Parenting

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Posted 5/9/16 at 9:48 AM | Marianne Kurtz

There Is More to Life Than Protecting Your Heart

I do believe that we need to guard our hearts from being hurt, taken advantage of, and really just never want to be too gullible. You just need the right amount of gullible so that you do not end up looking at everything through the eyes of someone jaded by life.

The past several months has me thinking about exactly what jaded means.

I remember the Aerosmith song “Jaded” and back then I didn’t really get it. Now, all these years later…I completely get it. I never wanted my kids to feel this and so I taught them to protect themselves. You can let people in but you must protect yourself, don’t get too close. All of sudden, I saw everything like a fast forward movie and how now I am seeing spending time with people as value added instead of before I was jaded in everything.

Don’t get to close…people die, move away, and leave. So, love them but always remain separate. That is how I got by without shedding a tear for about 18 years because if you don’t let people in your heart you won’t get hurt. FULL POST

Posted 5/6/16 at 1:18 PM | Julie Miller

5 Reasons to Banish “Mom Guilt” For Good

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While having a baby is one of the most rewarding event any couple can experience, there is more pressure than ever on working women to be super-moms. We’ve been sold the idea that in order to raise a functional child, you have to follow a strict set of rules, including inflexible bedtimes, breastfeeding and absolutely no non-organic treats.

Although these ideas promote good parenting, no child-rearing advice is set in stone, and mothers (and fathers) often end up feeling guilty for straying even slightly from these guidelines. The problem is, “Mom Guilt” isn’t healthy or helpful. In fact, it’s far worse for your little one than an occasional late bedtime or sweet treat.

Next time you feel a wave of Mom Guilt (Or Dad Guilt) coming on, remember this:

1. Breast isn’t always best FULL POST

Posted 5/3/16 at 7:55 PM | Trace Embry

2 Ways to Proactively Address Media Addictions in Your Home

Parents should proactively address media addictions within their home.

We must be alert and discerning to recognize idolatrous behavior in regards to media. But where do we start?

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Monitor Use

Media addictions in our youth are not derived only by the content, but by how often we allow them to be entertained.

Long before the digital age – A.W. Tozer said “I believe that entertainment and amusements are the work of the enemy to keep dying men from knowing they’re dying and to keep enemies of God from remembering they’re enemies.”

Constant amusement can simply numb us through life.

You can proactively address media addictions, as well as keep your teen aware and alert, by putting appropriate time limits on media interactions. FULL POST

Posted 4/28/16 at 9:09 AM | Ron Edmondson

The Greatest Prayer a Parent Could Ever Pray

I love the story of Manoah and his wife. They had been unable to give birth to a child. It was apparently their greatest desire in life. One day an angel of God brought them good news a child was to be born.

I think one reason I identify with the story is the huge number of people in our ministry who have struggled with infertility. It’s a huge hidden pain in the church. It’s one reason we have always highlighted adoption and foster-parenting.

But, when Manoah’s wife came to him with the news they were having a child, Manoah immediately did what happens to many men and women when they discover they are about to be parents. He grew up – literally – and he indicated this by what he did first. He prayed!

He asked for God’s provision!

It’s funny how “life” has to happen sometimes before we fall on our knees.

In the moment – realizing they were about to be blessed with one of life’s greatest blessings – Manoah prayed the most important prayer a parent can ever pray: FULL POST

Posted 4/26/16 at 7:55 PM | Trace Embry

2 Unique Ways to Position Your Teen for Success

How can you position your teen for success?

You may be surprised at the many unique ways you can position your teen for success.

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Help Your Teen Find His Gift in the Trades

There used to be a day when something would break in your home and your dad could fix it.

And if dad couldn’t fix it, then the neighbor could.

Today, however, it’s easier to buy something new or hire a repairman.

Fixing things together with your teen is actually a tool for building relationships and teachable moments.

Parents, while your child is still young help him discover his interests and talents.

It just may be that honing a trade may position your teen for success instead of four years of college. Especially in today’s computer age there are tremendous opportunities for success and personal satisfaction in the trades. FULL POST

Posted 4/25/16 at 8:15 AM | Marianne Kurtz

Communication is Also Key

Communication is Key as well…

One of the main things I always say is that consistency is key and it is true, consistency is key but, communication is key as well.

