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Posted 12/24/15 at 2:42 AM | Joy Mali

6 Amazing Gift Ideas for Your Husband This Christmas

Men are always difficult to buy gifts for, and when you have everyone else on your list to buy for as well, it’s no easy task choosing something that he will love! But men love receiving gifts just as much as women, and he will love it if you get him something that he never knew he wanted or needed! It sounds like a tall order, but don’t worry, we are here to help.

1. Smart watches:-

After the smartphone, which he probably already has, the smartwatch is the latest technology gadget that everyone wants. What does a smart watch have to offer? Depending on the brand and model you choose, it can do almost everything a smartphone can. It can also keep tabs on his vital statistics, such as heart rate, blood pressure, and how much walking he has done each day. If your guy is someone who needs to keep track of these things, and who likes to stay connected, this is the perfect gift. Plus, he can show it off at work—men love gadgets! FULL POST

Posted 12/18/15 at 3:33 AM | Sylvie Simms

Scoping Out the Dating Scene

For guys who want to step up their game, or who are getting back in the dating scene after the end of a lengthy relationship, here’s the good news – the odds are in your favor. U.S. Census numbers say that there are 86 eligible males for every 100 women.

That said, you can’t just let statistics do all the work for you. Finding a partner in today's hectic world can be a challenge. Geography can be your friend, as cities like San Francisco, New York, and Washington, D.C. are great for singles, while Portland is going to be much more competitive.

Trying your hand at online dating can result in success, as 40 percent of singles now use online dating services. If you’re going to try eHarmony or Plenty of Fish, be sure to carefully edit your profile, as 48 percent of women now say they research potential dates' profiles and will bail on a date if they see something they consider a red flag.

When going on a first date, it pays to drop a compliment or two, and past travels or future vacation plans are considered a great icebreaker. Having a fat stack of cash also helps, as 88 percent of women find money to be very important in a relationship. Talk about exes, politics, and your past amorous exploits are non-starters, however, so avoid these topics. FULL POST

Posted 12/17/15 at 12:46 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Are You Settling for a Dead Sex Life?

Today I’m feeling angry. Not at you, dear readers, but at the mess that our culture has made of sex.

On Monday I wrote a post about how our church culture has made too many people dead inside–dead to the passion and creativity that God made us for, and thus dead for what real sex was supposed to be in our marriages. Yes, sex can be hot and holy at the same time, but too many of us think that to be Christian means that we must be reserved, boring, dispassionate.

That’s so wrong. No one should have a dead sex life.

And I’m angry because everyday I wake up to more and more emails and messages from people whose marriages are so messed up, usually because of wrong views of sex.

This post was originally part of the 29 Days to Great Sex series that I wrote on this blog a few years ago, and I’ve recently edited that and removed this post, so I thought it was worth rewriting it for today, because these issues are still with us. FULL POST

Posted 12/16/15 at 10:15 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Creating Christmas Traditions When You Don’t Have Kids

Can you create Christmas traditions as a couple BEFORE you have kids?


Today’s Wednesday, the day when we always talk marriage here at To Love, Honor and Vacuum. And recently I received this question from a young wife:

We don’t have kids yet, and all the Christmas articles I see on Pinterest about making Christmas meaningful all have to do with children. What can we do when it’s just the two of us to start Christmas traditions or make Christmas fun?

I thought that was a great question, so I put it up on Facebook and asked my readers: Any ideas for Christmas traditions as a couple? We had a whole lot of great ideas, and today I thought I’d share 10 ways to make Christmas meaningful before you have children (or to make it meaningful even if you never have children!). FULL POST

Posted 12/8/15 at 11:09 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Do I Have To Live with a Sexless Marriage?

How are you supposed to live in a sexless marriage?

I like to post a Reader Question and take a stab at answering it. Today’s is from a woman whose husband has given up on sex altogether.

My husband has gone to the doctor and tells me it’s because of his age that he is having “erectile dysfunction” (he is only 41)…when I bring things up he gets very mad and says that I am obsessed with sex. It makes me feel so undesired. Our last conversation he said that he was sick of hearing me. Granted, I do bring it up every few months because I think maybe we can try. If he tried it would mean the world to me. I feel like since he doesn’t try, not even with kissing, that maybe I should just give up. I am so frustrated, I have been so patient and understanding not to overstep boundaries, but really!? I didn’t get married to live with a roommate, he is my husband and I love him but I feel alone. I wish he was willing to talk about things, to maybe seek counselling, but that is not the case. He is so focused on work and money and not us. FULL POST

Posted 12/8/15 at 2:06 AM | selwyn perry


Passion is like a forest fire,
Roaring through the forest floor,
Flames leaping high and higher,
Devouring all that was before.

