Do You Feel Like A Grape?

Do You Feel Like A Grape?

By: Mort Fertel

Have you ever been to a winery?

Can you imagine what it would be like to be one
of those grapes? Really...play along with me here
for a moment.

Can you imagine what it would be like to be
plucked, pushed, crushed, pressed, skinned, and
fermented? OUCH! The pain! What's the point of it
all?

A lot of people feel that way about the pain they
experience in their marriage. "Why am I doing
this? Where is this relationship going?"

But just as a grape goes through a difficult
process before it becomes a fine wine, sometimes
our marriage has to go through a painful process
before it matures.

The people who have the best marriages are NOT
people who grew up well-adjusted, have healthy
adult lives, and normal parents. People like that
usually have OKAY marriages.

The BEST marriages are with couples who were
crushed, who went through a painful process, and
who built their relationship from the ruins of
broken hearts.

There's an ancient song by King David, "Those who
sow in tears will reap harvest in glad song."

And so it is that pain is often the preview to
pleasure. Any woman who has experienced child
birth can testify to this truth.

As I interact with more and more people in the
Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp, I notice that
very often the turning point in a marriage is
when a couple hits rock bottom. It's not until
they've been through the worst that things start
to get better.

But saving a marriage is NOT automatic.
Just because you hit bottom, does NOT
mean you'll bounce back. If you don't make it
happen, you'll just crash. In order to save your
marriage, you have to take RESPONSIBILITY.

What does it REALLY mean to be responsible? A
person who is responsible has the ABILITY to
RESPOND. In other words, if you take
response-ability for your marriage, then your
marriage is not determined solely by what
happens; it's also determined by how you RESPOND
to what happens.

A responsible person is not a victim to their
circumstances. They are the master of their fate.
How you respond to your marital circumstances
today WILL determine your marital circumstances
tomorrow. YOUR actions create your marriage. You
can turn sour grapes into a fine wine.

If you know how to do this, then
do it now. If you need help, then USE ME. I can
help you. Years ago my marriage was hours from
"done." I turned it around and I can show you how
too. I've helped thousands of marriages.

Making a relationship work is not mystical. Love
is NOT a mystery. You don't have to be "lucky in
love." You can "make love." You just have to know
the recipe.

Wishing you well,

Mort Fertel
Author & Founder of Marriage Fitness

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