Parenting

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Posted 1/4/16 at 7:15 PM | Trace Embry

6 Resources to Strengthen Your Family

Today’s culture may seem like a daunting challenge. We seek to be a solution.

Challenges Christians Face

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Today, we can’t talk about parenting without mentioning our culture.

This is because parents, aware of it or not, are competing with the culture.

Parental influence has been undermined.

Consider these cultural influences vying for the hearts, minds, worldview, and even the loyalty of our kids:

  •       Media
  •       Entertainment industry
  •       Public school system
  •       Doctors and Psychologists

How can you navigate the difficulties presented by today’s culture? FULL POST

Posted 12/30/15 at 7:24 AM | Marianne Kurtz

Rebellion

REBELLION

This is quite a BIG subject matter.

The bible says in 1 Samuel 15:23 says, “rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry."

That seems pretty clear but, maybe you are not one that believes the Old Testament is for today. Then look at it this way: Merriam-Webster dictionary defines rebellion as “an opposition to one in authority or dominance”-plain and simple.

Someone that is trying to do things their own way not how the person who has authority wants it to be, that is rebellion. Witchcraft, in the real sense of the word, is using powers or irresistible influence to get what you want. Our job as parents is to know that when we say Yes or No it is a MORE sure thing than what our child wants at the time. So, no bending the rules, no “but he/she is so cute I can’t resist giving in”, just stick to what you say. If you said no to ice cream because they whined, then it has to stay no to ice cream until they behave the way you expect them to. FULL POST

Posted 12/22/15 at 11:32 AM | Marianne Kurtz

Be Consistent and Direct

Recently the dynamics of house has changed and I have had my nephew and my younger cousin come live with me!

What a change in my life! I went from a single mom who taught my kids and worked and am still basically teaching them how to be adults to a new “mom” or the “accountable” party to two 18 year olds AGAIN! How could this have happened??!!

I find myself in the kitchen teaching them how to ask each other simple questions like, “______, are you able to give me a ride to work today?” and the other answering and actually asking the questions instead of assuming the plans and I pick up the pieces! That is not a good thing to someone who already raised their “teenage adults”.

Meanwhile in the background…my son is laughing because he is hysterically remembering me teaching them how to ask each other questions instead of assuming the answer.

Two of the most impactful things parts of parenting are life-lessons that all humans will learn so if we can get our children a head start by instilling how to be consistent in what you believe and mean and how to mean what you say and say what you mean! This is a biblical principle. FULL POST

Posted 12/21/15 at 7:37 PM | Trace Embry

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Posted 12/15/15 at 12:11 PM | Marianne Kurtz

Don’t Punish them to Purgatory (the place between redemption & punishment)

Many years ago I made up my mind not to send my kids to their room as punishment...this also benefited me in the long run, because when mom needed time alone or they wanted to play their room was never a place of punishment.

I NEVER want them to feel like I didn’t want them around - they needed to know I love them no matter what they do - spanking (not in anger) does not mean lack of love.

Colossians 3:21 "Parents, don't come down too hard on your children or you'll crush their spirits" (The message).

I really could not figure out what it taught them except what can I do when mom is not looking and idle time does not really do a thing for them - come on really they are not thinking about what they did wrong unless it's an easy fix to get out of there...and it just opens the door wide open for the devil to fill their head with lies. If anyone is going to be talking to them - it's gonna be the word of god. it's the only cure, the only solution. Idle time is not conducive -

Ephesians 5:15-17 "not walking as fools, but wise... redeeming our time...understanding what the will of the lord is" FULL POST

Posted 12/12/15 at 3:42 PM | Larry Dozier

How Do You Conquer a Nation without Firing a Shot?

As a professional public school educator and a business trainer for over 30 years, I’ve managed programs and schools, coordinated programs and taught in state funded middle schools, high schools and colleges. That means I hold a Master of Education degree from a state accredited Texas university. And as a result of those years, I’ve concluded that our state funded education has lost its original purpose and focus. In this article, I want to simply identify some of the fundamental problems with our state funded educational system and offer three simple solutions to parents.