A friend of mine asked that I write about this.

My sons and I have always had great communication. From when they were small, I tried to teach them to not be afraid to communicate. I’m not talking about sharing emotions and that type thing. What I mean is this…

When my oldest was about 14 or maybe 15 I had an amazing discovery happen. It was a typical day at work and my coworker was getting married soon and was reading this book, I do not know the name, and was telling me about this part in the book where the author said that a man and a woman can be staring at like a doorknob and the woman has the potential to be thinking about a million things, but the man has the potential to be thinking about nothing at all. My coworker continued to talk about the book but I was stuck. “What do you mean?” I asked. “A guy could be thinking about nothing? How is it possible to not think about a thing?” I could not believe it. All of a sudden I saw the look on my sons face every time I would ask him if something was wrong because he was staring at something. To me, that meant he was thinking about something that was bothering him. That’s what it would have been to me… “Maybe I should I do this, or that, or I wonder if I should change around the furniture in the other room”… get it? Just always thinking something. I was flabbergasted! FULL POST

Posted 4/19/16 at 7:54 PM | Trace Embry

How to Address the Problem of Self Injurious Behavior

The problem of self-injurious behavior in the lives of our teens is a tough topic to discuss.

Millions claim cutting themselves relieves their pain.

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What pain? It’s the pain that comes from the chaos and insecurity of a life without boundaries and no one to enforce them.

In general, kids who cut on themselves are most often those who’ve been exposed to, and engaged in, excessive sinful activity without intervention.

My theory is that today’s teenagers who struggle with cutting themselves are trying to, without being cognitively aware of it, atone for their own sin. All they know is that their own shed blood makes things feel better.

Teenage cutting and self-injurious behavior is an epidemic today!

This ought to tell us that something is radically wrong with our entire culture.

If cutting is an issue with your child, seek help! Without being accusatory, assure your child that Jesus Christ has already shed His blood for the sins of the whole world–including all of theirs. FULL POST

Posted 4/19/16 at 11:10 AM | Marianne Kurtz

Midlife Crisis? No Way!

I don't think it's a mid life crisis. I think it's more like my kids are grown and I have no idea who I am again. This is where the whole "as I find myself came from" except it was because I was finding myself as they were growing. Then I found it very different once tony left and I had the son home that has more of the part of me that likes to be alone...so I found myself alone! Like...really alone!

Day in and day out. Alone.

No one to talk to but my dog. Then I have to find myself again. So, if you have the money you maybe buy a new car, or a woman might get a boob job...because what did we do with time before we had families and were so busy we couldn't see past one day! Now those same days that we grew into as teenagers and young adults, we are left with as 40-50 years olds with no clue how to fill our days! I spent many many days doing yoga and getting very concerned that I stretch very specific muscles. This is just my thoughts on its opportunity not midlife crisis But it took me a while to see that!

Posted 4/11/16 at 10:00 AM | Marianne Kurtz

A New Journey

I feel like a new journey is beginning beginning of a new adventure. A new and improved time with God, a new and improved time with family, and a new and improved time of friendship. I go to bed at night and can't wait to get up in the morning and it's not because things changed around me. But is changed inside. From a conversation I had with my son about me wanting to be married. It's a personal conversation but I'm going to share it because it made me see something In me that only his truth could let me see.

A New Journey

Posted 4/5/16 at 9:38 AM | Marianne Kurtz

Training for Sharing

One of the things that I see that baffles me, is seeing adults who do not know how to share.

I do understand that there is a certain amount of respect that is held for things that we own and have spent money on. In this training scenario I taught my sons to not only share but to learn to respect what I have purchased for them. In other words, they had to also learn to be respectful of others things as they would want someone to respect their things.

This training scenario I found completely and totally necessary when I trained them to share their toys. At this point in our lives I was a full-time nanny to two other children where my job was to continue this same training that the mother was doing at night during the day. She didn’t want to put them in daycare and have everything that she was doing be undone daily so I stepped in and would train them along with mine, so I was training four kids ages 4, 3, 2, and 1 at this point. I do not exactly remember the ages but they are all 1 year a part so that’s what I have figured. FULL POST

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