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We Need More

Sun, Jul. 26, 2015 Posted: 01:19 AM


WE NEED MORE

My hope is, that anyone reading this, won't read it as if reading a menu and just glance through it but will truly read it and allow it to effect change in their life.

"I believe in order that I may understand." I heard that line and the more I thought about it on a spiritual level the more I realized how dimensional it was. Not being limited to just belief with regard to understanding Christ but also with regard to being compassionate to others. This belief isn't the modern day interpretation of it where by people say "Yeah I believe in .......... " That is more acknowledgement of something than anything else and doesn't compel. The belief I am talking about is all encompassing and couples acknowledgement with action. Belief in Christ allows me to experience what it means to place my life in him. Accepting, by Faith, I am able to experience and once I experience, I know. That knowledge compels me to act. This compassion through belief opens me up to understanding myself and others more. The ability to understand my significant other and us is as a direct result of that belief in GOD. That willingness to place my faith in God affirms the confidence in our future.

By ourselves neither of us is good enough for the other to be in a stable fulfilling relationship. Through God though we are. Through God I know how I am supposed to deal with situations and persons in life. Through God I am able to deal with the difficulties we encounter as a couple because I am able to think more and react less. Who I was, didn't allow me to be in the type of relationship that I wanted. Who I am now is far better equipped but still not there yet and is why I am constantly allowing myself to change to become better, not for my significant other but because of them. I am able to see now where my short comings are and where I need to work on. Allowing myself to change for them only makes me feel like it's not genuine and it's for someone and leads to only temporary fulfillment. All that changes once things aren't so great, and feels like more of a character change leaving a sense of being compromised. But by allowing myself to change because of them, makes me realize that by myself I am limited and so I need to become better to understand, relate and empathize. I allow myself to change for me, because I see the need to in order for me to grow in all aspects. I am also made aware of my short comings when I read;
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. (Colossians 3:12-14 NIV)

The saying “That's just who I am” as simple as it is, is in it itself a limitation or ceiling we put on ourselves thereby hindering our ability to change. Thinking it is bad enough, but saying it just puts it out there and makes it that much more real. Who we are is constantly changing. That constant change once it's for a better is a good thing. Who I was last year compared to now is not the same person. By saying and insisting “That's just who you are and that's just who I am” is a cop out thereby allowing you to stay the same and use the excuse of it being 'my personality' or 'me'. A personality isn't etched into your DNA so don't bind it to you. It's no more apart of you than a bad habit. Strive to be more compassionate, kinder, humbler, gentler, more patient and most importantly more LOVING than you were last week. Could that be so wrong to be more than what you were?

It's funny how when things are going great in a relationship the thought of being single and how 'great' it was doesn't cross your mind but once the ups and downs start to occur all of a sudden the good times of being single come rolling on in and you never quite remember what it was that made you leave it in the first place. The fact is, for many if being single was all that fulfilling you wouldn't have left it in the first place. You left it because you felt that deep connection with someone that gave that additional sense of contentment. You left because you realized that the high points in a relationship trump the high points of when you were single. This may sound strange but there are only two things that are perfect. Yes wrap your my mind around it, two things. GOD & LOVE. If LOVE encompasses everything mentioned in Colossians and we are called to love one another that way how much more are you going to be compelled to exhibit that LOVE and more toward your wife. Marriage was designed by GOD for a husband and wife to learn and grow with and from each other. That union was designed to embody and emulate the LOVE CHRIST has for us by continuing to love us despite our short comings. Keeping GOD at the reins in our relationship ensures we don't lose focus because with us both focused on that perfect being where can we go that he doesn't ordain.

I heard this recently "If the grass looks greener on the other side -water your lawn." It's as simple as that. What you focus on is what you develop. So if you want that lush green meadow in your relationship whether that relationship is with GOD or your significant other never stop watering your lawn especially in the lows. I'll leave you with the following verses.

On the last day of the feast, the great day, Jesus stood up and cried out, “If anyone thirsts, let him come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, ‘Out of his heart will flow rivers of living water.’” Now this he said about the Spirit, whom those who believed in him were to receive....... (John 7:37-39 ESV)

By: Me (Kiel Khan)
GOD INSPIRED

Kiel Khan