First, I recommend that all Christians educate their K-12 children for at least their first 6 years at home or in a well selected charter school or a Christian school or better still, start your own charter school that you can select/influence the educational curriculum taught.

The Communist Manifesto states “America will be defeated without firing a shot’.  FULL POST

Posted 12/8/15 at 10:06 AM | Marianne Kurtz

Sex as a Weapon

Sex as a weapon…

I have realized something about myself that only I could really realize in being 100% completely honest with myself…whew! That wore me out!

As a single parent there has been no one who checked me…put me in check. Ya know what I mean? I was a determined single parent who was going to raise my boys in the way that seemed right to me. That is precisely what I did! They turned out great…so far! I’m sure they’ll be fine.

What I noticed was that during this season in my life I would have times of doing things that people didn’t know about…it wasn’t meant to be a secret but it was like I had this other side of me that was like a release button. I would sometimes go dancing and maybe have a drink or two (nothing wrong with that but frowned upon by the Christian community), I would sometimes overspend on clothes/shoes for me, but one of the things that I would do or fight doing more than anything was having sex…it always served as a great release button for me…yes, even more than shopping. FULL POST

Posted 12/4/15 at 1:17 PM | Bethany Christian Services

Podcast: Jennifer Winkelmann - Lessons in Gratitude

Although adoptive families complete many hours of required education and training, Jennifer Winkelmann has noticed a trend among those adopting a child who has experienced trauma.

“So many families I work with don’t feel equipped to parent the child in their care,” she said.

Winkelmann, a family therapist who specializes in adoption and foster care, has a theory. Although adoption training provides a lot of the information parents need about potential attachment challenges, it’s difficult for parents to fully grasp until they find themselves in a difficult place—they may feel tired, discouraged, frustrated, or even frightened before they realize they need help.

But families don’t need to face attachment challenges alone.

The key, from Winkelmann’s perspective, may be rethinking the variety of factors at play. In cases of both international and domestic adoption, Winkelmann has seen many children who process sensory information differently or are simply not able to receive certain sensory input. Too much eye contact can feel overwhelming, for example. A hug can feel painful. Children who have experienced trauma—including a difficult pregnancy or a difficult birth—may be missing the very building blocks they need to engage in activities that lead to attachment. FULL POST

Posted 12/1/15 at 4:29 PM | Marianne Kurtz

One Navy Mom's Holiday...

I'm getting through…

The holidays have always been a challenge but the past 2 years have been an especially big challenge for me. My son joined the navy and everything that I was knew to be normal joined the Navy with him. Meaning…the Saturday morning Starbucks and Village Inn breakfasts with either all 3 of us or just him and I. The all-day shopping in Destin and drinking Starbucks, the sitting around the house on a Saturday morning and then Jacob gets off work and we all just talk about everything! These things will never be the same. The problem is that I have no idea what I want in the future. I had it all planned out. I would give my life for the boys to be raised without people going in and out of their lives, I’d teach them how to guard their heart from being hurt, I’d guide them in every direction that I could that was a good direction without controlling them so that they can have the best of everything without all the hurt. These were my plans. Then when they were old enough to leave home I’d be married and transition right into a life with my husband where we travel and enjoy life…apparently this is my fairy tale! FULL POST

Posted 11/24/15 at 4:04 PM | Bethany Christian Services

Life After Adoption: Lessons in Gratitude

The following was written by Jennifer Winkelmann, Founder and Clinical Director of Inward Bound, LLC, and originally appeared in Lifelines, Bethany Christian Services' quarterly magazine.

Children adopted at older ages frequently have more difficulty with building and maintaining relationships, even with people who should feel “safe” to them, like their adoptive parents. For parents who have adopted older children,* many would agree that there can be unique and unexpected challenges. During consultation with such families, I have often heard parents say:

“This isn’t what we signed up for, so what are we going to do? We can’t live like this!”

“After everything we went through to make this adoption happen, how can it turn out like this? Our family is falling apart!”

“Our child came from abuse/poverty/neglect…. Our home is a better and safer place for her to grow up. Why can’t she just appreciate it?”

“I have given so much love to our son. Things are better for him now: He has a new room and clothing, food to eat, a good school. How could he not be grateful?” FULL POST

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