Marriage Mondays with Shaunti Feldhahn
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Shaunti Feldhahn

Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of research-based books including For Women Only, For Men Only, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages and The Good News About Marriage.

Posted 11/24/14 at 4:51 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday with Shaunti Feldhahn: Banish the D-Word

Christian Post Blog Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

November 24, 2014

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

Tip #39: Banish the D-word

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Are there some words that you try to keep out of your vocabulary? In our family, from the time our kids were little they knew we just didn’t say certain words in our family. Not just the usual four-letter swear words, but any word that could become a weapon used against someone else. Any word that was likely to cause hurt to someone we love, and for which any apology might be inadequate. Because once out there, certain words can’t easily be taken back. FULL POST

Posted 11/17/14 at 1:30 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday from Shaunti Feldhahn: Wives, find ways to keep his mental Instagram full of images of you.

Christian Post Blog Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

November 17, 2014

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

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Tip #38: Wives, find ways to keep his mental Instagram full of images of you. FULL POST

Posted 11/10/14 at 2:41 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday with Shaunti Feldhahn: Husbands, talk to your wife about whether what you’re working so hard to provide, is what she most needs

Christian Post Blog Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

November 10, 2014

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

Tip #37: Husbands, talk to your wife about whether what you’re working so hard to provide, is what she most needs

Guys, every day you feel the burden to provide. Whether or not you’re the primary bread winner, you’re feeling It is my job to provide for my family. It’s a hard world out there, with lots of financial stresses, and you love your wife and children so much that you exhaust yourself with long hours, a second shift, or lots of travel, to make sure they are taken care of. You wish you had more time with them, but you make that trade-off, that sacrifice, to give them security and show how much you care. FULL POST

Posted 11/3/14 at 3:25 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday from Shaunti Feldhahn: Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy.

Christian Post Blog Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

November 3, 2014

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Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

Tip #36: Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy.

There are times when it feels like some “connection” gets lost between spouses. Long days, busy schedules and running around with the kids add physical distance. And confusion, frustration, misunderstandings, stress and grumpiness add emotional distance. FULL POST

Posted 10/27/14 at 2:30 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday from Shaunti Feldhahn: Husbands, instead of getting frustrated at how much your wife chatters, see it as a signal of a specific need for connection.

Christian Post Blog Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

October 27, 2014

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

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Tip #35: Husbands, instead of getting frustrated at how much your wife chatters, see it as a signal of a specific need for connection.

We all know that women tend to be more talkative and expressive of their emotions than men. In fact, women’s brains are usually structured to process things by talking them through, while men’s brains generally process things internally. FULL POST

Posted 10/20/14 at 10:26 AM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday from Shaunti Feldhahn: Wives, invest in your husband by saying “thank you.”

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

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Tip #34: Wives, invest in your husband by saying “thank you.”

Every day, our men wake up and head out to “conquer” the world. Or, rather, the worlds of work, finances, home, school, kids’ activities, sports… We think we understand that, right? FULL POST

Posted 10/13/14 at 11:28 AM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday from Shaunti Feldhahn: Wives, see his anger as a legitimate signal of pain – and address it with respect

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

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Tip #33: Wives, see his anger as a legitimate signal of pain – and address it with respect

Every relationship – even the happiest ones! -- will have moments of conflict. And how we deal with that conflict can make the relationship stronger…. or really hurt it.

Ladies, one of the clearest examples of this is what happens when you’re in a time of “intense marital fellowship” (as a friend of mine puts it), and your man gets really angry. Maybe he confronted you after his office party about how you teased him in front of his colleagues, and says he can’t believe you betrayed him like that. FULL POST

Posted 10/6/14 at 12:54 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Husbands, Tell Your Wife She's Beautiful

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

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Tip #32: Husbands, get in the habit of telling your wife she is beautiful.

Every little girl dreams of finding her prince and knowing she is his princess. Husbands, you need to know that even after years of marriage, your wife probably still has some of that little girl inside. A little girl who wants to know she is still your leading lady. And one of the greatest ways you can get that truth to “stick” is by regularly telling your wife she is beautiful! FULL POST

Posted 9/29/14 at 7:05 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday From Shaunti Feldhahn: Wives, Have and Share Realistic Expectations


Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn


Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

Tip #31: Wives, have realistic expectations and share them with your husband

Happy spouses help create happy marriages! Makes sense right? And it turns out that one of the things that will keep you happy – and thus your marriage happy – is avoiding a situation where you are likely to experience unmet expectations. FULL POST

Posted 9/22/14 at 11:56 AM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday From Shaunti Feldhahn: Understand How Each Other Processes Emotions

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn


Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

Tip #30: Understand how each other will process strong emotions differently, to have better communication.

We have all heard the funny saying men are from Mars and women are from Venus, however when it comes to processing strong emotions, this could be close to the truth! And understanding those differences will give you much better communication – especially when you need it most!

Wives, when you are in a passionate situation that causes a display of emotions – let’s say you are really upset about a problem at your kids’ school and you disagree how to solve it -- realize that your husband may not receive what you are trying to communicate because he thinks you are not thinking clearly. FULL POST

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