Relationships

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Posted 2/24/16 at 6:33 AM | Claire John

What Keeps Couples Happy for Long Term?

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If there is one thing that most couples in love look forward to, it is to sustain that happiness feeling for as long as they can. Truth be told, a lot of people dread the instances where their relationships fail or where challenges set in. It is for that reason that people seek to find ways and means of dealing with the various challenges that may come their way to stay happy. Below are a few tips that can help a couple stay happy for a long time.

One of the things that a lot of people ignore is that they do not talk their hearts out. This is one of the biggest challenges that have been shown to cause most of the strain in relationships. When people fail to talk, there is room for uncertainty and resentment and the more this builds, the more the relationship gets strained.

Another thing that a lot of people tend to ignore is sex. Sex is one of the ways to keep the bonds of humans together. As such, it is important that people try to engage in sex every so often so as to keep the flame alive. It goes without saying that a lot of men tend to be quite worried as to whether they will perform to the best of their ability. This makes it quite difficult for them to engage in sex on a regular basis. If this is the case, natural ways to increase stamina in bed ought to be tried out so as to enjoy an amazing time.
It is also important to note that relationships come with obligations. These obligations may not be fun or your cup of tea, all you have to note is that they ought to be done. For this reason, one must always try to stand out from the crowd and do something unique that will appeal to their partner. FULL POST

Posted 2/9/16 at 1:11 AM | Daisy Grace

10 Valentine’s Day Ideas to Surprise Her

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With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, it is only normal that you are interested in surprising your special someone. As this is a celebration of love and passion, it makes sense to find a gift that symbolizes the feelings that you have for her. In case you are at a loss when it comes to picking the right gift, we have gathered ten amazing ideas for you to consider. So, take a look at the advice we have for you and, based on your knowledge of your special person, do not hesitate to select the right gift.

#1 Feelings on paper
Even though it is believed that all women would like to receive chocolates for Valentine’s Day, this is not necessarily the case. If you really want to surprise your better half, there is nothing better than getting your feelings on paper. You can use small cards and place them in an elegant box, providing one for each day of the week (or month). According to the latest lifestyle news, ladies love hearing what you are actually feeling. FULL POST

Posted 2/2/16 at 12:33 PM | Sunny Shell

'I Told You So' Isn't Always Wrong

The condensed version of, "I told you this would happen, but you wouldn't listen." is, "I told you so." It's been ingrained in me and I think, most, if not all of you, that saying "I told you so" is wrong. It's considered to be harsh, inconsiderate, unkind, jabbing; and therefore, the most unloving and graceless thing to say to anyone after they've neglected to heed wise counsel, and find themselves in an unsavory and often, painful situation.

"Call me crazy, but in the history of conversations, has the phrase 'I told you so' ever really generated a positive response? I'd say no, it has not...'I told you so' is a negative and counterproductive way of saying, 'I’m right and you’re wrong,' that does neither party any good. Even if the person in the wrong has been stubborn and refused constructive advice, that does not give another person the authority to rub their face in it... FULL POST

Posted 1/12/16 at 9:01 PM | Julie Miller

What Not to Say to an Atheist

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Spirituality comes in many forms. But, for atheists, spirituality can be a lot more complex and doesn't revolve around the traditional God or other higher power that most of us believe in. Too often people believe that atheists will "change their ways" if they're just convinced of the existence of god, and so atheists are subjected to incessant lectures by well-meaning individuals. Believe me, atheists have heard all of the arguments before—many times. That's the wrong way to interact with an atheist, whether the person is a stranger or a friend.

Unless you're actually trying to annoy an atheist (which would beg the question "why?"), read up on these examples below.

Preaching

Preaching at an atheist is pretty much like running your fingernails up and down a chalkboard. When you're preaching or proselytizing like this, you're not having a conversation. You're having a one-sided "discussion" as you try your best to change the atheist's beliefs or show them how wrong they are. It's actually kind of abusive, so stop it.

Quoting the Bible

Most religions, if not all of them, have some sort of religious text that provide structure and guidance for followers of that religion. For many of us, the Bible is close at hand or in our heads, and we have passages that guide is in our decisions and world view. But atheists don’t care about bible quotes for the simple reason that they don’t believe in a religion or God. Quoting religious text will only convince the atheist that the conversation no longer has a point. FULL POST

Posted 1/8/16 at 4:10 AM | Daisy Grace

5 Common Mistakes Men Make With Women

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Many couples have a great sex life, but unfortunately, many don’t as well. A lot of times, the reason for this stem from mistakes that the men make in the bedroom. It may be hard for some men to admit that they have weaknesses, or to ask a woman what pleases her. Here are five most common mistakes men make in bed, according to women across the globe.

