Marriage & Family

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Posted 11/24/14 at 10:33 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

How Technology Threatens Marriages

It’s 1975 and Mr. Company Manager needs to talk to Ms. Sales Manager about an account. It’s after hours, so he picks up the phone and calls her at home. Her husband answers. The two chat for a bit about the latest Maple Leafs’ loss, and then husband passes the phone to wife.

It’s 1991 and Miss Recent Law Grad needs to talk to Mr. Lawyer Partner about a case on the weekend. She dials his home phone and Mr. Lawyer’s 4-year-old son answers. Recent Law Grad convinces him to pass the phone to his mommy, who explains that Mr. Lawyer Partner is out taking the 8-year-old to gymnastics. Miss Recent Law Grad used to take gymnastics, too. They chat for a bit about the lessons, and she leaves a message with Mrs. Lawyer Partner explaining why she’s bugging Mr. Lawyer Partner at home.

It’s 1982 and Johnny Doe is driving through his hometown when he passes the old “make out bridge”. He has fleeting thoughts of Mary Jane, with whom he often frequented that spot. But he doesn’t look her up, because he has no idea where she is. She’s probably married anyhow. FULL POST

Posted 11/24/14 at 10:29 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

The Myth of Sexual Incompatibility

The evangelical church has found sex.

After years of being rightfully accused of prudery, many Christians have done a 180, deciding that the best form of evangelism is showing the world just how much we get it on. In July 2013, Pastor Joe Nelms of Family Baptist Church in Lebanon, Tennessee started a firestorm when, in his opening prayer at a NASCAR race, he thanked God for his “smokin’ hot wife”. Disgraced megachurch pastor Mark Driscoll was renowned for riddling his sermons with sexual innuendos. Closer to home, Christians are hosting “Passion Parties“, just like Tupperware parties, except without as much plastic, where women can shop for lingerie, sex toys, and lubricants in their own homes, with friends.

The message: sex in marriage is awesome!

But is it? This sexual evangelism caused Rachel Pietka to pen an opinion post for Relevant Magazine saying that “Christians Aren’t Called to Have Amazing Sex.” After all, if we aren’t supposed to have sex until we’re married, there’s no way to find out if you’re sexually incompatible. Obviously, then, God never meant for amazing sex to be a staple of a good Christian marriage. FULL POST

Posted 11/21/14 at 8:06 AM | Karen Farris

Start with American Hunger

We’d gathered in the high school library and even though it was against library policy, the hosts were providing cider and cookies. Folding chairs were arranged facing a microphone at the front. Soon the award ceremony would begin.

I took a seat and a friend from another non-profit spotted me and quickly came beside me. We used to work together at the crisis pregnancy center, but a rural K-12 school needed my help as a volunteer grant writer.

Stacks of white envelopes were on a table in front and as God’s providence would have it, the award for my organization was announced first. I rose and went to shake hands with the chairman of the board, who was bestowing thousands of dollars to all the non-profit organizations in the large room. I shared briefly about the impact that this money would have on our small school.

Sitting down, I then listened to the words of acceptance for fifty other small non-profits in our community. But there was one issue that we all were dealing with—and it wasn’t just poverty, abuse, or homelessness. It was hunger. Of the $250,000 given away that day—money that needed to be stretched over lean budgets for all of the coming year, much of it would be spent on food for the hungry. FULL POST

Posted 11/20/14 at 7:18 PM | Carolyn Henderson

Trust Me: You're Smart Enough to Read the Bible

Phonograph Days inspirational original oil painting of 1940s nostalgia woman in Victorian home by Steve Henderson
Steve Henderson Fine Art
We're smarter cookies than we give ourselves credit for, and we can understand art, music, literature, and other intellectual pursuits -- like reading the Bible -- more than we think we can. Phonograph Days, original oil painting by Steve Henderson.

Flattery is a remarkable weapon.

Though I'm not a Bible Study Group girl, someone almost caught me years ago by commenting,

"You're smart."

Got my attention, that did.

"I think you'd do great in our Bible Study for Intelligent People class,"(and no, it wasn't called that), "because we're looking for students who are willing to read and do research during the week."

"You mean there's homework?"

"Oh yes, only we don't call it that. But there's a good 7 or 8 pages each week to write up answers to questions. Sometimes it's multiple choice, there are essay questions -- 3 or 4 hours a week, minimum. It teaches people to be accountable." FULL POST

Posted 11/20/14 at 11:02 AM | Brittney Moses

25 Family Christmas Traditions to Make This Season Special

And so the world begins to prepare for the Holidays the moment Halloween ends! I went into Walmart the other day and the aisles we already lined with gifts and decorations. A chill of excitement stirred me as It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas rang in my head. I don’t know about you but I love the spirit of this time of year. I personally had a lot of great childhood memories when Christmas came around and my parents did everything they could to make sure it was special for us. For others, you may not have had the same experience. But we have an opportunity to restore the joy, love and peace of the season to our families with just enough effort.

