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11/20/12 at 04:36 PM 8 Comments

Taking Care of Aging Parents With Dementia and Delusional Disorder

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My Parents

The pattern of life: When we are young our parents take care of us. When our parents become senior adults, we take care of them.

I'm visiting my parents this week. My mom has been a diabetic for almost 50 years and now has paranoid delusional disorder. My dad has dementia. My sister is their primary caregiver. Life is definitely unpredictable at times.

Several years ago my mom had a severe case of urinary tract infection and suddenly her brain started playing strange tricks on her. Perhaps toxins got into the brain and disrupted her thinking or maybe it was the result of years of diabetes. After treating her, the doctor told us there was nothing else that could be done and that my mom would live with this paranoid delusional disorder for the rest of her life.

Even though she's been told hundreds of times (and that is no exaggeration), she believes it is her responsibility to clean the toilets and feed the dog.

Mom often worries that she will be arrested and go to jail for weird things. Today I hugged her and told her that she doesn't need to worry.

In one of my earliest school memories I remember my dad dropping me off for school and I was crying in the car. I was worried that my dad would die and I wouldn't know what to do. Dad told me not to worry, that many things we worry about will not come true.

I am reminded of the Bible verse, "So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." - Matthew 6:34 NASB

Yesterday dad couldn't remember what kind of job I have even though he's been told plenty of times. While working on this website, my dad watched me typing on my computer and he told me that he was proud of me. It was so awesome to be reminded that I do not need to earn my parents love.

So this Thanksgiving I am thankful for parents that have shown me unconditional love and I want to show them unconditional love too. God made us for this.

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