1. An Unkempt Room/House
A major turnoff for women is going to a man’s crib/home and seeing it untidy or just plain dirty. The woman feels like the man was not just unprepared, but not respectful enough to want to make his home welcoming for her. It is bad enough if a house is messy but once it’s dirty, it’s almost guaranteed that there will be no coziness that night. The woman will quickly come up with an excuse to leave. The chances of that man getting another date are usually slim to none. Should go for enlargement exercises for men are very beneficial. FULL POST

Posted 1/6/16 at 7:23 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

I Had Sex With Someone That Wasn't My Wife

Eight years ago I did something I swore I’d never do. I had sex with someone who wasn’t my wife, and engaged in an act that was intended to found in the holiness of marriage. And although God’s grace is ever-present in my life, purity is something I will always regret not being able to give to my wife on our wedding night. Ever since I was a young child, my parents have always shared with me the importance of saving sex for marriage. Not because sex was a “bad” thing, but because God intended sex to be a beautiful and intimate connection between husband and wife, all under the authority of God (1 Corinthians 7:1-40).

I first learned about sex when I was in second-grade, that is after telling my father a dirty joke I had heard some older kids say at school. It had something to do with a limousine and a garage. Yeah, you get the picture. Once I finished the joke, he looked at me with a half serious/half laughing look and said, “Where did you hear that joke?” As you would imagine, I cried and ran to my room before he could get the answer out of me. Why? Because I knew the joke had an underlining meaning that I knew nothing about even though I chose to tell it. My father and I still laugh about this moment today. FULL POST

Posted 12/24/15 at 2:42 AM | Joy Mali

6 Amazing Gift Ideas for Your Husband This Christmas

Men are always difficult to buy gifts for, and when you have everyone else on your list to buy for as well, it’s no easy task choosing something that he will love! But men love receiving gifts just as much as women, and he will love it if you get him something that he never knew he wanted or needed! It sounds like a tall order, but don’t worry, we are here to help.

1. Smart watches:-

After the smartphone, which he probably already has, the smartwatch is the latest technology gadget that everyone wants. What does a smart watch have to offer? Depending on the brand and model you choose, it can do almost everything a smartphone can. It can also keep tabs on his vital statistics, such as heart rate, blood pressure, and how much walking he has done each day. If your guy is someone who needs to keep track of these things, and who likes to stay connected, this is the perfect gift. Plus, he can show it off at work—men love gadgets! FULL POST

Posted 12/18/15 at 3:33 AM | Sylvie Simms

Scoping Out the Dating Scene

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For guys who want to step up their game, or who are getting back in the dating scene after the end of a lengthy relationship, here’s the good news – the odds are in your favor. U.S. Census numbers say that there are 86 eligible males for every 100 women.

That said, you can’t just let statistics do all the work for you. Finding a partner in today's hectic world can be a challenge. Geography can be your friend, as cities like San Francisco, New York, and Washington, D.C. are great for singles, while Portland is going to be much more competitive.

Trying your hand at online dating can result in success, as 40 percent of singles now use online dating services. If you’re going to try eHarmony or Plenty of Fish, be sure to carefully edit your profile, as 48 percent of women now say they research potential dates' profiles and will bail on a date if they see something they consider a red flag.

When going on a first date, it pays to drop a compliment or two, and past travels or future vacation plans are considered a great icebreaker. Having a fat stack of cash also helps, as 88 percent of women find money to be very important in a relationship. Talk about exes, politics, and your past amorous exploits are non-starters, however, so avoid these topics. FULL POST

Posted 12/17/15 at 12:46 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Are You Settling for a Dead Sex Life?

Today I’m feeling angry. Not at you, dear readers, but at the mess that our culture has made of sex.

On Monday I wrote a post about how our church culture has made too many people dead inside–dead to the passion and creativity that God made us for, and thus dead for what real sex was supposed to be in our marriages. Yes, sex can be hot and holy at the same time, but too many of us think that to be Christian means that we must be reserved, boring, dispassionate.

That’s so wrong. No one should have a dead sex life.

And I’m angry because everyday I wake up to more and more emails and messages from people whose marriages are so messed up, usually because of wrong views of sex.

This post was originally part of the 29 Days to Great Sex series that I wrote on this blog a few years ago, and I’ve recently edited that and removed this post, so I thought it was worth rewriting it for today, because these issues are still with us. FULL POST

Posted 12/16/15 at 10:15 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Creating Christmas Traditions When You Don’t Have Kids

Can you create Christmas traditions as a couple BEFORE you have kids?

Absolutely!

Today’s Wednesday, the day when we always talk marriage here at To Love, Honor and Vacuum. And recently I received this question from a young wife:

We don’t have kids yet, and all the Christmas articles I see on Pinterest about making Christmas meaningful all have to do with children. What can we do when it’s just the two of us to start Christmas traditions or make Christmas fun?

I thought that was a great question, so I put it up on Facebook and asked my readers: Any ideas for Christmas traditions as a couple? We had a whole lot of great ideas, and today I thought I’d share 10 ways to make Christmas meaningful before you have children (or to make it meaningful even if you never have children!). FULL POST

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