Marriage & Family

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Posted 2/2/16 at 9:56 PM | Trace Embry

3 Unique Parenting Questions

Today, I want to provide you with answers that we have discussed at Shepherds Hill Academy (SHA) and on License to Parent.

Should I Yell at My Teen?

Yelling damages our kid’s self-esteem. Yelling typically occurs when we are “out of control” or at least appear to be. This leaves our child without a sense of security.Being a chronic yeller will make your parenting experience miserable. Yelling renders you weak and disrespected in their eyes. It also succeeds at embarrassing you. Believe it or not, your teen wants action.

Do your best to keep Christ at the forefront of your mind and set appropriate boundaries. When the boundaries are crossed, calmly implement the consequence or warning for a first offense, and go on about your day.

What Will Keep My Child Out of a Gang?

Everyone needs a sense of belonging. Our kids are no exception. One reason gangs are so popular is the sense of belonging and purpose. FULL POST

Posted 1/31/16 at 1:43 PM | Audra Jennings

Don’t Just Plan For Your Wedding, Plan For Your Marriage

Tying the Knot by Rob Green
New Growth Press

Advised by both tellers of fairy tales and harbingers of doom, many engaged couples don’t know what to expect from marriage. They may believe God created the institution, but many of the unions around them exhibit frustration or end in heartache. Other couples focus their energies on planning the perfect wedding day instead of preparing a relational foundation on which their lives together can be built.

Rob Green, a pastor and veteran pre-marital counselor, provides young couples with a blueprint to follow in his new book, Tying the Knot: A Premarital Guide to a Strong and Lasting Marriage (New Growth Press/February 1, 2016/ISBN: 978-1942572596/ $17.99). Green assures couples the joy, fun and love they hope for is not wishful, romantic thinking; it’s God’splan for marriage. It’s also within reach for every couple willing to do the work needed to center their relationship on Jesus intentionally.

For Green, a person’s walk with the Lord and their marriage are inseparable. “There are many moments in marriage where our commitment to Christ is challenged,” he shares. “What happens when one spouse wants to be intimate and the other doesn’t? When one spouse says something mean to the other? Tens of thousands of these scenarios will occur in 50 years of a relationship. How one responds to them will be rooted in the strength of their walk with Christ.”

Tying the Knot offers soon-to-be-married couples a practical vision of what a Christ-centered marriage looks like, with advice that is realistic, hopeful and actionable. The nine-session study guides couples through issues such as conflict, expectations, communication, finances and intimacy, showing how every challenge can be resolved successfully through making Christ the priority in their life and relationship. “I tell couples you were not created to be each other’s savior,” Green reveals. “You were designed to be a spouse because the job of savior has already been filled. When couples live for Jesus, they will live obediently to the Word, focused on prayer, dedicated to service and willing to give of themselves for the betterment of others.”

Knowing the stresses and needs of a couple during their season of engagement, Green has designed the study to require a manageable 60-90 minutes of at-home work per session, with questions and exercises to build communication and intimacy at the end of each chapter. Tying the Knot also includes an appendix for mentors, making it easy for a seasoned married couple, lay leader or counselor to lead an engaged couple through the book.

Green hopes Tying the Knot will put couples on the path to becoming the godly examples young people need to cut through the cynicism in our culture toward marriage. Readers of the book will find the resources they need to reorient their life and relationship, making it possible for them to experience all the blessings of this institution as God designed it.

Learn more about Tying the Knot and Rob Green at www.newgrowthpress.com.

About the author

Rob Green, author of Tying the Knot
Rob Green

Rob Green has been the pastor of counseling and seminary ministries at Faith Church in Lafayette, Ind., since 2005. His responsibilities there include oversight of the Faith Biblical Counseling Ministry and teaching New Testament at the Faith Bible Seminary. Green wasn’t always a pastor; he has a B.S. in engineering physics from Ohio State University and after college wrote computer programs to process credit cards. After feeling a call to the ministry he entered seminary, eventually earning a M.Div. and a Ph.D. from Baptist Bible Seminary.

Green also serves on the council board of the Biblical Counseling Coalition and has authored a number of counseling mini books. He and his wife, Stephanie, have three children: Joseph, Samuel and Mackenzie. The family makes their home in Indiana.

Learn more about Rob Green’s ministry work at blogs.faithlafayette.org/counseling.

Posted 1/19/16 at 5:10 PM | Trace Embry

3 Things Every Parent Must Do

In today’s culture there are three things every parent must do.

If parents begin implementing strategies to improve in these three areas, it is possible to begin seeing improvements within your home.

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Parents Must Address Basic Manners

Please, Thank You, Excuse Me, Sir, Ma’am, and many other terms all have a subconscious effect on our kids. It brings a recognition of the importance of someone other than themselves.

In a day of entitlement, teaching our kids manners from an early age will do much to make your parenting experience a better one.

Parents Must Teach Delayed Gratification

While shopping with your family, has your child, or teen, ever asked you for an item that he just couldn’t leave the store without? FULL POST

Posted 1/11/16 at 5:35 PM | Trace Embry

The New Disorder Known as “ATD”

We know that too many kids are quick to be labeled with ADD, ADHD, ODD, and a myriad of other “DD’s” by the mental health and child care profession today.

But, not too many people are talking about the new disorder known as ATD.

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What is ATD?

ATD represents the American Teenager Disorder. While this is a bit tongue in cheek, this “disorder” encompasses entitlement and any other vice that teens are struggling with today.

Kids are suffering from entitlement and many parents have no idea that they are spoiling their kids!

Parents Underestimate the Effects of Entitlement

If a family makes more than $35,000 a year they live in the upper one percent compared to the rest of the world.

