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11/24/14 at 06:02 PM 0 Comments

Weather The Storm

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I want to share my thoughts with you on a very touchy subject, DIVORCE particularly among Pastors. My heart is burdened whenever I hear that pastors are getting divorced. It is difficult to understand when two people confessing Christ as their savior and head of their lives come to the conclusion that they can no longer remain married. Matters of the heart are sensitive and no one can judge what another person is experiencing so this is not about judging rather about examining different aspects of the breakdown of a relationship. I want to encourage those who are considering divorce to consider again. SELAH, pause, mediate, and think again. I encourage you to weather the storm which is to say hang in there, wait it out, and hold on until the storm is over.

God honors marriage. Genesis 2:18 KJV And the LORD God said , It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. He created female to be a helpmate to the man. Genesis 2:24 KJV Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Marriage biblically is the union between a man and a woman.

Divorce a. The legal dissolution of a marriage.b. A court order or other document establishing such a dissolution. A separation between things that were once connected or associated.

The things I am going to discuss apply to all Christians but even more so to those who are Pastors or in ministry. Satan tries to destroy and/or pervert everything that God has established. You can find many scriptures about marriage and divorce including citing adultery as a ground for divorce.

No one should stay in a situation where domestic violence exist and put them in harm’s way. And yes, domestic violence does exist in the pulpit and among them that confess Christ. Just look at the testimony of Prophetess Juanita Bynum, Yolanda Adams and others to know that this is a sad truth. Adultery does not have to end the marriage when the person is repentant and willing to change and the injured party is willing to forgive.

Those who are true believers will face challenges in their marriages because the enemy will surely attack. Satan is not as focused on destroying marriages of non believers as he is on that of believers because he is after more than the marriages but is looking to shake the faith of the believer. Those in ministry, particularly pastors need to prepare themselves for the attack on marriages and in those things concerning their personal lives. There will be difficulties. Satan comes to destroy those things that are most precious to you.

Ministry is hard on marriages because of the complexity and responsibilities of ministry. No, I am neither a pastor nor pastor wife but it is just common sense to recognize that Pastors and leaders come under a greater attack simply because of the responsibilities that rest upon them. This is why every member of the body of Christ should be undergirding our Pastors and leaders in prayer.

Pastors have a greater responsibility to do all heavenly possible to maintain their marriages. If they have children they must consider the impact upon them. How to explain how two people confessing they love God cannot remain married. They must consider the impact on the flock who will question how did this happen, what happen, why is this happening? They have to deal with the impact on the ministry. They have to deal with the non-believers connected to them that will be impacted as well; the impact can be far reaching.

Setting priorities. Christians particularly Pastors and leaders, must understand the need for priorities and seek God help with setting priorities. GOD FIRST, your wife/family and THEN ministry. You must take care of your family first. How can you take care of God’s family if you are not meeting the NEEDS OF YOUR FAMILY. Your first duty and responsibility is to minister to your wife/husband. Your vows were to take care of each other and be there for each other. Thank God for the ministry God has given you but I encourage every Pastor and leader to remember God called you to the ministry but ultimately the PEOPLE BELONG AND WILL ALWAYS BELONG TO HIM.

Marriage is serious work. Maintaining a healthy relationship requires focus, determination, perseverance and much prayer. Marriage requires deliberation, meaning you must take thoughtful, planned steps to secure, strengthen and maintain it by setting aside time to be with each other during those things which will bring joy, peace and happiness to each other.

Where did the love go? As we navigate this course called marriage it will be helpful to revisit that stage in your life when “love cover a multiple of sins. It will be helpful to take a walk down memory lane and remember when, where and how you came to love this person that you are married to. You’ve heard the statement ‘love is blind’. When you are in love nothing else seems to matter. Love ones around you can point out the flaws in the person you are dating, they can talk discouraging about the relationship, say what they will, do what they will, nothing will change your mind about that person that you have fallen in love with.

Where did the love go? 1 Peter 4:8 NKJV New King James Version And above all things have fervent love for one another, for "love will cover a multitude of sins." 1 Peter 4:8 NCV New Century Version Most importantly, love each other deeply, because love will cause many sins to be forgiven. Proverbs 10:12 NKJV New King James Version Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all sins. Proverbs The Message Hatred starts fights, but love pulls a quilt over the bickering.

