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Praying for Conn. victims and others

Sun, Dec. 16, 2012 Posted: 08:42 PM

Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted, Matt 5:4. President Obama spoke the sentiments of the hearts of many as he stated "Our hearts are broken today. Each time I learn the news I react not as a president, but as anyone else would -- as a parent. And that was especially true today." As a mother and grandmother, I cannot begin to imagine the heartbreak these families are experiencing. Our hearts are broken for each victim, child and adult touched by this senseless violence.

On the same day of this tragedy there was another event in China: A knife-wielding man injured 22 children and one adult outside a primary school in central China as students were arriving for classes Friday, police said, the latest in a series of periodic rampage attacks at Chinese schools and kindergartens per Associated Press. Our families expecially our children are under attack.

It is unimaginable to think that something like this could happen did happen. We cannot begin to understand the pain that they are feeling, the bewildment of it all. We pray that each family will be surrounded with those professions who can assist them in walking through the stages of grief: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. We pray for the Lanza family as well who are also dealing with the death of the mother, the shame of having a member of your family do the unthinkable.

As a therapist accustomed to assisting families and children develop coping skills to deal with grief, separation and loss I offer these observations. Each person will deal with grief differently and at different times. Parents, your first responsiblity is to take care of yourselves. Yes, your self. In order to meet the needs of the children and others in your family, you must take care of yourself. Set aside time for you to weep, read, write, listen to inspiration songs do what you need to do to be healthy. POUR OUT YOUR HEARTS TO GOD. TRUST HIM TO COMFORT YOU. HE IS THERE TO HELP YOU. Husbands and wives take care of each other. You need to grieve indiviudally but also as a family. It is ok for your children to see you cry because that is what we do when we experience grief but assure them things will get better. You must know that as difficult as this moment is THIS TOO SHALL PASS. IT WILL NOT ALWAYS BE LIKE THIS.

Children particulary have less capacity to express their feelings and symptoms of grief can include regression i.e. wetting the bed, thumb sucking. They may exhibit isolation, aggression, anger and increase irritability. They may want to talk or they may not want to. You must observe and know your child. Art is a great way to help children cope. Keep them supplied with paper, crayons etc and encourage them to draw how they feel. Use the teddy bear or their favorite toys to help them talk. Give hugs and reassurance of your love for them. PRAY WITH YOUR CHILDREN. YOU MAY NOT KNOW HOW TO ANSWER THEIR QUESTIONS BUT ASSURE THEM THAT GOD LOVES THEM AND WILL HELP THE FAMILY GET THROUGH THIS.

Therefore, for these families we send to them the word of hope, comfort and peace that is found in the word of God. We pray that they will not turn to alcohol, drugs, or violence. We pray that instead they will turn to the only one who is able to see them through this. We pray that they will not focus on tomorrow but ask God to give them strength to get through each day one hour at a time. Please know that people across the nations are praying for each of you.

Jo­seph M. Scriv­en, 1855.wrote this song "What a Friend we have in Jesus, all our sins and griefs to bear! What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer! O what peace we often forfeit, O what needless pain we bear, All because we do not carry everything to God in prayer."


SPEAK THE ANSWER NOT THE PROBLEM. THE ANSWER IS IN THE WORD OF GOD. Heavenly Father, your word declares blessed are they that mourn FOR THEY SHALL BE COMFORTED, Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. We weep with each of these families. And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. We pray father for you to wipe away their tears with your finger of love. Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. Father let them come to you and remember in the midst of the storm you still care for them. For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Father help them to turn to you and lift up their eyes to the hills knowing that you are their source of help. Give them courage to go through. We pray that you lift them up in your arms, carry them through this storm, be the wind beneath their wings, let their sorrow be brief and keep the sweet memories strong of their loved ones. When they are along with their grief, hold them close to your bosom and rock them like a baby. We look to you God the only one who is able to bring good out of evil. We trust you to have mercy upon them as we hold them up in prayer in Jesus' name. You are I am that I am, you are whatever they need you to be, whatever they need you to do and you are there to help them in their time of need. To God be all the glory for you are faithful, just and merciful and you will give peace and strength to your people.

Please feel free to post a prayer here for these families.

Yvonne Perkins