I want Austin to grow up with warm memories of the Christmas season and most of all I want him to know that Jesus is the reason for the season. So we’re going to start up our own set of Family Christmas Traditions to make this season bright! FULL POST

Posted 11/19/14 at 10:34 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Wifey Wednesday: Stop Living Separate Lives!

Stop being so busy.

We hear that advice all the time–we need to cut down, we need to cut back, we need to be home more. We have to stop running around. I’ve written about it at length (like this post on why kids don’t need to be involved in every extracurricular activity under the sun). We know we’re busy.

But increasingly I’ve been wondering if the problem with busy-ness is not the busy-ness per se but instead what it represents–the fact that we are on the go so much that as a couple we start living separate lives.

That’s where I’m at in my marriage right now. My work-at-home job is busy, and his job is busy. We have minimal activities outside of work, but since I travel to speak, and he’s on call a lot, many evenings are already gone. I can cure some of the busy-ness by hiring a maid, or by getting other people to help with some aspects of our lives, but it doesn’t help the essential problem: we feel as if we’re living parallel lives, not sharing one life. At some point, it becomes hard to operate as a unit. FULL POST

Posted 11/19/14 at 10:27 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Interracial Marriage Between Believers

I’ve heard people use Deuteronomy 7:3-4 to say the Bible forbids interracial marriage. But God was warning His people not to marry the people of other races because they were not worshippers of God, but of idols, false gods. As Solomon was compromised through the idolatry of some of his wives, the people as a whole drew away from God.

The Israelites would be led astray from God if they intermarried with idol worshippers, pagans, or heathens. This is exactly what happened to the nation as a whole: “Judah has been faithless, and abomination has been committed in Israel and in Jerusalem. For Judah has profaned the sanctuary of the LORD, which he loves, and has married the daughter of a foreign god” (Malachi 2:1). It was not a difference in skin color that was at issue!

In the New Testament people of all nations and races were coming to faith in Christ. The New Testament parallel to those Old Testament texts would be, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14). FULL POST

Posted 11/19/14 at 8:55 AM | Trace Embry

3 Steps to Providing Teachable Moments

The team at Shepherd’s Hill Academy rises above the rest in providing teachable moments.

Teachable moments are attributed to teens succeeding in life at SHA. These principles are not merely reserved for residential care, but should be implemented within your home.

In fact, you should master the art of implementing teachable moments on a daily basis.

To highlight three steps you can take to provide teachable moments, I'll use an example that happened in my own home.

I was watching a Barbra Walter's interview of Oprah Winfrey. My daughter happened to be in the living room during this broadcast. I saw this as a perfect teachable moment.

First Take Control of Your Time

If you are going to influence your teen, you are going to need to be intentional with your time. In today's culture, life can be a blur. In order to provide teachable moments, you will need to be with your teen. FULL POST

Posted 11/18/14 at 10:50 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Why Women in Two-Income Families Often Feel Alone

I’m in the middle of some serious angst. I think I’m through the worst of it, but I just wanted to thank you all for your kind comments on my column last Friday–I Need a Wife. I was sharing how life was just BUSY–my writing is taking off, and my husband’s career is taking off, and I feel like I don’t have margins in my life to protect against feeling overwhelmed.

I didn’t participate in the comments section (I was trying to give myself a break this weekend!) but I did appreciate the suggestions. I think my plan will be to post on Mondays (I love the Reader Questions!), Wednesdays (Wifey Wednesday), and Fridays (my column). I may do some guest posts for Wifey Wednesday, as I’ve been doing recently, and I may even throw a guest post up on Tuesdays or Thursdays, too. And sometimes I have companies run a sponsored post, which I’ll likely do on Tuesdays or Thursdays. That’s what pays the bills, and I only take things that I think will actually help you, my readers, so I don’t want to say no to those. But I’m only going to write “big picture” things three times a week. Oh, and I’m definitely shutting down over Christmas! Thanks for giving me “permission” to do that (sometimes I need you guys to give me a kick upside the head, too). FULL POST

Posted 11/18/14 at 9:04 AM | Karen Farris

Naughty or Nice Christmas Shopping

It’s the time of year that we do most of our gift buying. So each year the American Family Association compiles a list of the stores that truly recognize Christmas. Why not support the best stores with our shopping dollars—while avoiding those that refuse to recognize the true reason we celebrate—Jesus Christ.

Click here for the link. And just so you know who’s the nicest—here’s the best of the best:

Lowe’s, Sears, Hobby Lobby, Wal-Mart, Belk, FA Online Store

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