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Posted 10/1/14 at 8:56 PM | Yvonne Perkins

Why Do Children Run Away?


The National Crime Information Center reports “as of December 31, 2013, NCIC contained 84,136 active missing person records. Juveniles under the age of 18 account for 33,849 (40.2 %) of the records and 9,706 (11.5 %) were for juveniles between the ages of 18 and 20. “Every year, more than one million children in the U.S. run away from home. This includes kids as young as 10, however most runaways are between 15 and 17.

No one can accurately describe the fear, pain and anxiety of a caring parent whose child goes missing as a result of running away or abduction. There is an immediate sense of panic and anxiety the moment you realize that you do not know where your child is and fear that they may be in danger. The questions and fears swirl in your mind almost paralyzing you. Although my children have never run away from home; I do know what it feels like to be in a store or other setting and suddenly realize that you don’t see your child. Most parents have probably experienced becoming concerned when your child does not arrive home at the expected time, particularly giving the climate of violence, abductions, rape etc that we live in today. In this article I will offer some concrete steps you can take should you be confronted with this type of situation. In another article I will addressed abductions. FULL POST

Posted 10/1/14 at 1:55 PM | Alliance Defending Freedom

Marriage In America: Working With Allies To Wed Ideas To Action

AUTHOR: Alliance Defending Freedom President, CEO, and General Counsel Alan Sears

Even the most casual observer of current trends in American society must be aware that the current cultural and political infatuation with carving out special protections and privileges for those in same-sex relationships has wreaked havoc on the nation’s legal landscape.

Courts, legislatures, and executives nationwide continue to abandon the Constitution and ignore the will of most voters in their blind pursuit of political correctness and in-crowd approval. In just a few short years, same-sex relationships have become a specially protected class unto themselves. The most devastating impact of that overnight transformation has been on marriage, which is being “redefined” with complete contempt not only for its biblical purpose, but for thousands of years of social tradition.

Many believers have been slow to realize the enormity of this threat, and its profound implications for our families, our nation, and our liberty. But realization is setting in, and one indication of how earnestly many Christian leaders are working to bring information, understanding, and direction to people of faith on this issue is the national conference being hosted this month by the Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission (ERLC) of the Southern Baptist Convention. FULL POST

Posted 10/1/14 at 1:34 PM | Bill Blacquiere

Purchase a CD, Rescue an Orphan

Seventeen years ago, a frightened Chinese woman waded into a muddy rice field to give birth to the child she knew she could not keep. Later that day, under cover of darkness, she tearfully left her baby in a “drop zone,” a vacant lot unofficially provided for women who did not want to get caught violating China’s strict “one child per family” law. Orphanage workers who regularly check these sites found this newborn and added her to their crowded facility.

Three months later, a wonderful Christian couple from Chicago flew to China and adopted this child they describe as a “moldy, hungry, tired” little girl. They gave her a name—Laura—and more important, a loving family.

Laura-Valentine is currently a freshman in College at Lipscomb University in Nashville, TN. She is a recording artist, activist, speaker, and CEO of Laura-Valentine Ministries. A mission trip to a Ugandan orphanage added another title to her growing resume: advocate for the abandoned child. FULL POST

Posted 10/1/14 at 12:03 PM | Lori Minutoli

The Defining Moment Between Attraction and Sexual Sin

"And it came to pass in the evening that David arose from his bed and walked upon the roof of the king's palace: and from the roof he saw a woman bathing and the woman was very beautiful." 2 Samuel 11:2

Human attraction is biblical, meaning it's in the bible. King David woke up in the night and walked out onto the roof of his house without any intentions of committing adultery nor murder for the sake of his attraction to Bathsheba. Yet, as he walked upon that roof (in complete innocence for a moment), he saw her and thought she was beautiful to look at. I am guessing that she thought it was a safe time to be bathing without being seen since it was in the night time. My point is that I don't believe Bathsheba was intentionally trying to seduce David. Even so, upon seeing her bathing, the bible records that David thought she was very beautiful to look at. The fact that this is written in the scriptures amazes me.

I don't need the bible to tell me that human attraction is normal but it does comfort me to know that God has things to say on this subject. FULL POST

Posted 10/1/14 at 8:11 AM | Ann Frailey

Drawn From A Life Force…

This evening, as most evenings, my kids and I took our sunset stroll and as we walked along and we exchanged stories about the days events – some good, some silly, some challenging – I looked around at the crimson touched leaves, the golden, ready-for harvest corn, the purpling sky, and I breathed in a sigh of relief that we have such beauty as a part of our every day lives. The angst I sometimes feel, worrying that my kids have not experienced as many art museums, science centers, restaurants, historic sites, and techno tools, was washed away in the glory of simple rural beauty. It dawned on me, as I remembered our day, that we live our lives ordered by the love of beauty: prayers, studies, music, art, domestic duties well done…and our love for each other.

