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Posted 7/28/14 at 9:44 AM | Book Stop |

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Mom, What’s a Homosexual? - Navigating Your Kid's Toughest Questions

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(This article was originally posted in The Book Room - The Christian Post's new section for book enthusiasts and authors.)

Every parent has a struggled to discuss tough adult topic with their children. Authors and mother/ daughter team Eyyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson wrote Answering Your Kids’ Toughest Questions: Helping Them Understand Loss, Sin, Tragedies and Other Hard Topics to help parents carefully navigate difficult conversations. Speaking from personal experience, informed by child development research, these two moms offer practical insights and age-appropriate guidance.

Below is an excerpt from Answering Your Kids' Toughest Questions:

Parenting Is More Than Room and Board

Parenthood is such a strange thing. For many of us, it seems as though we had barely grown up and, before we knew it, helpless little strangers were relying on us for everything—their needs far exceeded having a place to live and food to eat. With smiles and gentle touches, we were the ones who brought comfort and order into their disordered and oh-so-confusing worlds. Time flew by, and soon whys? were coming from our little ones, often met by our own loss for words. How did we end up on the receiving end of this little bundle full of questions? FULL POST

Posted 7/28/14 at 8:51 AM | Book Stop

Marriage Monday From Shaunti Feldhahn: Don't Hold Back


Marriage Monday Tip From Shaunti Feldhahn

Tip: To have a happy marriage, don’t try to protect yourself emotionally or financially “just in case”; taking the risk of being “all in” instead of holding back is essential for creating security and happiness.

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Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on what makes happy marriages so happy, based on nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples.

Tip #23: Get in Over Your Head

Man, our culture doesn’t always make it easy to stay married, does it? One of the most bogus messages we hear about marriage is that husbands and wives should keep a little piece of themselves private. You know, like feelings you keep from your mate but share with some other friend. Or a secret bank account where you keep a little stash on the side “just in case.”

But the highly happy couples I surveyed and interviewed weren’t buying it. They threw everything into the ring – their hearts, their wallets, and especially their hopes –risking everything and deciding to believe that it would pay off. Many of these couples had moved from being very troubled in their marriage to very happy… and this particular secret was one of the most important reasons why.

They literally removed the word “divorce” from their vocabularies. They took a deep breath and decided to not have their little stash of money on the side. They gave each other full access to bank accounts, email accounts, computers, and telephones, hiding nothing. Sure, some couples did it a bit differently – for example, if one spouse had a gambling problem, they would get counsel about what financial boundaries to put in place – but otherwise they made themselves completely vulnerable to each other and took what felt like a huge risk of getting their heart broken or losing everything.

And once they were “all in,” they found that the earlier actions they had been taking to “protect themselves” actually created the very problems they were trying to protect themselves against!
As one woman I interviewed said, “What is more foolish? Taking the risk to trust him and risking the small likelihood that your spouse will betray you? Or deciding that you’re not going to fully trust him and risking the almost certain likelihood that it will build a wall between you and undermine your marriage?” FULL POST

Posted 7/25/14 at 9:47 AM | Ann Frailey

Home Schooling, Campfires & How Time Flies

1) Home schooling isn’t merely an alternate way to educate your children, it’s another way of living, learning, and thinking. We took our finals in May and formally ended the 2013-2014 school year, but we have been learning, in some form or another, all summer. From garden work to chickens, home improvements to literary endeavors, we continue to discover what our world is made of and what our lives are meant for. The big difference? I don’t give grades in the summer. I suppose God might – but He hasn’t shared our progress reports yet. I hope there’s room for extra-credit. I might need it.

2) We’ve been reading Frankenstein this week and I must say, it is one sad story. But, if you look at any of the cautionary tales – not one of them were particularly cheerful. The Brothers Grimm were grim for a reason. The main focus of Frankenstein seems to be that humanity must respect our natural limitations and boundaries, and when we cross boundaries unwarily, we can get into horrific trouble. Modern application? How about cloning humans? How about cross species breeding? The problem with crossing boundaries is that – though we are called to trust God to take us across some major boundaries (life to death to life again) – we aren’t wise enough to know the path and we tend to think we can enter new territory without a guide. The lesson learned? Watch your step – boundaries exist for a reason. FULL POST

Posted 7/24/14 at 2:08 PM | Trace Embry |

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Why Your Teen is Cutting

Believe it or not, from my experience at Shepherds Hill Academy, it is increasingly evident that the teenage cutting could be one of the best evidences for the truth of God and His Word.

The cutting phenomenon is about 15 years old.

Question: What else is this old?

Answer: The Internet and political correctness.

In today’s culture, teens can engage in any of the world’s perversions while avoiding the appropriate consequences.

A result to this is that kids begin to inflict consequences upon themselves by way of self-mutilation.

What parents need to realize is that one reason teens cause self harm is because of a warped sense of justice. No one else in their life exercises discipline on their behalf. As a result, they provide themselves with a warped justice of their own–all on an unconscious or spiritual level.

