Marriage & Family

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Posted 12/18/14 at 10:18 PM | Edward Lee

When Will God Answer the Prayers of Your Marriage?

Today, I had a really interesting phone conversation with a friend of mine. I had called him because I had gotten the news that his father had passed away. So as we were talking I asked about his father. Was he a Christian, what was he like, stuff like that. So, he shared with me that his father had been in the same church since 1947 - that is 66 years. But! His dad did not really believe in Christ or the message of the Bible. Can you imagine going to church, or doing anything for that matter, week after week, year after year and thinking it to be a lie the whole time? But, that is just the beginning of this head scratcher.

For all of those years it was assumed by people in the church and within their family that this man's father was a Christian. He went to church every Sunday and fixed things and did maintenance projects around the church, "faithfully". It was not until He got sick in at the end of last year that this son started realizing that his dad had been in the church, but the church was not in him.

Try Just One More Time
So, for the last few months he had been sharing the gospel with his dad. He could see his dad’s health deteriorating and he did not want him to die without doing all he could to tell his dad about Christ, before it was too late. But to no avail. His dad, was staunch in his belief that the Bible was not real. Then earlier this month, one of his siblings encouraged him to try one more time, “just one last time”, to lead their ailing father to Christ. FULL POST

Posted 12/18/14 at 12:07 PM | Brian Wallace

Does Sparing The Rod Spoil The Child?

There are a lot of ways to modify your child's behavior, but do they all work? Learn more about alternatives to spanking from this infographic.

Posted 12/17/14 at 3:58 PM | Trace Embry

4 Cultural Myths Parents Should Be Aware of

This is the first of a two-part series in which I tackle some of the cultural myths that many parents may have fallen sway to.

We will find that some, if not all, of these cultural myths have no biblical basis to exist. The answers to these questions are taken from the experience my team and I have in working with troubled teens at Shepherd’s Hill Academy, a therapeutic boarding school.

1) I Have No Right to Snoop

Should parents be allowed to snoop? A valid question many parents don't know how to answer.

Essentially the answer is, yes! You pay the mortgage and your name is on the deed. You have the responsibility ensure your home is safe from cultural vices. To do this effectively, you may need to snoop through your teen’s stuff from time to time.

Even if your teen has a job and buys his own things, everything he purchases is still under your roof. This is basic accountability and will help you know how your teen is really doing. FULL POST

Posted 12/17/14 at 12:41 PM | Anna Diehl

Turbulent Teens: Responding to Your Child’s Faith Crisis (Guidance for Christian Parents)

As a child, your son or daughter professed faith in Christ. Maybe they got baptized. Maybe they really seemed committed. But now you have a teenager who is publicly declaring his (or her) rejection of Christ. What do you do? You panic, of course. You start flooding Heaven with a lot of anxious prayers. You worry a lot. Well, none of this is any good for your soul.

Let’s start with a very important principle of spiritual growth: if it upsets you, then it’s about you. Your teen’s personal submission to God is between him and God–you want to keep your focus on your own walk with God. God is a brilliant multitasker who is always accomplishing many agendas at the same time. In this situation, there are lessons for your teen, and there are lessons for you. You can’t do your teen’s learning for him–you can only do yours. In eternity, God will not hold you responsible for how your teen reacted to Him–only for how you responded to Him in the privacy of your own soul. FULL POST

Posted 12/16/14 at 2:55 PM | Brian Wallace

A Homeowner's Checklist For Seasonal Maintenance

There are a lot of things homeowners need to do with every changing season to keep their homes in proper working condition. In the spring you need to fill potholes and in the fall you need to have your fireplace and furnace serviced by professionals. Learn more about seasonal home maintenance from the experts at Shea Homes.

Posted 12/16/14 at 11:19 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

7 Thoughts That Will Change Your Marriage

Today I want to share with you 7 thoughts that, if we really understood them, could change your marriage and transform the way you see your husband.

1. God is your Father-in-Law

We like to think of God as our Father, our Daddy, our Abba. That’s all very true. God is our Father, and He does love us, and care for us, and listen to our prayers, and want the best for us. He is going to bat for us.

But do you realize that God is also our Father-in-law? Gary Thomas asked that question in his book Sacred Marriage, and it really does put a different spin on things, doesn’t it?