The younger kids and I are currently reading Farmer Boy by Laura Ingalls Wilder in the early afternoon, before we do our piano, oral reading, and Spanish lessons. Laura lived from 1867 to 1957, so she quite literally spanned the century from covered wagons to airplanes. Considering all the amazing changes that she witnessed, you’d think that when given the chance to write, she’d write about all the amazing things she was experiencing in her latter years: telephones, electric lights, cars, two world wars… Yet that is not what she wrote about, and that’s not what she has been remembered for. She wrote about the simple pleasures of her life as a child traveling in a covered wagon with her parents, and about her husband’s life as a farmer boy, and her early married years on a small struggling farm. She wrote most eloquently about her father and mother – about their spirit and their love and commitment to each other. FULL POST

Posted 9/30/14 at 4:15 PM | Trace Embry

Is it OK to Judge Your Teen?

“Don’t judge me” is a phrase many parents, I’m sure, are familiar with. It permeates today’s culture.

I think it could be one of the most abused biblical concepts.

In order to “know them by their fruit” we are to make judgements based on those of assessment.

Judging your teen shouldn’t be a bad thing, especially for the purpose of looking out for their well being.

For much of today’s postmodern society ”don’t judge me” is a weasel clause that conveniently avoids accountability for their actions.

But again, it must be a judgement of assessment. It is the self righteous, hypocritical judgments of condemnation that we must not entertain.

A while ago, my team and I were at a youth worker convention. I attended a class taught by a world renowned figure. He was formerly a major leader in the evangelical movement. FULL POST

Posted 9/30/14 at 8:13 AM | Karen Farris

The Best Teen Birth Control?

Thanks to the latest guidance from the American Academy of Pediatrics, doctors are now encouraging teen girls to use implantable rods with Progestin to prevent pregnancy.

Since young girls don’t always remember to take a daily birth control pill, implantable rods alleviate those concerns. Intrauterine devices (IUDs) ranked next in birth control options followed by the Progestin injectable contraception which is given every 13 -15 weeks. The Pill ranked fourth.

The latest data indicates that teenagers typically ignore abstinence information, but do take the advice their pediatrician—whom they will see throughout their youth and into their early 20’s. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, “Adolescents consider pediatricians and other health care providers a highly trusted source of sexual health information.” Even though the new guidance does concede that “Abstinence is 100 percent effective in preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections and is an important part of contraceptive counseling” pediatricians are reluctant to encourage this healthy choice. FULL POST

Posted 9/29/14 at 7:05 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday From Shaunti Feldhahn: Wives, Have and Share Realistic Expectations

Marriage Month Tip of the Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

Tip #31: Wives, have realistic expectations and share them with your husband

Happy spouses help create happy marriages! Makes sense right? And it turns out that one of the things that will keep you happy – and thus your marriage happy – is avoiding a situation where you are likely to experience unmet expectations. FULL POST

Posted 9/29/14 at 7:57 AM | Ann Frailey

Hot-dog Souls

I’ll admit it right off the bat – I like hot-dogs – not so much as a great meal but as a quick fill-up when things are too busy to plan out a real meal. Yet the funny thing is that I also vividly remember Sister T’s biology class where she had us experiment on hot dogs to discover what they were made of and consider their actual nutritional content. I vowed, then and there, as a sixteen year old, that I would never eat another hot dog and certainly, if I ever had children, never offer them to my kids as actual food. Thanks to the experiment – I knew better than that. I am pretty sure that was Sister’s plan all along. And maybe a little something else, too, which it has only taken me thirty+ years to decipher – poor sister – she tried – but I’ve been a little slow on the up-take.

As I look on my struggles to maintain order in my day, educate my kids, keep up with some vague notion of what is happening on the outside world, and perhaps participate in some measure, I find myself having to make skips and cuts here and there just to keep up. We eat well most of the time – but lately hot-dogs have made it onto our dinner table more often than I like. And as I struggle to maintain my morning prayer routine (after all – real life is waiting!) – I realized that those hot-dogs aren’t the only empty calories I’ve been consuming lately. I watch as we slip into hurrying through our prayers, as we miss opportunities to share our day with each other, as I say “I can’t” to an opportunity to read a book to a little one… Sometimes we prefer a quick hot-dog reality to the nutritious reality of an intentional life. FULL POST

Posted 9/26/14 at 7:53 AM | Ann Frailey

Washing Machines, Slavery, & Our Future

1) Our washing machine broke this week and for a while it looked like there was little chance it would be fixed any time soon. I briefly considered a nearly suicidal attempt to hand wash the clothes (yes, for all nine of us – like I said – it was a brief thought) but then I considered how hard and time consuming that would be, so I then imagined having the kids clean their own clothes. Without using too much imagination, I soon realized how hard that would be on the clothes, the floor, and my psyche… In the end I sent the older boys off to a laundry mat. The Sears customer service lady has since taken pity on me and arranged it so we should have working washer – soon.

 2) I spoke to a friend of mine, Jeff Gardner, who manages The Picture Christians Project  this week and he told me about his recent trip to the Middle East and his interviews with the refugees fleeing from ISIS and their offshoots. The horrific situation with women and girls being sold into slavery is staggering. There are a lot of people who desperately need our prayers and support. Suddenly, I felt utterly ridiculous spending any amount of mental and emotional energy on a washing machine. FULL POST

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