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Posted 10/1/17 at 8:06 PM | Edward Ridenour

Does a Spritual Union Exist In A Biblical Marriage?

Is there a spiritual union when two people are married? Is it spiritual in nature?

Well, first, accurately defining how marriage originated and proceeded till now according to the teaching of Scripture will provide a very clear answer to this question.


Posted 2/20/17 at 8:03 PM | Edward Ridenour

BIBLICAL MARRIAGE: An Honorable and Knowledgeable Acquisition

(4) "That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; (5) Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: (6) That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. (7) For God hath not called us to uncleanness, but unto holiness. (8) He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his Holy Spirit" (1 Thessalonians 4:4-8, KJV).

This article is a follow up to my previous one, "BIBLICAL MARRIAGE: It's A Clean Thing." As I Focus now on 1 Thessalonians 4:4-8, it can be observed that the Apostle Paul continues his theme from 4:3 regarding "sanctification" (cleanliness), which he incites each member of the Thessalonica church to adamantly secure and protect, through the abstinence from fornication.

In 4:3, Paul placed emphasis on abstaining from every possible kind of disordered sexual intimacy (fornication) in the flesh, because any act of fornication is contrary to that which makes a Biblical marriage and defiles a Christian's new birth sanctification against God's will. FULL POST

Posted 7/4/16 at 9:54 PM | Edward Ridenour

Scriptural Declaration: Sex Equals Marriage

Even though the Christian church at large refuses to admit the undisputed fact that sexual intimacy equals marriage, abundant evidence is found throughout Scripture supporting this fact. In Scripture, sexual intimacy between a male and female always infers marriage.

I don’t know why the church chooses to be so worldly and secular in their marriage concepts and deny what is so obvious in Scripture, which completely exposes the difference between secular marriage and Biblical marriage. In fact, marriage as promoted by the church today has no backing whatsoever in Scripture, which is only natural, because what they promote is a secular concoction of men and not that instituted by God.


Posted 4/18/15 at 2:20 PM | Edward Ridenour

BIBLICAL MARRIAGE and The Way A Male Sees A Female

There are a variety of measures in which to gauge the collective condition of the Christian church, which invariably reveals the condition of most individuals within it, professing Christ as Lord of their life.

Howbeit, there is only one authority, which provides the revelation and instruction of measurement for all to assess, as to whether one’s declaration of being a Christian is either valid, genuine, or not. That authority is God’s Word, the Bible. It is man’s revelation of his Savior and his Savior's expectations for living as a believer, as well as the recompense for that life lived.

Because the Bible’s revelation and instruction is based upon and focused toward individuals who are genuinely Spiritually regenerated, being endued with the empowerment to satisfy those expectations of living, there will undoubtedly be a distinction between those who are truly regenerated and those who are not (secular). That distinction, through Biblically acquired knowledge, should become more and more definitive the longer one lives on this earth, within that changed state. To live in that state is to live Biblical, holy. To live contrary to that state is to live unbiblical, unholy.

For those who do not know my teaching and theology of Biblical marriage, I present Biblical concepts as to what makes a Biblical marriage, as well as what violates it. One violation, defilement that the Bible addresses is adulterous fornication, which only occurs between males and females. This can occur physically or it can occur mentally (in the heart).

One very evident unbiblical condition that pervades Christendom, which nourishes this adultery, is how the male Christian sees a female.


Posted 12/14/14 at 2:59 PM | Edward Ridenour

BIBLICAL MARRIAGE and The Erroneous Marriage Covenant

When the church attempts to define Biblical marriage, an ill-perceived and ill-conceived concept is attached to it that is consistently and erroneously advocated by the church. That concept is the so-called “marriage covenant” (vows stated by the couple at their wedding), which is valid only by the presence of human witnesses. This farcical concept extolled by the church as a requirement for the existence and validation of a God approved marriage is preposterous and absolutely unbiblical.

There are primarily two reasons causing one to advocate such a false unbiblical concept: Biblical ignorance or blatant rejection of what is Biblically and pointedly conveyed as to the makings of a God ordained marriage. However, AT THIS TIME, I believe ignorance is the overwhelming reason for this error, which I have constantly pointed to in my previous articles. There are many, though, who flat out reject this truth. What is important to remember, though, is that when one’s understanding of Biblical marriage is skewed, every concept applied to it will most likely be skewed as well.

This marital covenant business is something that people inquire about in regard to my theology of Biblical marriage. (Note: To acquire the foundation of that theology, one can begin by reading my article “The Honor of Biblical Marriage”). I have expounded only briefly on actual Biblical marital covenants, as well as the church’s unbiblical covenants in some of my other articles. However, in this article, I want to focus on it exclusively and point out some aspects that I haven’t referenced before. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 3:56 PM | Edward Ridenour

Premarital Cohabitation: Christian Mythology

Premarital cohabitation. How many articles or comments I have come across by various Christians condemning this choice of living. They site the participants various reasons/motivations for choosing to do so. They offer researched statistics declaring all the ill and negative effects of this horrible and ungodly behavior, stating how unbiblical it is. Of course all the reasons and statistics they use include non-Christians as well.