God is also your husband’s Father. And that means that He really cares about your husband, and He really loves your husband, and He listens to your husband’s heart cry as well. I imagine that one day, I’m going to stand before God, and He’s going to gently talk to me about Keith. He’ll say, “what did you do to care for my son? How did you love my son?” FULL POST

Posted 12/15/14 at 2:16 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Wives, Be Aware of Your Husband's Secret Romantic Fears

Christian Post Blog, Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

December 15, 2014

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

Photo Credit: Emmanuel_D.Photography via Compfight cc

Tip #42: Wives, Be Aware of Your Hubby’s Secret Romantic Fears

Most sitcoms today have a staple character and plotline about men and romance: the bumbling husband who forgets his wife’s birthday or buys his wife a power saw for Valentine’s Day. The audience always howls with laughter when some poor fellow tries a big romantic outing and everything goes completely wrong. FULL POST

Posted 12/14/14 at 2:59 PM | Edward Ridenour

BIBLICAL MARRIAGE and the Erroneous Marriage Covenant

When the church attempts to define Biblical marriage, an ill-perceived and ill-conceived concept is attached to it that is consistently and erroneously advocated by the church. That concept is the so-called “marriage covenant” (vows stated by the couple at their wedding), which is valid only by the presence of human witnesses. This farcical concept extolled by the church as a requirement for the existence and validation of a God approved marriage is preposterous and absolutely unbiblical.

There are primarily two reasons causing one to advocate such a false unbiblical concept: Biblical ignorance or blatant rejection of what is Biblically and pointedly conveyed as to the makings of a God ordained marriage. However, AT THIS TIME, I believe ignorance is the overwhelming reason for this error, which I have constantly pointed to in my previous articles. What is important to remember, though, is that when one’s understanding of Biblical marriage is skewed, every concept applied to it will most likely be skewed as well.

This marital covenant business is something that people inquire about in regard to my theology of Biblical marriage. (Note: To acquire the foundation of that theology, one can begin by reading my article “The Honor of Biblical Marriage”). I have expounded only briefly on actual Biblical marital covenants, as well as the church’s unbiblical covenants in some of my other articles. However, in this article, I want to focus on it exclusively and point out some aspects that I haven’t referenced before. FULL POST

Posted 12/12/14 at 7:41 AM | Karen Farris

Porn-Free Wi-Fi Zones

Why is it so hard for McDonalds and Starbucks to agree to a porn-free Wi-Fi zone in their 25,000 American stores? Especially since they have already done so in all of their stores throughout the United Kingdom. It doesn’t make sense.

Besides preventing children from accessing porn at these local Wi-Fi hotspots, it also helps prevent these same hotspots from becoming distribution points for child and graphic adult pornography. The Enough is Enough (EIE) Internet safety group cites many instances where Wi-Fi hotspots are commonly used for criminal trafficking—and sexually soliciting children.

Both Starbucks and McDonalds are resisting the implementation of porn filters in their free Wi-Fi offering. Yet other American chains like Chick-fil-A and Panera do so voluntarily. EIE has a public awareness campaign and hopes to secure even more than the 25,000 supporters it already has.

To learn more, click here and next time you visit Starbucks or McDonalds you might leave a suggestion with the manager about a porn-free Wi-Fi for its customers. The child you’re protecting may not be able to thank you, but we’ll be a better, safer place because of it.

Posted 12/11/14 at 10:38 AM | Ron Edmondson

4 Ways to Keep Your Marriage from Being Injured During the Christmas Holiday

The Christmas season can be hard on relationships. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve met with a couple after the holidays because of problems that developed — or were exaggerated — between Thanksgiving and New Years.

How can you protect your marriage this Christmas? That’s a good goal, right?

Here are 4 suggestions to keep your marriage from being injured during the Christmas season?

Plan a budget together. Stick to it. There will often be one spender and one saver in a relationship. Or two spenders. The principle is this: Don’t spend in December what you’re going to regret in January. Be wise on the front end.

Protect your family first. Even if that means saying no to some extended family events or time with friends, put your immediate family needs ahead of other obligations. Have time together as a family. (For years we did this wrong — and we regretted it later. It wasn’t until our boys were in high school and they could voice that they wanted more time with just us.) As a couple, agree on where you’ll spend your time before you spend your time anywhere this holiday season. You may have to support each other with the spouse’s families. (Wives speak to their families. Husbands speak to their families.) FULL POST

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