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Shaunti Feldhahn

Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of research-based books including For Women Only, For Men Only, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages and The Good News About Marriage.

Posted 9/14/14 at 10:51 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Show Your Husband That You Desire Him

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for women: instead of thinking of physical intimacy as a physical need for your husband, realize that it signals a powerful emotional need to be desired – and showing him that you desire him gives him confidence in every other area of his life.

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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 10:45 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Your Wife Just Wants to Be With You

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn:

A tip for men: Realize that providing security for her means providing your presence most of all; she wants YOU more than anything else you could give her.

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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 10:40 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip of the Day From Shaunti Feldhahn: Appreciate His Desire to Provide

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for women: Because your husband’s need to provide is deep and emotional, express appreciation of how he works for your family and be aware of his fear of failing you.

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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 9:48 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Reassure Your Wife

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for men: When you are angry or upset with your wife and need to get some space, reassure her that “We’re okay” before you pull away – and give her a hug when you come back.


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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 9:39 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Say ‘Great Job’ to Your Man

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for women: Instead of the “I love you”-type words that come naturally, purposefully look for daily opportunities to say what matters most to a man: “thank you,” “great job,” and “I’m so proud of you.”


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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other –and which change everything once we do. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 9:35 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip of the Day From Shaunti Feldhahn: Small Changes Make Big Differences

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

Instead of thinking that marriage is hard and complicated (which can lead you to get exasperated and shut down too easily), realize that your relationship may take hard work but several small changes will usually make the big difference.

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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the difference hope makes in marriage – and the 8 year investigation that debunked the discouraging myths we have all believed about marriage and divorce.  FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 11:17 AM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Go to Church

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By far one of the most important actions to create and protect a happy marriage is to put God at the center of your marriage and get plugged in to a church community.

Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the difference hope makes in marriage – and the 8 year investigation that debunked the discouraging myths we have all believed about marriage and divorce.

Tip 12: Go to church

One of the biggest myths discouraging churchgoers in recent decades is the notion that “George Barna found the rate of divorce is the same in the church.” On the contrary, George Barna found no such thing – and the real facts point us to a key action for anyone who wants strong, happy and long-lasting marriages. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 10:56 AM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Know Your Marriage Will Last Forever

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

When you encounter marriage problems, don’t start the slippery slope of worrying that it may not last; instead, just know your marriage will last a lifetime.


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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the difference hope makes in marriage – and the 8 year investigation that debunked the discouraging myths we have all believed about marriage and divorce.

Tip 11: Never waver from knowing your marriage will last a lifetime

I can still remember one of the most visually-effective points I’ve ever seen made by a professor. In my business school course on financial institutions, the professor was talking about a recent Wall Street scandal. He surveyed the usual horseshoe-shaped amphitheater, walked over to a student in the far left seats, and called on him to answer a question about the rogue trader who had taken some big gambles with his institution’s money--and lost a lot. The professor worked his way around the room as he called on students to discuss how the trader tried to make the lost millions back by gambling even more. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 10:49 AM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Believe You Hit the Jackpot

Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

Look for ways to give your spouse most of the credit for your relationship success – and you will live in regular, conscious gratitude as a result.


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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on what makes happy marriages so happy, based on nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples.

Secret #10: Believe You Hit the Jackpot

Here’s a thought to consider: if we gave our spouses more credit for their role in the good things in our marriages…would they probably start contributing even more?

The reason I ask that is because the highly happy couples I interviewed and surveyed had a very different answer even from those who were in generally good marriages.

On the survey, I asked something like, “who is most responsible for the happiness of your marriage – you or your spouse?” Among those in good marriages, each spouse was more likely to say “well, if I have to choose… our happiness is due to me.” Among those in great marriages, nearly eight in ten of those surveyed didn’t hesitate: they said “it’s because of my spouse.” FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 10:47 AM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn: Look Higher


Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn:

Don’t look to marriage or your spouse for happiness –since that is something they cannot deliver – and instead look higher; those couples who put God at the center of their marriage find not only fulfillment but the selflessness to build a great relationship.

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Welcome to Marriage Month! From June 5 to July 4, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on what makes happy marriages so happy, based on nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples.

Secret #9: Look Higher

When I did the research for my book, For Parents Only, I was fascinated to find that the happiest kids were not the ones whose parents put them (the kids) first. Instead, while the parents clearly loved and were attentive to their children, they were looking higher: They put their marriage and the whole family first. FULL POST

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