The only thing they know is that exercising their own form of consequences relieve them of their emotional pain. FULL POST

Posted 7/23/14 at 5:54 PM | CP Blogs |

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Video: Mexican Mayor Marries Crocodile for Good Luck

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Superstition leads to strange wedding traditions.

Recently Mexican mayor Joel Vasquez Rojas married a crocodile. Rojas said, "It's my wish to marry the young princess." Caught on Camera reports, "He then danced with his new wife in his arms before guests joined in."

The reptile wears a white dress in this video. The YouTube summary says, "The reptile is a princess, according to local tradition, and it is hoped the nuptials will boost catches of fish, shrimp and other seafood along the Pacific coast."

Crocodile Wedding

Another strange wedding was held recently in South Africa.

Sanele Masilela, a 9-year-old boy, remarried 62-year-old Helen Shabangu last week as her husband watched. FULL POST

Posted 7/23/14 at 1:16 AM | Bindings: Reflections on Faith, Life, and Good Books

Saying Goodbye Doesn't Mean Forever

My husband, Chuck, and I stood on our front stoop waving to our oldest daughter as she pulled out of our driveway on her way to Tennessee. With a sly smile, Chuck uttered through clenched teeth, "She doesn't have a clue where she is going." I thought to myself--neither do we! Rachel was concerned about finding her way to a summer camp. We were concerned about finding our way through the transition years to the empty nest. Rachel did make her ultimate destination. Sometimes I wondered if Chuck and I would.

As Chuck held the storm door open for me, he joked, "Parenting reminds me of that line in the Jurassic Park movie, "First comes the oohing and aahing, and then comes the yelling and the screaming." One of the main characters, a scientist, who had previously been to the dinosaur reserve was explaining the typical reaction of a new comer to the park. Then when faced with an actual life-size dinosaur, reality set in. As new parents, we had experienced our share of oohs and aahs. No longer new kids on the block, we now embraced the glaring reality that parenting is just plain hard work and at times, down right scary. Some days we just wanted to scream--at our kids, at ourselves for handling a situation badly, or simply to release the pain we felt at saying goodbye to our grown children. FULL POST

Posted 7/21/14 at 4:04 PM | Book Stop

Parenting With Scripture

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(This article was originally posted in The Book Room - The Christian Post's new section for book enthusiasts and authors.)

Author Kara Durbin knows the power teaching your children scripture; Durbin's mother “blessed” her life by parenting her with scripture. The homeschooling mom wrote Parenting With Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments (Moody Publishing) to be an A-Z guide topical to help parents instill God’s principles into their children. Here is a list adapted from her book on how to use bible verses in teachable moments

1. Discuss Scripture: Talk about the verse of choice with your child, clarifying any words a child may not know and explaining its meaning.

2. Pray Using God’s Word: After you’ve read the Bible verse and explained it, reword the scriptures to become a prayer. For example you would pray Psalm 119:29 like this “Lord, please help keep (child’s name) from being deceitful or mean. Thank you that you forgive us when we do wrong.” FULL POST

Posted 7/21/14 at 11:49 AM | Book Stop

Marriage Mondays with Shaunti Feldhahn: Women, See Going Out and Doing Things Together as Romantic

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Marriage Monday Tip from Shaunti Feldhahn:

A tip for women: Recognize that your man wants romance too, but it may mean going out and playing together; so notice and seize on things he mentions doing (sports, outdoor activities, walking the aisles of the local DIY store…) and enjoy the time together!

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Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

Tip #22: Women, see going out and doing things together as romantic

Ladies, when you envision romance, what comes to mind? I’m guessing candlelight dinners… maybe a horse-drawn carriage ride… a picnic on the beach at sunset… Since we were little girls, those sort of picturesque dates have seemed wonderfully romantic to us. We care about romance. But unfortunately, somewhere along the way, we come to assume that our man doesn’t care about romance at all! FULL POST

Posted 7/19/14 at 8:44 AM | Ann Frailey

Internet – God’s playground? Dream Your Prayers, Projects, Confession Issues, Writing for Fun is Work & More

1) I didn’t grow up with computers – they were a Star Trek sort of thing – and I actively avoided them in college. It was only as I began home educating the kids that I realized that I had to face the “techo-reality” that was invading my part of the world. Now that I am an author, I have found technology and social media to be an indispensable tool for getting word out about my books. Only today, as I drove through the country side heading toward town, did I realize that I have “met” more people on-line than would ever have been possible in world internetmy “natural” environment. It has been astounding how many people I have connected with, and though the interactions may have been brief they are not necessarily shallow. Hey, I am connecting with you right now – and that wouldn’t have happened on my porch or in my living room. I’ve had a few unpleasant encounters, but the vast majority have been wonderful, even spiritual, meetings. I can’t help but wonder what God might be up to here. FULL POST

Posted 7/17/14 at 3:18 PM | Brian Wallace

What's The Real Cost Of The American Dream?

The cost of living is going up, but we're also spending a lot of money on things we don't really need. Check out this infographic for more.

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