Marriage & Family
Posted 7/28/15 at 7:50 PM | Trace Embry
Why do teens struggle with cultural vices? Perhaps they don’t have enough ‘good struggle’ in their lives. Today, I’ll provide insight into how appropriate struggle can produce hope.
The same way we can kill a chick struggling to peck its way from the egg, we can do damage to our kids by not allowing them to experience struggle at pivotal times in life.
No one wants to see their kids struggle. But pain isn’t always bad. It can act as an alarm that something is wrong.
In cases like exercise, pain is gain! Just watch movies like Miracle or Remember the Titans.
Today, many parents do not want their teen to struggle, but then see their teen become troubled. Too often we bail our kids out of natural consequences for sinful actions. We enable them to live like hell expecting heaven as a reward. Of course, I’m speaking about consequences that may hurt but not harm them. FULL POST
Posted 7/27/15 at 6:44 PM | Karen Kramer
I remember watching Bill Cosby in the mid-sixties. His humor was honest, fun, and memorable. Now those memories are tarnished for good. When Abraham Lincoln said that it takes a lifetime to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it, Cosby could well understand. Only for Cosby, it appears that it is years of abuse that are now being exposed that have ruined his lifetime of achievements.
Years ago I read that Cosby was a frequent guest at the Playboy Mansion. Knowing that he was married this ruined the sterling impression I’d once held. He portrayed the faithful Dr. Heathcliff Huxtable on television, but he was living a lie in a real life. Only it was much, much worse than lusty visits with Playboy bunnies.
Now lurid stories have come out. Women report being drugged and raped by Cosby. In a recorded deposition, Cosby admitted he sought out women who were struggling financially and would appreciate his kind of attention. Now there are over 900 pages of legal deposition transcripts that profile a man who used his money and status to lure women—particularly those most desperate for stardom. Sexual assault is no joke. It’s an evil crime. Even with Cosby’s fame and financial resources used to cover it up, his dark past has come to light. Cosby used his own trusted people to set-up adulterous affairs while maintaining secrecy. Over forty women have now come forward. FULL POST
Posted 7/27/15 at 10:41 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices
Today I thought I’d run an interesting guest post from anonymous reader Your Feathered Friend. She struggles with a chronic illness, and is trying to come to terms with needing help in everyday life when her husband just doesn’t “see” what she needs.
This is a theme in both my book To Love, Honor and Vacuum and in my upcoming 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage (which releases in less than a month!): sometimes the pat Christian answers to just “love your husband and he will show love back” don’t work, especially when you genuinely need help. So what do you do? She shares her struggles here, and I’d love to hear your take on it in the comments!
Posted 7/21/15 at 6:53 PM | Mark Ellis
By Mark Ellis
When she speaks in front of high school audiences and tells students she was 37 and a virgin when she married, eyes widen and jaws drop in a mix of shock and disbelief.
“It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done – but it is possible!” exclaims Diane Hunter. She and her husband Roger are co-founders of Epic Life Ministries, and authored together “Purity by Design: the true benefits of sexual purity.”
In maintaining her vow of purity, she had to battle cultural influences. “It’s stunning to stop and consider how sexualized our culture has become,” Diane notes in the book. “There is a sexual undertone to nearly all commercials, advertisements, and the story line of movies. The climate of television has become one of flippant and degrading sexual humor, especially in sitcoms.”
In high school, Diane was a cheerleader. “Most Friday nights after the football game I walked home by myself while others on the squad went out to parties. I knew that if I was going to uphold my commitment to God and purity, I didn’t have the liberty to do the things that I saw drag other people down.” FULL POST
Posted 7/21/15 at 6:32 PM | Trace Embry
In Exodus 20, God plainly tells us not to have idols in our life.
Why do parents think their teen should be number one? Are your teens number one in your life?
Many parents boast that their child is number one in their lives. If you believe your child is number one, I would challenge that your child should actually be number three.
Could trouble with our teens be because we have made them number one?
When a child is number one we have made an idol out of him! Trust me; you can truly love your child greater if our Creator (God) is number one. My wife is glad to be number two. My kids are happy, content, and secure at number three. When God is number one, He will do the loving through us.
How can God bless your relationship with your children when they are more important than Him? He can’t. He is a jealous God. Remember the first two commandments. FULL POST
Posted 7/21/15 at 4:57 PM | Bethany Christian Services
More than 23,000 children in the United States “age out” of the foster care system every year – meaning they turn 18 and are no longer in their state’s legal care, despite the fact that they have yet to achieve a permanent connection with a forever family. That’s 23,000 kids every year that are forced into adulthood, often long before they’re prepared to take care of themselves.
Those 23,000 children are an indication of a greater problem: a foster system that isn’t completely meeting the demands of vulnerable children in need, even as thousands of dedicated professionals across the country work tirelessly to support such children. In order to properly serve the vast number of children requiring loving, nurturing homes, it’s imperative that we deploy innovative approaches to help them reach their unlimited potential.
Foster care serves a tremendous need in the United States to nurture children that have been separated from their biological families with the aim of eventually reuniting them if possible. Foster care is a prime opportunity to introduce vulnerable children to adults that can provide the care and parenting they desperately need, while also teaching them that others can be depended upon and trusted. FULL POST
Posted 7/21/15 at 4:20 PM | Bethany Christian Services
Realistic expectations are essential for any parent embarking on an adoption or foster care journey. While some might have an almost romantic notion of “rescuing” a child in need, what’s at play is so much more complex. Children who enter these homes with histories of abuse, neglect, and trauma have specific needs and may respond to foster and adoptive parents in unexpected ways that can challenge even the most well-intentioned.
Jayne Schooler and her husband, David, are staff members with Back2Back Ministries, an international Christian nonprofit organization dedicated to being a voice for orphans. The Schoolers travel to various international ministry sites, training ministry workers and child welfare professionals on how to care for children who have experienced trauma and loss.
“Children who come from abusive environments don’t have a voice,” said Jayne. “They often learn to express their needs through their behavior. Sometimes that behavior looks like manipulation, aggression, or control. But if we understood the meaning behind the behavior, we would deal with it differently.” FULL POST
Posted 7/21/15 at 12:53 PM | Brian Wallace
Posted 7/15/15 at 9:16 PM | Joyce Thrasher
It all began on an Easter morning unlike no other. Donny was at the local high school where our church rents the auditorium every year due to the large attendance on Easter Sunday; even with three services, our church building isn’t large enough to hold everyone. I was still at home getting ready when I received a phone call that Donny was having seizures and maybe a heart attack. As fast as I could, I drove to the high school where I found Donny in a back room surrounded by nurses checking his pulse while waiting for the paramedics. Donny was white as a ghost and continually going in and out of consciousness. After much coaxing to convince Donny that he couldn’t preach that morning, the paramedics arrived and loaded Donny into an ambulance. Long story short – two hospitals later, ten doctors later, two surgeries later, and four days later, Donny’s heart was fixed with two new best friends who would live with him forever, Mr. Pacemaker and Mr. Defibrillator. FULL POST
Posted 7/14/15 at 6:03 PM | Trace Embry
Today, I would like to present a case study of how Shepherds Hill Academy teaches a strong work ethic. A similar experience can also be created within your home.
One summer, the Residential Boys Program participated in the “40 Hour Work Week Project.” This project taught work ethic, financial stewardship, tithing, and saving.
Students earned $5.00 (artificial dollars for the project) each hour for an 8 hour day, allowing for the potential of earning $200.00 a week. FULL POST