But love is like a gentle breeze,
Caressing forest leaves and trees
And like a hidden stream
Watering everything.

Passion is spent by its own excess,
Leaves only charred remains;
No more heat, no more flames,
Breathless, no more air, no more care.

But loves gentle breeze
Leaves everything the same,
Unspoiled, unscorched, unspent,
Undetered to breathe loves air again.

Passion is like strained tea leaves,
In a sieve weak, tasteless, spent,
Or like a cigarette, puffed and blown,
Gone, to ashes went

Posted 12/4/15 at 8:37 PM | Julie Miller

A Simple Guide to Dating Outside Your Faith

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When religion plays a significant part in your daily life, it may seem that your only option when it comes to dating is to choose someone who shares the same spiritual outlook. Sometimes, though, it can be difficult to find that special someone in your religious circle. If you meet someone from a different religion and find yourself interested in dating them, there are several simple steps you can take to bridge the differences between your faith and theirs and build a meaningful relationship that encompasses both of your religious points of view.

Avoid Assumptions

No matter what you've heard about the religion of the person you're dating, take time to seek out the truth. When it comes to religion, fallacies abound. You may have been misinformed about certain aspects of another religion and end up looking foolish when you reveal those wrong perceptions. Pick up a book that covers the basics of the religion, visit the official website of the organization and study its tenets or make an appointment with a religious leader from that faith so you can clarify your understanding of it. Gather facts, not fiction, when you learn about the faith and avoid accepting stereotypes that may or may not be true. FULL POST

Posted 12/4/15 at 1:20 PM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Why Do We Think We Can Change Bad Boys?

Sheila’s Marriage Moment: Let’s Stop Trying to Change Bad Boys!

Every Friday I like to write a quick, 400-word inspirational marriage thought. Here’s this week’s on our propensity to want to change our husbands–to change bad boys.

The other night I was home alone, bored, so I checked Netflix to see if there were any good movies.

It told me I’d give The Rewrite with Hugh Grant and Marisa Tomei four stars, so I clicked play.

Fifteen minutes later I turned it off.

Basically, Hugh Grant’s character was a pig. He used women, he was shallow and selfish, and he had no redeeming virtues. But you know the way the story was going: he’d meet Marisa Tomei, and she’d be so amazing and so what-he’s-always-needed-but-never-found and he would change.

Why is that the plot of most love stories?

Why are we so drawn to the idea that our love will be enough to make a bad boy good?

God’s love is enough to make a bad boy good, but a woman’s love isn’t. And too many of us get married thinking that we can “fix” our husbands.
Christian romance novels are awfully guilty of spreading that, too. FULL POST

Posted 12/3/15 at 8:56 AM | Christian Post Guest Voices

Can Sex Be Hot and Holy at the Same Time?

Can sex be hot and holy at the same time?

Every Monday I like to post a reader question and take a stab at answering it, and this week’s is all about our attitudes towards sex–and what we think God thinks about sex.

I received this really fascinating question earlier this year:

I need your help to correct my thinking patterns! I have been doing your 31 Days book and have been reaping benefits already. I am trying very hard to embrace my sexuality and learn that it is good to receive pleasure from my husband. But then, God brought some scripture to mind that seems to…not contradict…but I don’t understand how to embrace my sexuality, while still be this meek and quiet woman of God. FULL POST

Posted 12/2/15 at 1:31 PM | Karen Farris

Tebow and Culpo Breakup over Sex

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When a sexually abstinent young man and 2012 Miss USA Olivia Culpo connect for a chaste relationship, how long will it last? Not long. Tebow professed his love in the old-fashioned way—writing long love letters and sending special notes. After a couple months, Miss Culpo decided it was enough.

Having just exited a serious relationship with Nick Jonas, Culpo seemed to reject the notion of the "waiting for sex" ideology. Tebow remains adamant that marriage is where sex belongs, but not enjoying the sexual part of their relationship (after two months) wasn’t ideal for her. The rumor mills are grinding out all sorts of half-truths about Tebow and Culpo. But the reality is this: God's truth is always right. It was His idea that sex belonged within the boundaries of marriage.

In a culture that now readily accepts immediate sexual hook-ups, random sexual relationships, and instant gratification, Tim Tebow stands out. If Miss USA rejects his love it just means that God has someone else in mind. Keep looking Tim, she’s waiting too.

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