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Posted 9/18/14 at 11:58 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

What is the Difference Between Dating and Courting?

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By S. Michael Houdmann / Got Questions Ministries

Question: "What is the difference between dating and courting?"

Answer: Dating and courtship are two methods of beginning relationships with the opposite sex. While there are non-Christians who date with the intention of having a series of intimate physical relationships, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason for dating. Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each another as potential marriage partners. First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ. The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). As stated before, during this time there should be little or no physical contact, as this is something that should wait until marriage (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). FULL POST

Posted 9/17/14 at 2:04 PM | Trace Embry

Another look at Salvation

It often appears that the Gospel message gets into people’s heads long before it gets into their hearts--particularly in evangelical circles.

However, for some folks the Gospel impacts their heart long before their head has a chance to realize what's happening in side them. In this case, it can take a while before it gets to their head.

At Shepherd’s Hill Academy (SHA), our team sees both scenarios.

One particular example of this was when an enrolled student was adamantly determined not to have anything to do with Jesus.

Essentially, he claimed to be an atheist and actually made a pact with some of his peers not to succumb to the “Jesus myth.”

He would not let a Christ-centered program like SHA “brainwash” him into belief.

At SHA we create a Christ-centered environment without forcing Jesus or religion on anyone. Not even Jesus would do this. FULL POST

Posted 9/17/14 at 7:47 AM | Ann Frailey

The Hope of Redemption

I’m always wondering how I got myself in the latest fix, even when the latest fix isn’t really my fault at all. Like when the power goes out, or the phones don’t work, or the water filters get clogged. I find myself wondering if I did something to deserve such a rough day. When I have actually done something wrong, I don’t always feel the consequences right away – but somewhere in side of me – I just wait – knowing that it’s coming – probably when I least expect it.

I know a lot of good people, but I don’t know any perfect people – close maybe – but not quite perfect. And I’m rather grateful that I’m not standing alone in my stupidity and sinfulness. But even more, I am grateful that there is a way out of bad days and sin itself.

Bad days need to be lived through. Sin needs to be repented. Repentance comes at a cost. It usually breaks a person into a million pieces and then puts them back together again…better than they were. At least that’s how it usually works with me. FULL POST

Posted 9/15/14 at 11:21 AM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday From Shaunti Feldhahn: Avoid Painful Disrespect by Thinking Ahead

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn



Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do. 
 


Tip #29: Wives, since processing your husband’s decisions out loud can sometimes come across as painful disrespect or questioning his judgment, think in advance about how to say it so he doesn’t misunderstand what you are saying. FULL POST

Posted 9/15/14 at 7:56 AM | Ann Frailey

Rising from Despair

I love history and I’ve read enough of it to realize that there are themes which seem to haunt humanity. One of the most striking themes is that we can’t be happy for long without some kind of trial creeping upon us. Reading the recent news I have a feeling we are in for more than a little trial in the near future. In fact, I believe we are facing a challenge to our very characters as human beings. Again.

I do not say the word “character” lightly for I know that I draw a great deal of inspiration from characters of the past – people I read about both real and fictitious. Real people are written about by other people who can only know a part of their story. You never really “know” that person as God knows them, or as they might have known themselves, but still, you can draw strength from them. Characters in a book may be made-up, but well-drawn characters tell us something important about ourselves and our world. In fact, they might lead us toward a truth we desperately need to remember. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 11:27 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday From Shaunti Feldhahn: Taking Care of Yourself Says "I Care About You"

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Tip: 
Recognize that taking care of yourself says "I care about you" to your spouse; it isn’t about looking like you walked off a magazine cover, but about your spouse seeing you are willing to make the effort to take care of yourself for them.

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Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 11:24 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday From Shaunti Feldhahn: Mutually Reconnect With Your Spouse After Conflict

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Tip: When you and your mate experience hurt feelings and conflict, mutually reconnect by sharing a private signal that says “We’re okay.”

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Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on what makes happy marriages so happy, based on nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples.

 Tip #26: Mutually Reconnect With Your Spouse After Conflict FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 11:21 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday From Shaunti Feldhahn: Women, Ask Him to Accept Help Without Hurting His Heart

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Marriage Month Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

A tip for women: When you know you need to ask your husband to accept guidance or help, and you know he might feel painfully inadequate as a result, say it with kindness and in a way that makes it about your need rather than his failure.

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Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

Tip #25: Women, ask him to accept help without hurting his heart FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 11:14 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Monday From Shaunti Feldhahn: Don't Hold Back

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Marriage Monday Tip From Shaunti Feldhahn

Tip: To have a happy marriage, don’t try to protect yourself emotionally or financially “just in case”; taking the risk of being “all in” instead of holding back is essential for creating security and happiness.

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Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on what makes happy marriages so happy, based on nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples. FULL POST

Posted 9/14/14 at 11:10 PM | Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriage Mondays with Shaunti Feldhahn: Women, See Going Out and Doing Things Together as Romantic

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Marriage Monday Tip from Shaunti Feldhahn:

A tip for women: Recognize that your man wants romance too, but it may mean going out and playing together; so notice and seize on things he mentions doing (sports, outdoor activities, walking the aisles of the local DIY store…) and enjoy the time together!

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Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join us here in the Book Corner as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do. FULL POST

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