Marriage & Family
Posted 5/24/13 at 2:44 PM | Musical Notes
Time is running out to enter the Fatherhood Challenge – a contest promoted by GRAMMY Award-winning Christian Rapper Lecrae and two-time NBA Champion Dwayne Wade to start a nation-wide conversation about what it means to be father.
The pair – both devoted fathers, husbands and Christians—began promoting the contest earlier this month. The Fatherhood Challenge urges men to submit original songs, videos, essays and photos that share their definition of being dad before 12 p.m., June 1. Challenge winners will be awarded cash prizes and a trip to Washington, D.C.
The challenge is sponsored by the This is Fatherhood campaign. The campaign has also drafted award-winning filmmaker Art Hooker, Lecrae and Joshua Dubois the former Director of President Barack Obama's Faith-based Initiative to judge the entries from June 1 to June 3. The general public can also vote online for their favorite entries until June 1. FULL POST
Posted 5/24/13 at 9:36 AM | Karen Farris |
Kendra loved the new apartment. Situated in a maze of several hundred units—this one was theirs alone. Her youthful dream was finally being realized. As she unpacked the stack of boxes, it was a blend of their former lives.
Her boxes had clothes, dishes, and a collection of treasures stretching back to her early teens. For him, there were just the male essentials—clothes, TV, sound system, game console, and a large collection of DVDs. She shook her head at the scrappy collection of cast-off furniture crammed in their tiny living space.
They’d excitedly set up the bed first thing. Living together meant no more nights apart. She shivered with anticipation thinking about all the time they’d have with each other. As she unpacked her dishes, pots and pans, she imagined dinners prepared in the tiny kitchen and long evenings with just the two of them.
Like thousands of couples across America, they’d co-signed a lease together, but didn’t bother with the marriage certificate. Over the last fifty years, cohabitation has increased 1500%.
Living together is perceived to be like training wheels on a bike. Get your balance. See how smooth the ride is. It’s the post-modern way to be protected from marital failure—kind of like a condom to prevent a divorce. FULL POST
Posted 5/24/13 at 9:15 AM | Bill Blacquiere
Infertility is an issue that many couples face. It can be very painful, lonely, and isolating. Following is a perspective from one couple that has confronted this issue.
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My husband and I are Christians. We were baptized, we read our Bible, we attend church on Wednesday nights and Sunday mornings, we have been involved in home fellowships and Bible studies, we pray—but as the years dragged on [with our infertility diagnosis], we honestly both started to doubt the promises of God’s Word.
The real root of our problem was that we were being religious hypocrites like the Pharisees in Matthew 15. We were drawing near to God with our mouths, honoring Him with our lips but our hearts were far from Him and our worship was in vain (Matthew 15:7-9). And very similar to Jesus’ parable about the Pharisees being “blind leaders of the blind” (Matthew 15:14), in our own home, my husband and I were like the blind leading the blind and before long we found ourselves in a ditch. We needed the spiritual blindness of our hearts to be healed. FULL POST
Posted 5/23/13 at 12:22 PM | Alliance Defending Freedom
This opinion column originally appeared in townhall.com on 5/23/2013.
For years, Iowa law relied on a rather reasonable bit of biological reality: it takes a man and a woman to make a baby. From that fact, the state reasoned that for questions of paternity, the answer would involve someone commonly called a “father.” So when the state recorded births as a matter of public record, it (rather logically) looked for a man as the non-birth parent.
As reasonable as that may seem, in the brave new world of “marriage equality” it is now “prejudicial” for state officials to ask this simple “who’s your daddy?” question.
Posted 5/22/13 at 12:53 PM | CP Blogs
Two days ago we featured a story about a Muslim preacher killing his child bride on her wedding night. After doing some research, we learned that child marriages are becoming more popular in Iran.
WND reported that the percentages of child marriages in Iran more than doubled from 2006 to 2010. The rate of child marriages grew from 2.3% to 4.9%. The article headline revealed that the child brides are definitely not rare: 850,000 young Iranian girls, as young as 9, married.
WND also revealed that it is legal in Iran for girls under 10 years old to marry if they obtain permission from a court or guardian.
According to Oxford University's Institute of Social and Cultural Anthropology, child marriages endangers the girls' health. "The mortality rate of mothers under the age of fifteen is five times higher than those over twenty year olds."
