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What Is Unconditional Love Anyway?

Mon, May. 16, 2016 Posted: 04:36 PM


Is unconditional love, love that doesn’t judge our actions?

Are we supposed to judge each other’s action?

What is the difference between loving a person where they are and telling them the truth in love? If you don’t tell them the truth does that mean you don’t love them?

All of the truth in all of those statements is correct. However, the main thing, in my opinion, that is left out is the actual love.

If you are judging somebody for their actions are you still filled with L-O-V-E for them? I mean the real LOVE. The one that actually still loves the person and will walk with them through a time of change that might be difficult to understand. I don’t mean love the sin or the decision…of course not!

When I went through a hard time, I did some things that I’m not particularly proud of and my long-time friends, that I thought I could trust, abandoned me because I was in sin. But, really just because the sin can be seen on the outside doesn’t mean that sin that can’t be seen. Well, I did my own little search and I did not have to look far to find the answer.

Romans 14:1-5, 13,14
1Accept him whose faith is weak, without passing judgment on his opinions. 2For one man has faith to eat all things, while another, who is weak, eats only vegetables. 3The one who eats everything must not belittle the one who does not, and the one who does not eat everything must not judge the one who does, for God has accepted him. 4Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To his own master he stands or falls. And he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand…
13Therefore let us stop judging one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way.
14I am convinced and fully persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for him it is unclean. 15If your brother is distressed by what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother, for whom Christ died.

And then again in Matthew 7:1-6; Don’t judge.

I think that when someone is struggling with something…it might be a huge change in their life, it can be very difficult to get through. If a family wasn’t solid before that, how will it make it through that. That is why there is importance in building your family before.

If you’re married, you need to acknowledge your spouse, OFTEN! In ALL WAYS!

If you’re a single mom with child/children acknowledge them OFTEN and in ALL WAYS!

Obviously, they are different for each family. But, a family is a family!

In my family, we always talked about everything. When they were afraid to say the word sex. I mean, I didn’t tell them all my adult struggles but, they knew I struggled with stuff and sometimes, as they got older, they would hear about some of those struggles.

That doesn’t mean that today there won’t be things in their life that they don’t want to share with me. Of course there are, but…they can when they are ready. I won’t judge them.

Did I understand this years ago? NO WAY! I was probably judgmental too! And, I might still struggle with it in the future for various things. No on is perfect. But, don't stop moving forward in God because of someone else not being perfect. Look to His Word for guidance (Thy WORD is a lamp and a light).

I have just seen too many people leave good churches because they hid what life was really like and didn’t have the strong family to help when the “you know what” hit the fan! And then they lost so much more than just their immediate family. They lose friends and people that called them family.

Just remember, God is Love...Not in some superspiritual ritualistic way, or some Hug a tree way! But, LOVE! He made us...He knows we all have variables in our previous lives (BC = before Christ) that has maybe shaped us in a not so furtunate way and He knows us better than anyone. Keep the communication open with Him and be to Him and He will guide us! He knows us!

Marianne Kurtz