• Resources: When possible I like to share resources or recommendations for further thought. I have these books and highly recommend them. “How to issue a restraining order against Satan by Vivian L. Harris. In this book she describes how her marriage survived infidelity, miscarriages, financial ruin. She details the principles of issuing a restraining order against Satan. She shares the six areas of attack from the enemy: spiritual, marriage, health, finances, personal & ministry. Excerpts: Marriage restraint (stole weekly passion, vacations, cause wife’s respect for husband leadership abilities to waiver, cause husband’s ability to lead to waver, caused to to display pain, anger & spite towards each other, infidelity (physical & emotional),decrease in communication & time together. Restitution requested as follows: restore lovemaking and daily touching, tranquil vacations, stabilize wife’s respect for husband leadership ability, stabilize husband leadership ability & confidence, restore love, patience, emotional healing, friendship, restore sanctity of marriage vows on the altar of our heart.

• “The power of a praying wife by Stormie Omartian”. She discloses sitting on the bed saying “God I can’t live this way anymore. I know what you’ve said about divorce, but I can’t live in the same house with him. Help me, Lord. She shares that God impressed upon her heart “if I would deliberately lay down my life before his throne, die to the desire to leave and give my needs to him, He would teach me how to lay down my life in prayer for Michael…he would revive my marriage and pour out his blessings out on both of us”

• Counseling: I have always heard and it makes sense to me that every Pastor needs a pastor or a mentor in his life. Ministries like Evangelist Angie Ray are sorely missed as she was a deliverance resource for many leaders. There are Christian counselors and it is my hope that Pastors and leaders would seek out that resource before making such a life changing decision. I would caution to investigate and determine what their Christian values are as many who call themselves Christian do not really adhere to holiness standard and you want to be on the same page. Also, whatever you do,this is not the time to isolate yourself. It does not mean that everyone need to know your business. No, I am suggesting that you surround yourself with true intercessors and just ask them to cover you in prayer as you are at a cross road in your life. Intercessors don’t need to know much more than that.

• Love Songs for couples:http://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Love-Songs-T-D-Jakes/dp/B00000I5ZW

When all is said and done if it is a situation where one wants to leave and refuse to work on reconciling, when you have sought the face of God and tried every avenue to save the marriage then you have to pray for strength to accept the situation. People can and will judge but God know. God’s opinion is the only one that matters in the end, really.

Lastly, I want to share this about the eagle. I research this information and it states the following about eagles: Eagles know when a storm is coming. They will seek a high place and wait for the storm. When the storm comes they fly into the storm knowing that the thrust of the storm will cause them to rise up above the storm. The high place is in the presence of God, under the shadow of his wings, finding the strength to fly into the storm being assured that the wind of God, will undergird you, thrust you up and cause you to rise above the storm. I encourage you to weather the storm.

SPEAK THE ANSWER NOT THE PROBLEM. THE ANSWER IS THE WORD OF GOD. Father God, we lift up marriages before you. The institution that you established and honor. We plead the BLOOD OF JESUS over every marriage and ask that you send forth warring and ministering angels to assist those that took vows to do it your way by being joined together as one. We in particularly cover the marriages of our Pastors and leaders for you alone understand the struggles and challenges that they face. We bind up every marriage breaking spirit be it a person, place or thing. We cancel every assignment against them and overrule, overthrow every assignment and attack of the enemy. We pray for restoration of trust where trust has been broken, love, peace, joy, power of forgiveness, spirit of conviction where it is needed in those situations where one is walking in error. We bind up discord, disagreement, hatred, envy and bitterness. Let the sweet love of Jesus sweep away, remove and heal every hurt, wound, disappointment. Let faith in each other be restored. Renew the love, rekindle the fire, and draw them back to each other arms, taking comfort, finding compassion and companionship in each other. We identify, bind, rebuke and cast out every spirit of Jezebel, Ahab, and lust that come to tear down marriages. Let the husband be mindful of the weaker vessel without despising her weakness but embracing her strength. Let every wife be the good thing, that virtuous woman who is able to carry him in the spirit realm and cause him to be the priest of his household. Let every husband be that covering that is needed for protection, provision and love. Let them come together in prayer, honoring and esteeming each other more than they do themselves. Let their love be passionate, strong, enduring and constant so that like a blanket it covers and forgives all wrongs. Let not the wrongs, hurts, disappointments be magnified in their eyes but the love of God be strong enough in them, their love for you and for each other be strong enough to help them weather the storm. We forbid the enemy to take it prey, to destroy that which you have ordained. We call marriages to be sacred, holy and enduring. Committing marriage to you for you are able to do exceeding more abundantly that we could ask, think or imagine as you repair, restore, revive and refresh marriages in Jesus name that your name may be glorified forever.

I invite comments from Pastors, leaders regarding this discussion. Please no judgments. Perhaps you can share a word of wisdom that will encourage, inspire, strengthen someone else and be as a rheama word to them.

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