Definition of Domestic Violence | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/facts_4855091_definition-domestic-violence.html#ixzz1t3It6IWc "Domestic Violence occurs when one person in the intimate relationship tries to hoard control over the other by using destructive behaviors that may include physical assaults, sexual abuse, stalking and emotional abuse. While victims may be either male or female, most victims of domestic violence are women. The violence may occur constantly or only sporadically."
Examples of domestic violence: belittling, putting you down, name calling, isolation from family and/or friends, withholding money in order to control you, physical, emotional and/or sexual threats, intimidations of all types, publicly embarrassing you, keeping you from getting or keeping a job, mind games to make you feel inadequate and stupid.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OF ANY KIND IS WRONG. IT IS EVEN MORE REPREHESIVE AND DISAPPOINTING WHEN IT OCCURS IN THE BODY OF CHRIST. It is sad but true many Christians experience domestic violence in their relationship. What is even more shocking and upsetting is their mate is supposed to be a Man of God, sometimes even a pastor or religious leader.
Domestic violence in the church, in the pulpit has been an ugly dark secret whisper about but not openly exposed. The unfortunate event involving the powerful, anointed woman of God, Prophetess Juanita Bynum pull the cover off this situation. She was pushed to the forefront of this societal poison and put in a position of becoming the face of domestic violence in the pulpit.
What does the bible say about marriage and relationships? What does it say about how the man is to treat his wife? First, God created man from the dust but he created woman from the rib of man. God ordained marriage stating a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife Gen.2:24. The wife is his good thing Prov 18:22, God has instructed man to fight/protect his wife Neh 4:14,be the covering for the wife Eph 5:23, to Love her and make sacrifices for her even as Christ did for the body of Christ, Eph 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
For no man ever yet hateth his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it even as the Lord the church. For no man ever hit himself, punch himself, kick himself, beat himself, gave himself a black eye, bruised his own body but take steps to nourish, strengthen and love his body.
Regarding anger Ephesians 4:26 amplified bible states: when angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath- your exasperation, your fury, or indignation-last until the sun goes down. 27. Leave no room or foothold for the devil-give no opportunity to him. 31. Let all bitterness an indignations and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you , with all malice (spite, ill will or baseness of any kind) 32: AND BECOME USEFUL AND HELPFUL AND KIND TO ONE ANOTHER, TENDERHEARTED, (COMPASSIONATE, UNDERSTANDING, LOVINGHEARTED), FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER (READILY AND FREELY) AS GOD IN CHRIST FORGAVE YOU.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OF ANY KIND (TOWARDS WOMAN OR MAN) IS UNACCEPTABLE AND SIMPLY WRONG. FOR THOSE IN MINISTRY IT IS A DEMONIC SPIRIT AND I URGE YOU TO SEEK DELIVERANCE. EVERY PASTOR SHOULD HAVE A PASTOR - SEEK OUT YOUR COVERING AND COUNSELING.
SPEAK THE ANSWER NOT THE PROBLEM. THE ANSWER IS IN THE WORD OF GOD. Heavenly father, we come in the name of your son, Jesus, asking that your blood will cover each person affected by domestic violence. We pray for every perpetrator that the spirit of conviction and repentance would penetrate their very soul, saturate their spirit, and bring them to their knees. We commissioned the Holy Ghost to arrest them in the spiritual realm, let the fear of God fall upon them. We decree that your word would be as fire in their bones and they shall weep in repentance for the wrong they have done. We send the word of deliverance to them from this demonic spirit and declare as they seek your face that the snare shall be broken and they shall make their escape. Your hand shall be upon them that they shall do no harm. We pray for their deliverance and that those that have been harmed at their hands will be healed. We pray for the victims, those who have received harm from their hands, those that have witness the abuse (children). We pray for the victim who struggles to understand how a Christian could perpetrate such an act on another that you would bind up their wounds, their broken heart, their broken spirits and we speak to their inner man to be healed, to be made whole. We ask that you wrap them in your arms, love them, protect them and cause them to hope again. Let them call upon your name and not lose hope for many are the afflictions of the righteous BUT YOU DELIVER OUT OF THEM ALL. We speak to the inner man and command the root of bitterness, hurt, anger, and frustrations to be uprooted. We loose the spirit of forgiveness even in this for it is your will for us to forgive. We ask that you would protect them according to Psalms 91, Psalms 35 and 61. We give you glory mighty God according to Psalms 62:7 In God is my salvation and my glory: the rock of my strength, and my refuge, is in God. 8 Trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us.
Resources for domestic violence:
Family Violence Prevention Fund www.fvpf.org
The National Coaltion Against Domestic Violence www.ncadv.org
The National Domestic Violence Hotline www.ndvh.org
Cycle of Violence http://www.domesticviolence.org/cycle-of-violence/
Abuse no more http://lifemadesimple.typepad.com/abusednomore/2009/06/the-circle-of-violence.html
10 week recovery http://www.emotionalabuserecoverynow.com/telecopypage.htm
Focus min http://www.focusministries1.org/sitemap.html
Faith trust http://www.faithtrustinstitute.org/store/01tA0000000M7rTIAS
Christian Psychotherapy http://www.christianpsychotherapy.com/Theophostic.html
Christian books on domestic violence http://www.christianbook.com/biblical-practical-resources-counteract-domestic-violence/catherine-kroeger/9780830838387/pd/838387?event=AFF&p=1011693&