Mohabat News quotes Iranian legislator Mohammad Ali Isfenani as saying, "As some people may not comply with our current Islamic legal system, we must regard 9 as being the appropriate age for a girl to have reached puberty and qualified to get married. To do otherwise would be to contradict and challenge Islamic Sharia law." FULL POST
Posted 5/18/13 at 8:07 PM | Ann Frailey |
We just got back from a two hour recital in which five of my eight children played several piano pieces. They are at different levels and enjoy different kinds of music but as I sat back and listened I reflected on all the years ( we started with piano lessons over ten years ago when the eldest was six) and all the frustration, and all the hard work, which brought them to where they are now I am frankly amazed. I often wondered if their musical skills would ever add up to anything…and with every recital I am reaffirmed that we did the right thing in sticking to it.This year my husband has been very sick dealing with Graph vs Host Disease and then skin cancer, thus we’ve had a host of things to deal with…including keeping on schedule with all the school work. Sometimes, when I am exhausted and thus irritated, I begin to wonder..am I doing the right thing? Does all this really matter? I could send my kids off to some “other” school and save myself a lot of work. I could cancel the music lessons and save myself some money and frustration. But then I can’t help but adding…and we could get rid of the animals and the garden….hey….why did I have kids in the first place? My life would certainly be easier if I only had myself and my husband to take care of. And then, before you know it, I am wondering why I don’t just jettison him into the world of “I need to take care of myself now”. In truth…I could toss every relationship, every skill, everything worth doing off my shoulders and live in self centered minimalist approach to life. FULL POST
Posted 5/17/13 at 9:30 AM | Karen Farris
The boxes of my past were stacked one on top of the other. On a rainy day, I opened the oldest one first. Long ago, Mom laboriously glued my rudimentary pre-school and Kindergarten artwork into a huge scrapbook. I felt the rough texture of each finger-painted picture. Turning the pages, I followed my progression—messy scribbles, erase marks, lots of teacher’s red ink. Learning didn’t seem to come easy for me.
I noticed that when my teachers wrote something encouraging, better work seemed to follow. We all recall those special teachers—the ones who reach behind the failure, and see something worthy to hold onto. The red ink marks told a story. Yet, the bold letter grades shouted their disapproval of my answers—magnifying how wrong I felt about myself.
Not that there isn’t a place for red ink and grades, but the critical words written beneath those grades, or the ridicule in front of my classmates often hurt far more. As a youngster, I could already see that other kids were smarter than I. Learning new concepts seemed to take me twice as long. But I eventually learned—just not in time to score very well on those pesky annual achievement tests. Yes, Mom saved every one of those too. A bar graph visually labeled me below average year after year. FULL POST
Posted 5/16/13 at 11:00 AM | Bill Blacquiere
Imagine yourself as a single mom with three young children. Your doctor discovers a health issue that requires surgery and a hospital stay. Your parents live in another state and both work. You have a few friends, but none close enough that you’d consider asking them to take care of your children while you’re in the hospital. As the date approaches for your surgery, you become desperate. Who’s going to watch your children?
That’s what Stephanie wondered, until she heard about Safe Families for ChildrenTM (SFFC). Through this national movement, Stephanie’s three children were taken in by a wonderful Christian couple in her city. A month after her surgery, Stephanie and her children were back together again.
“If it wasn’t for Safe Families [for Children], I don’t know what I would have done,” Stephanie told a local reporter. “I think the State would have taken my children.”
Safe Families for Children is a national movement of compassion that gives hope to families in crisis. Safe, loving homes are provided where parents seek to restore stability in their lives. Safe Families for Children has partnered with churches, local community agencies, and volunteer families, as well as government organizations in more than a dozen states. FULL POST
Posted 5/15/13 at 11:31 AM | Kae Am |
What exactly is marriage?
By this question, I inquire for a more detailed and in-depth answer than merely "one man, one woman," or "any single person you love." There is a lot more to the definition of marriage than either side in the debate has taken into consideration. And I raise these questions because everyone in our country - including the Supreme Court - must answer when deciding about the nature of marriage.
Posted 5/14/13 at 12:57 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices |
By Ron Edmondson
I previously posted 10 Things I’d Do If Raising a Daughter Today. In this post, I will focus on the boys.
I know a little more about this subject, having two incredible sons of my own. But, we always look at life differently from the other side of it. My boys are grown. I’m still parenting, but in a completely different way. Mine now is one of influence. Thankfully, both boys still come to me for that influence. There is no greater joy than seeing boys become God-honoring young men. I’m thankful to have a front row seat with my sons.
But, even with the incredible young men I know as sons, there are things I would do differently if I had that part of life to do over again. I know boys become men. And, every man I know, whether or not he admits it, struggles at some level with confidence. He struggles to know he is enough, that he can do what God calls him to do. Every man is desperate for someone to believe in him.
And, sadly, we are living in the age where the absentee father is the normal. It once was the exception. (That’s the subject of another post, but it’s plaguing our society. Check any statistics.) FULL POST