Marriage & Family

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Posted 9/27/16 at 8:27 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Top 10 Trends About Divorce in Our Culture

HBO is coming out with a new series–DIVORCE–that will run Sunday night at 10 pm (premiering October 9) depicting a couple aiming for divorce, and then realizing that it’s not as easy as they think. Here’s how they describe it:

After more than a decade of marriage and two children, Frances (Sarah Jessica Parker) has suddenly begun to reassess her life and her strained relationship with her husband Robert (Thomas Haden Church). But she soon discovers that making a clean break and a fresh start is harder than she thought. The story of a very, very long divorce, the show follows Frances and Robert as they grapple with the fallout from their failing marriage, not just for themselves, but also for their children and friends, ranging from awkward public encounters to difficult private therapy sessions. FULL POST

Posted 9/20/16 at 12:44 PM | Mark Ellis

Matchmaking God brought true love after prophetic dreams

Elizabeth Coll

By Mark Ellis

A hideous violation by her second husband left her wondering if she could every trust a man again. Then her best friend died from cancer, and a series of prophetic words and dreams opened her heart to love again.

Originally from Canada, Elizabeth Coll moved to California with her daughter and second husband. “What we went through in our first year (of marriage) brought me to the end of myself,” Elizabeth says. A strong Christian, she had always pointed to her blessed circumstances to show others the greatness and love of God.

But then she faced the ultimate betrayal by her new husband. “It was horrible, the circumstances couldn’t look any worse. He appeared to be a strong Christian, but he was a sociopath hiding in the church,” she says.

“One day I thought I had a great man who loved the lord and loved me. But I was married to a monster.”

Years earlier, Elizabeth was distraught after her first marriage fell apart. “I never wanted to be divorced,” she says. “I went through a huge journey with God over that.” FULL POST

Posted 9/12/16 at 4:51 PM | Scott LaPierre

God’s Chastening Is Not Punishment, but a Father’s Loving Discipline

The following is an excerpt from my book, Marriage God's Way.

Marriage God's Way by Scott LaPierre

Hebrews 12:5–6 discusses the way God produces good in our lives:

And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons: “My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; for whom the Lord loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives.”

We often apply these verses to God’s punishment of sin, but the real context is God working out certain issues to produce fruit and righteousness in our lives. Since none of us is a perfect husband or wife, we all have sin in our marriages. That means each of us has certain behaviors and struggles God needs to fix as we grow in our sanctification and become more like Christ. God will chasten us to make that happen. While that does not always feel good, we should embrace the chastening, understanding that God is doing something good and worthwhile in our life.

The author of Hebrews goes on to say in verses 11–13:

Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Therefore strengthen the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be dislocated, but rather be healed. FULL POST

Posted 9/10/16 at 8:27 PM | Michael Bresciani

Why Homo-Marriage will bring America into Direct Conflict with God

During this election cycle in the United States the issues cited and heralded as the ‘most important’ are, security and prosperity.

Both candidates for president are using the same rhetoric and both claim they will bring security and great prosperity to us all - if they are elected.

Not to despair, Vice Presidential candidate Mike Pence this week reminded supporters in a speech that the Republican platform was entirely pro-life and inferred that more conservative judges will be chosen under a Trump administration. Conservative appointments in the Supreme Court may be a veiled reference to encourage legislation to defend traditional marriage that will not be overturned by a liberal court.

No one wants to be the voice of gloom, but some people would rather deal with the truth, especially as it pertains to what really is ailing the nation.

The issues of abortion and gay marriage have largely been tabled by both candidates and relegated to hot button social issues that no one is seriously tackling. It’s as if the glorified nine judges of the whole earth have spoken and who would dare to question.

Anyone seriously warning about the push of the LGBT and other efforts to legitimize homosexuality is labeled a homophobe or worse. This writer has been referred to as a “rabid homophobe.” I prefer to call myself a rabid voice for the truth of scripture. It is in the scriptures that we see that the warning against the profusion of homosexuality is given on three distinct levels. FULL POST

Posted 9/5/16 at 5:57 PM | Scott LaPierre

Embrace the Struggle

The following is an excerpt from my book, Marriage God's Way.

