Wife of Joel Osteen, co-pastor of Lakewood Church, author and inspirational speaker.
Posted 10/10/14 at 9:51 AM | Victoria Osteen
When people hear how long Joel and I have been married, they often ask, "How do you do it? What's your secret? Do you ever fight?" Well, Joel and I are as human as any other couple, but early in our relationship, we made some decisions about how we would treat each other and how we would respond to one another.
First of all, Joel and I choose to respect one another. We value each other's thoughts and opinions, and we make sure to listen and consider what the other has to say. We don't always agree on everything, but we do agree that we want peace in our home. Sometimes that means we have to simply agree to disagree. In other words, we can still respect and love each other even when we don't see eye to eye.
Another decision we made early in our relationship is to support one another. We recognize that we are a team, and whatever we decide to do, we do it together. Anytime we had a financial goal, we both did our part to save money. If we were remodeling a house, I was right there with him laying sod in the yard. When we were building our home, I was there every day to meet the subcontractors and help keep us on schedule. When Joel became pastor of the church, I did my part in the service as well. FULL POST
Posted 10/7/14 at 11:35 AM | Victoria Osteen
Every week during the Lakewood service, we have a time of prayer. Members and visitors can pray one-on-one with one of the 500 volunteer prayer partners. Both Joel and I are prayer partners, and each of us will usually pray for two or three people during this portion of each service.
I remember one particular Saturday night service when a woman came up to me and asked that I pray for her marriage. She was about 50 years old, and she began to tell me that that her husband had always been so hard to live with, but even more so lately. She recited two or three of his most current offenses, and then to my surprise, she handed me three sheets of notebook paper. She said, "Here, read this. It is a list of the things he has done just in the last two weeks." I opened the pages to see listed one offense after the other scribbled in various colors of ink and pencil. "He's done all this in just two weeks?" I asked.
"Yes," she said. "I didn't think anyone would believe me, so I have been writing them down." FULL POST
Posted 10/6/14 at 12:08 PM | Victoria Osteen
When I was a little girl, our family loved to go to the beach. We'd pack up all of our beach gear and load up the cooler with snacks, drinks and treats we didn't normally have. We'd pull out our beach towels, blankets and a giant red, sun umbrella. It was always so much fun, and I couldn't wait to get in the water when we arrived. One afternoon, I was having so much fun playing in the water. I'd jump the waves for a little bit, then swim out a little ways and float back to shore. After a while, I looked up and didn't see my mom on the beach. I didn't see our beach towels, blanket, cooler or our bright red, sun umbrella. In fact, as I looked around, nothing looked familiar. I was in a completely different part of the beach. I was having so much fun that I didn't realize the under current was causing me to drift, and I was about 100 feet from where I started. I instantly walked up to the shore and back to where my mom was. Boy, was she glad to see me! I learned my lesson to always keep my eye on that red umbrella! It became my personal beach marker to help me make sure I avoided the drift!
Sometimes the same thing happens in life. We get busy and focused on what we are doing, and then we look up and realize we are far away from where we are supposed to be. Maybe your relationships are suffering. Maybe you feel distanced from God. Maybe your finances are off course, and you're just not sure what happened. The good news is that God has a marker for us to gauge where we are. His Word is like that big red umbrella was for me. It helps us see how far we are and gives us a target to work toward. FULL POST
Posted 9/30/14 at 8:48 AM | Victoria Osteen
When was the last time you just sat down and thought about the goodness and faithfulness of God? So often, we intend to start our days in the right direction, but then distractions come and the cares of this world creep into our thoughts. Before we know it, we are so focused on our "to do" lists and trying to stay ahead of the game that our thoughts get completely off course!
One thing you have to always be aware of is the fact that what you dwell on will set the direction and quality of your life. If you are constantly dwelling on the "what if's" in life, it opens the door to worry and anxiety. It creates a heaviness in your mind and heart. But when you dwell on His goodness and faithfulness, it opens the door to His supernatural peace and grace. It lifts your spirit and lightens your load.
Today, I want to remind you to stop and think about what you are thinking about. Don't just let your mind wander off in any old direction. Be intentional about dwelling on the Father. Never forget that He is with you and for you. Never forget that He is good and His love never fails. Never forget His promise to prosper you and not to harm you. FULL POST
Posted 9/26/14 at 11:08 AM | Victoria Osteen
In the New Testament, there's a story about a woman who was caught in the act of adultery. The religious leaders of the time had already condemned her in their minds, and the law said that she should be stoned. Out of curiosity, they brought her to Jesus to see what He would do, and Jesus surprised them all with His response to the situation.
Instead of condemning the woman, Jesus showed love and compassion to her. In fact, He turned the whole situation around when He said to the crowd, "Whoever is without sin, throw the first stone." (See John 8:1–11). Then it says that the woman's accusers walked away one by one.
