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Let Your Yes be Yes and Your No be No

Wed, Jul. 06, 2016 Posted: 07:10 AM


This post bears repeating…as parents we tend to answer our children without even thinking about what we are saying. This can lead to mixed signals to the children when saying no to something without really a true understanding of what they're asking. Make yourself listen to their questions and make yourself answer with that full understanding! Then you won't say "no" to the candy bar you really don't mind saying "yes" to. Just listen to them the same way you need them to listen to you - with hearing ears.
The message translation

Matthew 5:33
"And don't say anything you don't mean"

Matthew 5:37

"In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say 'yes' and 'no'. When you manipulate your words to get your own way you go wrong"

Although this doesn't seem very difficult it can be. Especially when you have said no to something and then those cute little faces stare up at you like you just destroyed their life! Don't change your mind...be more thoughtful when you say yes or no from the beginning. You can say 'not now' or 'maybe later'.

In my house, it went like this...
Boys: Mom can I have ice cream?
Mom: not right now

Few minutes later
Boys: Mom can I have ice cream?
Mom: if you want my answer right now it's going to be no if you want a possibility of yes stop asking.

This took a few times to get it but eventually they got it.

Marianne Kurtz