God and the Christian individual involved.

Note that I said "God and the "Christian individual." The reason I said it this way is because true marriage belongs only to God, a Christian man married to a woman, or a Christian woman married to a man and no other.

Biblical marriage is strictly a Christian institution and is hallowed. It is separate from all other marriages. It is a Godly union to the Christian male or female - exclusively. This is so, because it consists of two human beings becoming one flesh by a God induced and God-centered conjoining, based upon their new creation and being attached to Him.

The purpose of this holy conjoining is for God to be glorified in this world through the Christian man or woman He created and in the heavenly depiction that their marriage emits. Through the Christian's commitment (I will address this shortly) exercised in their physical marriage, according to the order and instruction commanded (not suggested) in Scripture, they exemplify their commitment and order in their marriage to Christ as a member of His body – the church. FULL POST

“Our problem,” he said, “is that everyone in my life listens to what I say and does what I tell them. Then I come home and it doesn’t work that way with my wife. I don’t like that.”

She didn’t either.

The comment was neither unexpected nor unusual. In workshops for marriages in crisis, leaders often note that those couples in which one mate is very successful or earns quite a bit of money have unique situations that call for unique solutions. Sometimes the successful or high-earner spouse (we will call that one SS for short, and the other one OS or other spouse) is the husband and sometimes it is the wife. If both are equally successful or high-earners, the problems may exist, but usually not as intensely.

Of course, the same problems that potentially plague all marriages plague those of the successful or wealthy, and sometimes the problems that plague the moneyed also plague less well-to-do marriages, though often in less concentrated ways.

What type problems do those who help couples notice in affluent marriages? The following is not exhaustive, but occur often.

The SS feels unappreciated

One husband stated it, “I feel as if the only thing I’m loved for by my wife is that I bring home enough cash for her to have whatever she wants.” He felt that she did not love him for who he is but only for what he provides. She replied that she very much loved him and would continue to love him whether they had money or not. He smiled sarcastically. “Why do I hear only complaints when you don’t get what you want, and hear nothing as long as you do? There isn’t even a kind word or acknowledgment of my existence unless you or the kids want something from me.” FULL POST

You are not quite sure how you got yourself into the affair, and even less sure about how to get out of it. You are in love with your paramour but hate the sneaking and cheating. You vacillate between ending the forbidden relationship and giving yourself totally to it. You feel intense emotions for your lover, but even as you tell yourself - or your lover - that everything is going to be wonderful, deep within a small voice says that it will not be.

When together with your lover, you feel an amazing blending of ecstasy and peace.

When alone, you feel guilt-ridden. Sadness and shame surface sporadically because you have not defeated your feelings of guilt about what you are doing. Instead, your own morality and integrity have tunneled deep inside you to war with your soul.

Your conscience wants to end the affair while your heart finds incredible fulfillment in the illicit relationship.

Earlier you tried a few times to end the relationship, but each time your willpower faded and your emotions drug you back. You felt responsible for your lover; you feared that he or she would be decimated or get sick or lose everything if you went away. At times, you feared that if you ended the relationship, your lover would be so distraught that they might destroy you, your reputation, your family or your finances. Though you wanted to do the right thing, ending the relationship was too difficult emotionally, mentally, or physically. With time, you gave up the idea of ending it and it evolved into the situation that now controls you. FULL POST

There was a recent report by The Christian Post saying,

"In an interview with World Magazine, Focus on the Family Chief Executive and President Jim Daly said that people in their 20s and 30s were especially likely to support same-sex marriage. Daly was asked by the magazine how evangelicals were doing in their efforts to support traditional marriage, in comparison to the success they have had advocating against abortion.

He answered: 'We're losing on that one, especially among the 20- and 30-somethings: 65 to 70 percent of them favor same-sex marriage. I don't know if that's going to change with a little more age – demographers would say probably not. We've probably lost that. I don't want to be an extremist here, but I think we need to start calculating where we are in the culture.'"

Mr. Daly is right about losing the argument against homosexual marriage. Also, to me, what is even worse is the age group supporting so-called homosexual marriage. If homosexuality has progressed as far as it has with the more conservative older generation, what will the status be when this new generation become old. If ever right teaching on marriage is needed, it is needed now. FULL POST