Jesus turned to the woman and asked, "Where are your accusers? Does anyone condemn you now?" She answered, "No one, Lord." Then Jesus said something very profound, something that gives us insight into His heart for us. He said, "Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more." God was in essence saying, "I don't put My stamp of approval on condemnation. That's not what I'm about. I came to set you free." FULL POST
Posted 9/23/14 at 4:42 PM | Victoria Osteen
Every single person has 24 hours in their day, 7 days in their week. We've all been given the same time, but it's what we do with that time that makes our life. Oftentimes, people have so much going on that they aren't able to get going forward. They stay stuck in busyness instead of making progress toward their goals and dreams.
The best way to get off of the treadmill, so to speak, and get moving forward again is to start the day by sowing a seed of time. When you sow a seed of time, when you invest that time by spending it with the Timeless One, you'll find order in your days and have what you need to accomplish whatever it is that you need to accomplish.
Spending time with God doesn't have to be boring and mundane. In fact, when you start experiencing His presence and sense Him speaking to your heart, it will become your favorite part of the day! We were created for fellowship and to fellowship with our heavenly Father. FULL POST
Posted 9/18/14 at 10:24 AM | Victoria Osteen
I have this plant in my yard called a Bougainvillea. When I first got it, I put it in a pot and set it in the flower bed so that it could be watered with the rest of the plants when the sprinklers came on.
One day I looked out, and it was blooming beautifully! The Bougainvillea is a bushy type of plant with gorgeous pink flowers all over it. I decided to move the pot to our back porch so that I could see it better and enjoy the blooms. I walked outside and gave the pot a good tug, but it didn't budge. Now that surprised me because it wasn't that big. I tried harder to lift it, but I still couldn't move it. Then I realized what had happened. The roots had broken through the pot and grown down deeply into the flower bed. That pot wasn't going anywhere!
That moment reminded me of a scripture. The apostle Paul said in Ephesians 3, "I pray that you be rooted and grounded in love." God wants us to be like that pot. He wants our roots to go down so deep that nothing can move us! Not criticism nor trials nor fears. No matter what the storms of life bring, we can stand strong just like that pot when our roots are strong. FULL POST
Posted 9/12/14 at 9:51 AM | Victoria Osteen
One of the best strategies of a great coach is to get his team thinking in the right direction. A great coach builds his team up and helps them believe in themselves. When his team goes out on the field, it’s not only about their ability; it’s about their attitude, mindset and internal dialogue. They will do their best when they go out feeling like winners.
In the same way, you should go out every day feeling like a winner. You’ll do best in life when you have a champion’s attitude because of what you believe about yourself. Stay in the habit of speaking positive, faith-filled words over your life because a healthy self-image is one of the greatest assets you can have. It will not only cause you to rise higher, it will inspire others around you to live at their best, too.
Your life is so important that you can’t afford to live with a negative and defeated mindset. The way you live your life matters! It’s like tossing a stone into a pond that sends ripples across the water—your life “ripples out” and has influence on those around you. You may not think you have that much impact, but your life sets an example. Whether you realize it or not, you are influencing the people in your life even in the most subtle ways. Remember, influence is the power to produce an effect without an apparent exertion. In other words, just by living your life, you are producing an effect. FULL POST
Posted 9/10/14 at 10:49 AM | Victoria Osteen
One of the greatest needs we all have is to feel a sense of self-worth. Deep down, we need to know that we’re important and that our lives matter. We want to know that we have something great to offer.
So often, people base their self-worth on things that don't last—looks, achievements and possessions. They feel important if they drive the fastest car or own the latest gadget. The problem is that those things can change. When you base your self-worth on temporary things that can change, then your self-worth will change.
Some people find their value in other people. However, if you find your value in how others make you feel and they hurt you or disappoint you, very likely you’ll turn it on yourself and think, “There must be something wrong with me.” No, the only problem is that you’re getting your self-worth from the wrong places. FULL POST
Posted 9/5/14 at 4:16 PM | Victoria Osteen
Sometimes we are presented with opportunities that look small, insignificant, or even ordinary. Perhaps you don’t see how something fits into the big picture of your life. However, if God is presenting you with something, He has a purpose for it. He has a plan to use it in your life to increase you and promote you to larger responsibilities.
For many years, Joel’s father had a hair stylist who would help him make sure he looked his best before he ministered. One day, she announced that she and her husband were moving and she wouldn’t be able to do that job anymore. I happened to be standing there when she announced her resignation, and Joel’s father immediately turned to me and asked if I would take her place. Now I wasn’t a hairdresser. I didn’t go to cosmetology school. My first thought was, If you’re bold enough to trust me, I’m bold enough to do it. It’s your hair! FULL POST