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Mort Fertel

Mort Fertel is the Author and Founder of the Marriage Fitness System for Relationship Renewal. Read on for stories and lessons directly from relationship psychology expert, Mort Fertel.

Posted 3/1/10 at 10:53 AM | Mort Fertel

Are you taken for granted?

Are you looking for a marriage retreat because
you or your spouse feel UNAPPRECIATED?

Maybe I can help.

Let me begin to deal with APPRECIATION in
marriage by explaining a basic human dynamic. FULL POST

Posted 2/22/10 at 10:28 AM | Mort Fertel

Analysis Paralysis: How to unstuck your marriage

Do you think a lot about your marriage?
Is that an understatement? Is OBSESS
more like it?

If you have marriage problems, and want to stop divorce
you probably spend a lot of time and energy THINKING
about your circumstances. You've probably analyzed
your spouse, your marriage, and what happened to
your relationship from every possible angle.

And the chances are good that others have
weighed-in on your situation too. Have you
discussed your problems with a friend, a family
member, or a marriage family counselor?

Posted 2/16/10 at 10:38 AM | Mort Fertel

How to change your marital situation

It's well known that 50% of FIRST marriages end in

Do you know what percent of SECOND marriages end
in divorce? FULL POST

Posted 2/15/10 at 12:19 PM | Mort Fertel

A Life Changing Story

I just had to share this story with you.

Two businessmen attend the funeral of a mutual

One man says to the other, "How much did he
leave?" FULL POST

Posted 2/1/10 at 12:34 PM | Mort Fertel

How to restore HONOR to your marriage

Would you believe there's a lot you can
learn about your marriage from the American

There is. Listen up. FULL POST

Posted 1/28/10 at 10:25 AM | Mort Fertel

How to see your marriage from a new perspective

Using only ONE LINE, can you make a 

6 out of this symbol: IX

I'll get back to that. FULL POST

Posted 1/27/10 at 11:28 AM | Mort Fertel

How to Forgive and Be Forgiven

Can I Save My Marriage? Read the article below for tips on how to save your marriage.

The closer you are to someone, the more likely 
you are to step on their toes. And being married 
to someone certainly puts you in close quarters. 
So the chances are good that you and your spouse 
have sore feet.

Okay, enough of the smelly metaphor. The point is 
that it's NORMAL for you and your spouse to err 
and for those "misses" to cause hurt...sometimes 
serious hurt.

Posted 10/29/09 at 11:36 AM | Mort Fertel

How to say I'M SORRY

How to Save a Marriage

Have you ever heard the expression,
"Love is never having to say you're sorry?"

Sometimes I wonder how such utterly ridiculous
expressions become commonly accepted. If you're
close to someone, you're going to step on their
toes occasionally. And when you hurt someone,
ESPECIALLY YOUR SPOUSE, it's important to say,
"I'm sorry." FULL POST

Posted 10/29/09 at 10:59 AM | Mort Fertel

Pain and Peace: How to Transition

When it comes to your emotional state of being,

there's a big difference between being in pain

and true suffering. What's the difference? And FULL POST

Posted 10/1/09 at 2:32 PM | Mort Fertel


Do you know Aesop's fable about the goose and the golden eggs?

Let me share it with you and explain how it relates to your marriage.

The fable is about a poor farmer who discovers that his goose is laying golden eggs.

At first the farmer thinks it must be a trick. But when he gets the eggs appraised, he learns that they're pure gold!

The farmer can't believe it. And he gets even more excited when he realizes that the goose is laying golden eggs EVERYDAY. Eventually, the farmer becomes fabulously wealthy.

But the farmer tires of caring for the goose and waiting day after day for the golden eggs. So he decides to kill the goose and get all the golden eggs at once. But when he opens the goose, there are no golden eggs. And now the goose is gone too.

How does this relate to your marriage problems?

A good relationship lays many golden eggs: security, companionship, fun, intimacy, just to name a few. In the words of Jerry McGuire, "You complete me." And that's exactly how we feel when we're in a successful marriage...COMPLETE.

But the golden eggs of a marriage are THE RESULT OF tending to the relationship (the goose).

Over time, most people grow tired of caring for their marriage. Most people become selfish and impatient. So they stop extending common courtesies, being sensitive, and thoughtful. They stop giving their marriage time and energy. And they treat the person closest to them in a way they would never treat even a stranger on the street.

The amazing thing is that most people's inappropriate behavior in their marriage is, in their mind, an effort to grab some golden eggs. In other words, people aren't trying to sabotage their marriage. They're trying to get what they want. They're trying to get the golden eggs. But their behavior is killing the goose!

In the beginning of your marriage, your relationship is strong and indestructible. But if you want the goose to keep laying the golden eggs, you've got to learn how to take care of it.

It's easy to fall in love. But maintaining a marriage that lays golden eggs year after year is something very few people know how to do.

But the fact is, it's not hard. You can do it! You simply have to know how.

Remember the first time you tried to use a computer? Overwhelmed right? "How does this work?" But once someone showed you; from then on it was easy.

Saving a marriage and maintaining love in your relationship is kind of like learning to use a computer. It's seems impossible; until someone shows you how to do it.

Love is NOT a mystery. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable--you can "make" love.

Mort Fertel
Author & Founder of Marriage Fitness

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