I’ve always been captivated by the friends of Job.
You remember Job. The man of suffering. He suffered the loss of everything.
Somewhere in the grief process his friends came. Start about Chapter 2. They provide a bulk of dialogue in the book.
We can learn a few things about how to be friends to those who are hurting from the friends of Job.
Here are 5 words to the friends of Job:
Thanks for showing up. Sometimes physical presence is the most comforting way to help someone grieve a loss. You came when it was uncomfortable to be a friend. That’s when a true friend is found. You even sat with him — apparently not even eating — for seven days. Thank you. Your witness is well-noted.
Speak truth. Not what everyone else is saying. Some in your culture believed that all suffering was the result of sin. We know that’s not true about Job. You said some things that sounded good. Culturally acceptable things. But it’s usually best not to provide commentary. Just say what is true. Nothing more. Sometimes that’s only stuff like, “Wow! You’re hurting. I’m sorry. I love you. I’m here for you!” FULL POST