Yet our teens struggle with issues that other parts of the world’s kids do not, such as: FULL POST

Posted 1/7/16 at 3:53 PM | Karen Kramer

Commercial God Mockers

American Family Association

Advertisers like Allstate are bottom feeders—feasting away on our decaying society. Allstate is promoting the modern lifestyle choices of two men and their adopted baby girl. As the husband places his arm around his gay partner, their newborn sleeping baby hasn’t a clue how confused her life will become. The Allstate commercial glorifies gay marriage as the smiling couple announce, “The second we held her we knew that she was ours.”

While the courts may have declared gay unions legal and the adoption of children into gay-lesbian homes legal, sadly it leaves children unable to have a voice in the arrangement.

Scientific studies point out some striking concerns for children raised by homosexual parents. While these new lifestyle arrangements are fairly new, the studies note that many children raised by homosexual couples struggle with their peers, have issues with drugs and alcohol, and cope with severe depression. FULL POST

Posted 1/6/16 at 7:16 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Top 10 Things To Do for Your Husband in Just 10 Minutes

You’ve got 10 minutes on your hands. You want to use it well. What about coming up with some things to do for your husband–that will ultimately boost your marriage?

It’s New Year’s week here on the blog, where I’m coming up with new habits or new routines you can get into to grow your marriage. And today I thought I’d give you a smorgasbord of ideas of things you can do for your husband in just 10 minutes–so that you’re thinking of him throughout the day! Here goes.

Practical Things to Do for Your Husband in Just 10 Minutes

1. Buy birthday cards for his parents/siblings all at once

Most guys hate buying cards and gifts–and they’re always afraid that they’ll forget something important. So next time you’re already out at the drug store or gift store, buy all the birthday cards he needs this year for his parents, his siblings, or whomever he should send one to. Then bring them home, have him sign them, and you can address them and put them away so they’re ready to be mailed! FULL POST

Posted 1/6/16 at 7:12 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

One Marriage Habit to Start This New Year

Does your marriage need a fresh start this new year?

Sometimes we get in these ruts where it seems like we’re always ticking each other off.

Think about it this way: How easy is it to turn an okay day into a horrible day? Pretty easy, right? Things are humming along and all of a sudden your husband says something that sounds insulting. You get your back up and respond in kind. He accuses you of not understanding him. And it escalates.

Today I want to share with you an idea that can stop that escalation.

So before I give you my idea, let’s go back to first principles.

What is it that we want in marriage?

We want to be heard, understood, and loved anyway.

Certainly there are other things–we want someone to laugh with, someone to spend time with, someone to make love with. But ultimately it comes down to feeling like he knows me and understands me. Making love with someone you think doesn’t really know you feels empty because it feels like it’s not real. Spending time with someone who doesn’t really “get” you feels shallow because you feel like you’re holding back. FULL POST

Posted 12/30/15 at 4:54 PM | Mark Ellis

Man expecting baby in transgender couple

Fernando Machado (left) and Diane Rodriguez

By Mark Ellis

A transgender couple in Ecuador has made history with a unique pregnancy: The father-to-be is carrying the baby of his transgender partner.

Fernando Machado and Diane Rodríguez announced their pregnancy on social media in early December. The revelation caused a sensation in a region that has endured an explosive evolution in LGBT rights, similar to the United States, according to Fox News Latino.

Rodríguez (born Luis), is one of Ecuador’s most-prominent LGBT activists and says she and her Venezuelan-born partner, whose birth name was María, decided to publicize their pregnancy to help shift attitudes in the largely traditional country.

Although both take hormones, neither has undergone gender-reassignment surgery, so the child-to-be was conceived the old-fashioned way, according to Fox News Latino.

Michael Brown, writing for TownHall, captured the essence of this head-turning development: “It used to be pretty simple. A man marries a woman. They have a baby together. The man is the father and the woman is the mother. Well it’s not so simple anymore. FULL POST

Posted 12/29/15 at 8:58 PM | Trace Embry

Help for Families with Special Needs

One topic we rarely discuss, is parenting help for special needs children.

Virtually everyone knows a family with special needs. But, how many churches are equipped to minister specifically to those with special needs?

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Challenges Christians Face

With over 50 million people in the U.S. with disabilities, why aren’t more churches equipped to minister to the handicapped?

Below are just are few reasons why:

  • Pastors are not informed
  • People assume “others are taking care of it”
  • Sadly, some Christians don’t want to deal with the challenges
  • People tend to face apathy and fear

Help for Families with Special Needs

Churches looking for help in creating a ministry for special needs families can get connected with P.U.R.E. Ministries. FULL POST

Posted 12/24/15 at 8:12 AM | Karen Kramer

The 12 Blogs of Christmas: #12 Christmas Gift for Life

For a young couple living on the island of Okinawa, it would be a Christmas they’d always treasure. Military life so far from home is never easy—and even harder when expecting your first child.

This was long before it was possible to stay in touch with loved ones via Skype and cell phones.

Gathered around a small tree, the couple shared their Christmas with another military couple, enjoying a meal and memories of Christmas’ past.

What they didn’t expect on Christmas Eve was labor to begin. Eight hours later, on Christmas Day, the young couple welcomed their blond, blue-eyed baby girl.

With generous permission granted by the military commander, a transcontinental phone call announced the arrival of Kerry Suzanne to surprised grandparents back home.

Many celebrations have since honored her Christmas Day birth, but it seems like I’ve been just as blessed. For to be Kerry’s younger sister has filled every Christmas with two celebrations—her birthday and the birth of our Savior. FULL POST

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