Well, I want to set the record straight about premarital cohabitation, making the case that those Christians who make these claims of condemnation, whether they be pastors, teachers, licensed professional counselors, or whoever else declaring this choice of living as unbiblical speak from a total lack of understanding of the Bible - the truth concerning this lifestyle and its Biblical connotation. To declare their concept of premarital cohabitation, as they do, reveals senselessness and gives further proof of the ignorance of Christendom regarding Biblical marriage and its violation. FULL POST

Posted 2/10/14 at 1:43 PM | Mort Fertel

Why Fighting is Critical to a Healthy Marriage

“Irreconcilable differences” – we’ve all heard that phrase before. When celebrities break up, it’s typically the first reason they cite as the source of their crumbling marriage.

But what about the rest of us? Sadly, it’s extremely common for people to feel like they no longer share a connection with their spouse. They begin to fear that their marriage won’t last because of their constant arguing and differing in opinions.

You might think that conflict like this would be a predictor of a marriage doomed to failure. But you know what? You’d be wrong.

Studies show that avoidance, rather than confrontation is the number one predictor of divorce among couples. In other words, a couple who never fights is at a greater risk of divorce than one who does.

Though fighting isn’t always a good thing, at least there is some communication happening. If you feel as if you and your spouse never talk, because when you talk it inevitably leads to an argument, you might be doing more harm to your relationship than you realize. Though we try to avoid conflict at all costs, ultimately, there is nothing more damaging to a marriage than NOT fighting. FULL POST

Posted 2/1/14 at 3:55 PM | Mort Fertel

Change The Past

Can you escape the ghosts of relationship past? All too often, couples pose the same question. They wonder if, after an affair or an act of betrayal, there’s a way for them to move past the hurt and approach their relationship with a new, sunny outlook.

It’s not going to be easy. But it’s not impossible. If you’re asking yourself this same question, there might be a way for you and your spouse to renew your bond.

Here's the key.

You need to look deep inside yourself and figure out what you’re trying to accomplish. You can’t undo the past – there’s no magical time machine to go back and undo discretions - but can you find a way to look past the past? Because that’s the element of this that you can control. You can’t change the past. But you can change how you perceive it.

At a low point, you might feel like you’ll never get over the hurt or the anger or the sadness. But the good news is that you don’t need to change the past in order to get over it. You just have to change the meaning of the past.

Sometimes in life, terrible things happen, but the lead to greatness. Consider a time in your life, completely separate from your relationship, where something happened that seemed horrible at the time. Maybe you missed out on your dream job. Maybe you broke your ankle days before a race. Maybe you and a childhood friend got in a fight that felt irreparable. Looking back, what might have felt like the end of the world might have had a silver lining. In many cases, things happen for a reason. Or, even if there is no reason behind an event, a negative action can lead to a positive outcome. FULL POST

Posted 12/19/13 at 3:08 PM | Edward Ridenour

Putting Biblical Marriage Asunder: Is It Possible?

Biblically, marriage either exists or it doesn’t. Men, religion, or culture do not prescribe the law that governs it, i.e., the origin and validity of its existence, when it has been violated, its elimination, etc. When marriage exists, it is either Biblical (legitimate, holy, God approved) or unbiblical (illegitimate, defiled, worthy of judgment). And most importantly, it is a lifelong unending attachment or defilement.

It is in the context of this marital premise (“lifelong unending attachment”) that I want to emphasize, which one must recognize in order to accurately describe what the Lord meant when He declared in Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”(KJV)


Posted 12/3/13 at 10:30 PM | Mort Fertel

Analysis Paralysis

Have you been thinking about your relationship a lot? Is that an understatement? Are you the type of person who obsesses over your relationship?

If you’re experiencing marital distress, odds are, you’ve likely spent a significant amount of time and energy mulling over your situation. Maybe you’ve spoken to a friend, family member, or even a therapist about what’s not working and trying to pinpoint where things started going wrong. This can be therapeutic.

But sometimes, all the thinking and talking falls flat. When you spend so much time analyzing these aspects of your relationship, you often fail to take action. Thinking deeply about your marriage is a good starting point, but when it becomes a substitute for real and actual change, then you’re not doing anything to improve the situation.

Picture this real life scenario: I once did a series of phone sessions with a woman who had been in therapy for years. During our first session, I asked what changes she and her husband had implemented as a result of their couples counseling. She admitted that they’d made no real changes – though she understood their relationship much better.

This perfectly sums up what I like to call “analysis paralysis”. FULL POST

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