Marriage God's Way by Scott LaPierre

As you read about marriage, whether in God's Word or books like Marriage God's Way, you'll recognize weaknesses in your relationship with your spouse. This can create tension, but it's actually a good thing! God is introducing areas that need to be improved, and the best way to do that is by asking each other tough questions. A husband might say, “Outside of the Lord Himself, do you feel like you are taking second place to anything in my life?” If a wife answers that she does not feel she is the supreme relationship in her husband’s life, the husband should not try to talk her out of the way she feels or persuade her to see things differently. Likewise, a wife might ask her husband, “Do you feel like I respect you?” If the husband explains how she makes him feel disrespected, the wife should not argue with her husband and try to convince him he’s wrong. Instead, each spouse should listen to the other and try to make the appropriate changes. FULL POST

Posted 9/2/16 at 12:18 PM | Brian Wallace

Do You Really Need Another Pokecoin?

Pokemon is a really popular game for kids, whether you are playing on your mobile device or with the old fashioned cards. Learn more about Pokemon Go strategy from this infographic!

Posted 8/30/16 at 12:22 PM | Scott LaPierre

Handling Frustrations Toward Our Spouse

The following is an excerpt from my book, Marriage God's Way.

Marriage God's Way by Scott LaPierre - Handling Frustrations Toward Our Spouse

God's Word is not split into one section for husbands and another for wives. The biblical passages on marriage, such as Ephesians 5:22-33 and 1 Peter 3:1-7, contain intertwined exhortations for both spouses. Husbands should read the instruction for wives, and wives should read the instruction for husbands so they can understand what is commanded of their spouse. If a husband knows what is expected of his wife, and a wife knows what is expected of her husband, they can help each other fulfill their biblical responsibilities.

Although, there is also a danger associated with this approach. Since the standard set by God’s Word is so high: FULL POST

Posted 8/20/16 at 6:49 PM | Scott LaPierre

Marriage “Problems” Are Really Symptoms

Marriage God's Way by Scott LaPierre

The following is an excerpt from my book, Marriage God's Way.

Because our relationship with our spouse is a reflection of our relationship with Christ, our marriage “problems” are really only symptoms. The actual problems are in our relationship with Christ. In my own marriage, for example, there have been times when the “problem” looked like I didn’t have enough time for my wife and children, but that was only a symptom. The problem was that I would not listen to the Holy Spirit’s prompt to meet my family’s needs, and I was allowing the ministry to take priority to my family.

This is why any biblical marriage counseling must address the couple’s relationship with the Lord. Couples I counsel are often confused when they share a problem they are experiencing and I respond by asking, “So what does your time in God’s Word look like? How is your prayer life? What about your involvement in the church?” A wife will say, “I just told you my husband yells at me. Why are you talking about his time in the Word?” Because the hope is that as a husband reads God’s Word he will become convicted of his sin and repent. He will become a more patient and loving man. I do not have the power to change a husband’s heart (and apparently neither does a wife or there would be no need for counseling). A husband can only become a new man through a relationship with Christ. FULL POST

Posted 8/13/16 at 11:45 AM | olabode ososami

War on Gender (Part 2)

In a previous post i.e. Part I (which I recommend you read for some context), this war was described as one of many fronts to ruin the destiny of God’s masterpiece ... in humanity. It is not war against male or female, but a fundamental confrontation of biblical models. Women should not be disadvantaged in access to education and workforce opportunities but encouraged and helped to take leadership positions in business and politics, if God has gifted them for that. Britain’s first female Prime Minister, Margaret Thatcher was perhaps one of her best … we pray Theresa May, the new Prime Minister, will be even more successful. All people of all gender, race etc. are entitled to respect (even especially when we disagree with them).

The Battles

The war is a war against the word of God in Genesis 1:27. The enemy of this futile battle is not “the so called brutish man” but God Himself. Clamoring for rights can be as distractions to get our gaze off our preparations for the ultimate “wedding”. When we mix up the different roles of male and female, we soon obscure our responsibilities as the “Bride” of Christ. FULL POST

Posted 8/12/16 at 6:00 PM | Robert Hoffman

How to File for a Divorce

Getting a Divorce

Getting a divorce is a very difficult decision to make because it means a relationship you have put so much time and effort into is over. In a lot of cases, the divorce process can be drawn out and difficult and in other cases, it can be relatively painless.

The reason some divorce cases are difficult is because the couple getting divorce let their emotions get in the way. Their anger at their soon-to-be ex-spouse makes the process more difficult because they are trying to inflict as much pain as possible, which leads to a lot of pettiness on both sides and puts more money in their lawyers’ pockets.

Getting a divorce can be a simple process if both sides can put aside their differences and work together to get it done. It will also save both sides a lot of money because they won’t have to pay their attorneys as much as they would if it is a drawn out process.

With that being said, here are a few ways to make the divorce process less stressful emotionally and financially. FULL POST

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